Ndiyabuza ukuba intombazana enokuthobeka ingakwazi ukuvuleka kwaye ihlalisane okanye iya kuhlala ibonwa njengomntu ozolileyo? Ukuba unamahloni kwaye ukhuselekile kwaye ucinga nje ngawo, ufuna ukuhlala unomdla, unomdla kwaye unonwabo, uyazi - unokwenza. Nangona ekuqaleni akuyi kuba lula ukutshintsha iimpawu zakho nokuziphatha.
Yintoni oyifunayo ukwenza oku?
Okokuqala - ukuqonda oko kukuthintela ukuba ukhululeke kwaye ube nolonwabo kunye nendlela oqhele ngayo ukujongana nayo. Kungenzeka ukuba unomhlobo onokuziva ukhululekile kwaye uthetha kalula ngantoni na. Kodwa apha ukunxibelelana nabantu abangaqhelekanga okanye abangavaliyo kubangela ukungakhathali, iintloni okanye ukwesaba. Uyenza ntoni kwiimeko ezinjalo? Kuphephe ukunxibelelana? Zibophe ngokuzithiba kwaye uhlale ucebile, phantse ungathethi nto?
Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, awuyi kuphinda unqobe unomdla kunye nokuzihlukanisa. Kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuthetha, kwaye ukuziphatha okukhululekile kunye nemvelo akuyi kuvela ngokwayo nangaphezu kwexesha.
Ngako-ke, kukho enye indlela yokwenza intlalontle - ukuba ungayishiyi incoko, baninzi baninzi, kodwa qalisa ukuxoxa nabanye abo ubona imihla ngemihla, kodwa ungatsho nto. Yenza kuphela okulungileyo.
Indlela yokufunda ukuba nentlalontle?
1. Qeqesha ekhaya. Cinga ukuba ulungiselela ukuthetha. Lungiselela amabinzana ambalwa ongayenza incoko. Cinga ngezinto onokuzibuza umntu oza kumnxibelelana naye. Yitsho yonke into ngegama elihle, elimnandi, ubukele ilizwi lakhe kunye namandla. Ekhaya "izifundo" ziya kukunceda kwaye uza kuthetha yonke into oyithandayo, ngakumbi ngokuzithemba nangokuzithoba.
Kukunceda kunye namahlaya, amabali amahle okanye iingcaphuno. Bakhumbule ngokukhethekileyo uze ubangenise kwingxoxo ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Ukuqokelela kwi "piggy bank" yakho yonke into ebenomdla okanye yenza ukuba uhlekise - kufana nabanye abantu.
Smile. Ngaba uyazi ukuba abaninzi banamava anzima, njengawe? Kwaye abanokwazi ukuba bafanele baziphathe njani. Yaye ububele bakho kunye nentlungu iya kubaxhasa kwaye bancede ukujamelana neentloni.
3. Gwema iincwadana ze-monosyllabic. Ukuphendula imibuzo eqhelekileyo - "Uphi na?" Okanye "Hayi, yintoni into entsha?" - zama ukuba ungathethi "Oqhelekileyo" kunye "Njalo njengaye rhoqo". Akukho nto enje into yokuba akukho nto entsha eyenzekayo ebomini bakho! Sitshele ngendlela owenze ngayo okanye ongazange wenze umsebenzi wakho wesikolo, ukuvavanya okanye ukungabonakali, oko ububukele kwiTV okanye ufumane kwi-Intanethi. Zibuze: yayingathini loo mini, ziziphi izicwangciso zakho ngomso, lowo umhlobo wakho okanye intombi yakho yadibana nabantu abaqhelekileyo.
4. Ukwazi ukuphulaphula nokuvalela. Ukuhlalisana akuthethi nje ukuthetha; apho kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba ufunde ukunyamekela nokukhathalela abaxhamli be-interlocutors! Abahlobo bethu bayayixabisa ukuthabatha inxaxheba nokuqonda, uvelwano nomoya onobubele! Bonisa umdla, phulaphula, wongeze kuwe: "Enyanisweni? Yiloo nto! "," Ngokwenene? Ngaba utsho wena ngokwakho? "Okanye" Oku kuhle! "," Khangela! ". Yiba yinyani ukuba iimpendulo zakho ziyinyaniso, kuya kubonakala.
5. Thetha! Yiba intombazana enentlalontle-ithetha ukuthetha, ngokukhawuleza xa unalo thuba. Kufana nokufunda olunye ulwimi - ukuba uyeka ukuthetha kuyo, ngoko ulahlekelwa buchule.
Okokuqala, uya kuba nobunzima obungaphakathi, ngoko uhlaziywe yedwa "loluntu ngaphandle". Kodwa ngomzamo ngamnye omtsha uza kuba nokuthetha ngokubanzi.
Mane uyeke ukwesaba abanye abantu, nabo abaphelelanga, nje ngokuba neentloni kunye nokukhathazeka. Baye kuphela abanokwazi ukuba balahle oko, kodwa uyazi!