Indlela yokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nomntwana?

Kukho uninzi lweencwadi kwi-psychology yabantwana kunye nokukhuliswa kwazo. Zonke ziyazinomdla kwaye zifundisa. Musa ukulibala malunga nomgaqo wegolide womzali ngamnye, othi: "Akudingeki ukuba ukhuphe, kufuneka ubeke umzekelo omhle . " Kodwa kunjalo, wonke umama kunye nobawo, ezama ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nomntwana, ngokuqhelekileyo unyathelo elifanayo.

Kodwa ekusebenzeni konke into elula. Kuphela kufuneka ukhumbule imithetho embalwa, kwaye musa ukukhumbula nje, kodwa landela. Kwaye ke ingxaki yokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nanoma yimuphi umntwana-kunye naye kunye nomfokazi, ummkeli owamkelekileyo akayi kuba. Makhe sifunde imigaqo ephambili apho ukuthetha kwethu kunye nesizukulwana esincinane kufuneka sakhelwe.

Indlela yokudibanisa nabantwana?

Indlela ethile yinto ngaphandle kwayo yonke into elandelayo iya kulahlekelwa intsingiselo yayo. Nangona umntwana ekhula kwaye ekhula, uya kufunda ngokukodwa ubunjani kunye neempawu zawo, kwaye kuxhomekeke kuzo uza kusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zemfundo. Omnye uthobela kuphela "i-whip", umntu ufuna kwaye "isanqante" - ngaphambi kokukhupha, ukwazi ubuntu bomntwana wakho ngokusemandleni akho.

Hlonipha uluvo lomntwana wakho. Makube kakubi, ngokuchasene nemithetho yendalo kunye noluntu-kusekunelungelo lokuba khona. Kwaye ukubonakalisa ukufaneleka kwabo kufuneka, njengoko kukhankanywe ngasentla, ngumzekelo wabo, kwaye ungagxininisi umntwana kunye negunya layo. Ukunyamezela nokunyamezela umntwana akuthinteli, nokuba yinkwenkwe. Nika abantwana uthando lwabo, kwaye baya kukuphendula ngokukhawuleza nangokuthobela.

Kodwa umntwana ongathobeliyo akabi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukuba umntwana wakho uziphatha kakubi, ulungele ijehliso uze ucinge: mhlawumbi iindlela zakho zokukhulisa zide zide? Emva kokuba umntwana ekhula, ukuguqulwa kwehlabathi kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe kutshintsha, ufuna inkululeko eninzi kunye nezithintelo ezimbalwa. Ukunciphisa inani leengxabano, yenza inkqubo yezemfundo iguquke ngakumbi.

Njengoko uyazi, kukho iindlela ezigunyazayo nezithembekileyo zokukhuliswa. Kwimeko yokuqala, inhlonipho kubazali (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukwesaba) iba ngumgqugquzeli oyintloko wokuthobela, okwesibini, yonke into iyagqitywa yi-trust and compromise. Khetha isitayela esiseduze kuwe, okanye udibanise.

Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, kunzima kunzima ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nabantwana abadala kunomntwana omncinane. Xa beselula, bahlala kude nathi, kwaye iiyunithi kuphela zikwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obufudumele nabazali babo. Kwaye omdala umntwana uba, kunzima ngakumbi ukuba samkele ukuzimela kwaye "mvumele aye" ebomini bakhe. Kwaye kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku - lungele oku.

Abantwana abancinci, kunye nabantwana bomfazi okanye umyeni kumtshato wokuqala - bafana neyakho. Kwaye ukuze ufumane indlela kubo, ufuna nje umonde omncinci kwaye uqonde.