Emva kokuba isazi sengqondo safika kumfazi waza wabuza umbuzo:
- Ndixelele, ukususela nini kufuneka uqale ukukhulisa umntwana?
"Uneminyaka emingaphi ngoku?" Ubuzwa isazi sezengqondo.
- 2,5 iminyaka.
- Ngoko, uneminyaka engama-2.5 ngokukhawuleza.
Ibali elifutshane, kodwa elifundisa kakhulu linxulumene nalo lonke unina. Abazali bethu ukususela ekuzalweni kwethu kuphupha ukusizalisa ngobuntu. Kwaye ngoku, thina, kuba ngabazali, sibonakalise, njani ukuvelisa umntwana omhle?
Akukho mithetho emanyeneyo kwimfundo. Kuzo zonke iintlanga, inkcubeko, uluntu lwasekhaya kunye nentsapho enye, kukho izithethe zokukhulelwa, ezingaphendulwanga rhoqo kwaye zithunyelwa kwisizukulwana. Ngamanye amazwi, ukukhuliswa okutyalomali kuthi kunye nemiphumo yendlela aba-grand-mother-grand-grands and grandfathers bakhuliswa ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, oomama banamhlanje bajonge phambili iindlela zokuphucula umba wemfundo kumntwana wobuntu obomeleleyo nozimeleyo. Kule nkalo, umbuzo wendlela yokukhulisa umntwana ngokuchanekileyo ufuna ukuba ucinge ngenyameko.
Akunako ukuvelisa abantwana?
Masiqale ngeemizekelo emibi. Ngelishwa, zonke izizukulwana zabazali zenza iimpazamo, zizama ukukhulisa isizukulwana esitsha ngomzekelo wazo. Masihlalutye le mpazamo ukuze bangaze bazinikele.
Unokukhuphula njani abantwana?
- Khumbula - umntwana wakho, lo ngumntu oyedwa. Ungalindelanga ukuba uya kufana nawe, kwaye ungayifuni kuye. Iimfuneko zemizekelo yokuba abazali abangazange baqaphele izicwangciso zabo zobomi babonakalise iinjongo zabantwana babo.
- Musa ukuthatha ukukhathala, ukucaphuka nokucaphukisa umntwana wakho. Ngenxa yoko, unobungozi bokufumana uxinzelelo, ukungaqiniseki nokungazaliseki ebomini.
- Musa ukuhleka ukwesaba komntwana wakho kwaye ungamthuki. Phakade ukhohlwe amabinzana afana: "Ukuba uziphatha kakubi, ndiya kukunika loo malume." Yintoni umntu omdala obonakala ehlaselayo kumntwana yintlekele yangempela. Ukuze ungakhulisi i-neurasthenic kwikhaya lakho, fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba angesabi kwaye akwazi ukulwa noyiko.
- Musa ukumnqabela umntwana ukuba enze oko akuthandayo. Makube ngumyili, umjikelezo womatshini omncinci, okanye into engangqinelaniyo neengcamango zakho malunga nokuba umntwana wakho ufanele abe njani. Ungakulibali ukuba ungumntu ohlukeneyo onomdla wakhe, kwaye awunalo ilungelo lokumisela imigaqo yakhe.
- Musa ukugxeka. Ukuba endaweni yokuxhasa nokomeleza inkolelo kuwe, uya kuba sezintini zokuphatha ukugxeka komntwana nokungazineliseki, ngenxa yoko, unobungozi bokufumana ubunzima obuphantsi kwezinto ezincinci.
Kwesihloko esithi "ngokungenakudingeka" kukho imizekelo emininzi. Kwaye kungcono ukuba awuze ufumane le mizekelo. Kubaluleke kakhulu kumanqanaba okuqala okuphuhliswa komntwana wakho ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokukhulisa umntwana ngaphandle kwesijeziso aze amenze umntu wangempela?
Indlela yokufundisa umntu kumntwana?
Ukubunjwa komntu womntu yinkqubo ende, inokutshintshwa de kube ngumntu oneminyaka engama-23 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, isiseko semfundo yonke senziwa iminyaka emine. Njengomthetho, yonke into owawukwazi ukutshala imali kumntwana wakho ngaphambi kweminyaka emine, ngenxa yoko, ifikelele kwiminyaka yobudala.
Ukubonelela abantwana bakho ngempilo yengqondo, kufuneka ufezekise ngokupheleleyo imfuno yabantwana yokudlala nabantu abadala:
- Ngabantwana abaphuma kunyaka ukuya kwi-1.5, ngaba imidlalo yokudlala (i-rattles, iitys, i-matryoshkas, imidlalo kunye nefosholo kwi-sandbox).
- Ngexesha eliphakathi kwe-1.5 ukuya kwe-3 leminyaka, imidlalo yendima iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ngakumbi (ukubeka idonsa ukulala, ukondla unina, njl.).
- Abantwana abaneminyaka engama-3 ubudala nangaphezulu baya kwamkela umdlalo wembali yamabali (ukudlala esibhedlele, ukuthenga, ukuvakashela amathoyizi, njl.).
Indima enkulu ekukhuliseni ngokufanelekileyo abantwana idlalwa ngqeqesho. Apha uya kuncedwa ngolwazi lokukhulisa umntwana ngaphandle kokumemeza:
- ukufikelela kwiminyaka emibini ubudala abantwana abasayiqondi intsingiselo yezenzo zabo. Ngokungathobeli, baya kukwazi ihlabathi. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na isohlwayo, kuquka ukukrazula, okanye ukubetha, kungekuphela kuphela kuza kuvelisa iziqhamo, kodwa kuya kubangele ukuphuhliswa kobugwenxa kunye nobubi kumntwana;
- kwenzeka ukuba abazali bayaphikisana kwizenzo zabo. Ngenye imini banemimoya embi kwaye umntwana wehla ngenxa yecala elincinci, kwaye ngosuku olulandelayo, ngesimo esihle, abantu abaninzi abaqapheli isenzo esifanayo. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana akakwazi ukuqonda ukuba kwizenzo zakhe zilungile kwaye zimbi;
- ungaze uzibeke ngaphezu komntwana wakho. Usenako okwaneleyo ootitshala abanoyikrakra ukudibana naye ebomini bakhe. Umsebenzi wakho kukubonisa ukuba ungumhlobo wakhe kunye naye. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthembele ngokuqinisekileyo, ngoko ufanele uhloniphe ngokuzenzekelayo, a baninzi abazama ukuvelisa ukukhala kunye nezohlwayo;
- ukuba afunde ukumemeza umntwana, kubalulekile ukugcina isamba esikhulu somonde. Khumbula - ukuba umntwana wenze isigwebo, musa ukumemeza kwaye ungasilanga. Kungcono ukuthetha naye, fumana izizathu zezenzo, kwaye uchaze ukuba kutheni kungekho mfuneko. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantwana benza iziphene ezahlukahlukeneyo kuphela ukutsala ingqalelo yabazali babo.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, eyona nto ibalulekileyo, indlela yokukhulisa umntwana kakuhle - imihla ngemihla ikhuthaze ukholo lwakho kubantwana. Ufuna inkxaso yakho yonke imizuzu yobomi bakhe. Khumbula amabinzana: "Ndiyakholwa kuwe", "Ndiyaziqhenya ngawe", "Unako", kwaye emva koko, ukuva kubo bebathandekayo nabathandekayo, umntwana wakho uya kukhula, akwazi ukuzithemba nomntu oshukumisayo.