Ukukhula, abantwana bafumana amava kunye namava amaninzi ahlukeneyo kwamava. Kwaye kwanoo mvakalelo obonakala ekhulile, njengomona, udla ngokubonakalayo kubantwana.
Ubomi bomntwana uneminyaka engama-7 ukuya kwe-8 ubudala, de kube yinto eqhelanisiweyo kwisikolo esihlangeneyo, idlula kwintsapho kwaye ihambelana nayo. Usapho kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngako oko, umona wabantwana uvela ikakhulu ngokumalunga namalungu omtshato osondeleyo kwintsapho yabo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuya kumama. Kule meko, inkwenkwe inokuba nomona kumntakwabo (udade), kumntakwabo okanye uyise.
Kutheni kukho umona phakathi kwabantwana kwintsapho, yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana enomona nokuba ingaba nokuphepha - khangela iimpendulo zemibuzo yakho kweli nqaku!
Ukukhweleka komntwana omdala kwiintsana
Xa umntwana evela kwintsapho, umama uyaqala ukunika ingqwalasela engakumbi. I-crumb ayihlali ingalindelanga ngomzuzu: kufuneka idliwe, ihlambuluke, ihambe kwaye idlale nayo. Oku akunakukwazi ukuphawula umntwana omdala, kuba ngaphambili kwangaphambili umama wayichitha kunye naye. Kunengqiqo kwaye yendalo ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela ingqalelo yomntu obaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe, enze konke okusemandleni oku. Ngaphezu koko, umntwana omdala unokuba nombono wokuthi unina akasamthandi, ukuba unobungozi okanye into ephosakeleyo, yingakho abazali bakhe baqala intsha, engcono, neyayinyanisekileyo. Ukususela kumbono womntu omdala, le ngcamango ayinangqiqo, kodwa umntwana unengqondo yakhe, kwaye unokukwazi ukuziqinisekisa, ukukhathazeka.
Ukongezelela, abazali bahlala bekhanga abantakwabo abadala ukuba bancede banakekele umntwana. Ngokomgaqo, le ndlela iyindlela efanelekileyo, kodwa apha kukho imiba ethile. Yinto enye xa umntwana enikezelwa ngesihloko esihloniphekileyo esithi "umzalwana omkhulu (udade)" kwaye ucele ngokukhawuleza uncedo (unike i-slide okanye i-diaper ecocekileyo, udlale kunye nosana, njl.), Kwaye unelungelo lokulila. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo xa abazali befuna kuye le ncedo ngenxa yokuba yena ngumdala kwaye unyanzelekile ukuba ancede. Iimeko ezinjalo zingakhokelela umntwana ngokulinganisela kwengqondo, kuba yena ngokwakhe useyingane, kwaye akaqondi isizathu sokuba ayenze. Kule nto, umntwana omdala unomona ngakumbi kuncinci.
Indlela yokunciphisa umona phakathi kwabantwana?
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umona womntwana osemdala ukuya kumncinci akazange kubangele inkxwabo kunye nezikhalazo, oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo nangaphambi kokuzalwa kweemvumba. Sinikeza ezinye iingcebiso eziya kukunceda ukujamelana nengxaki yobukhwele bomntwana.
- Ukulungiselela ukuzalwa komntwana wesibini, xelela umdala ukuba ngokukhawuleza uza kuba nomntakwabo okanye udade omncinci, indlela enhle ngayo xa kukho abantwana abaninzi kwintsapho.
- Ngokubonakala komntwana, uya kuthi, uya kuba nexesha elincinci. Kodwa zama okungenani imizuzu engama-20 ukuya kwimihla ngemihla ukunika umntwana omdala ngokwakhe. Makube yimidlalo, inomdla kuye, ukuphuhlisa iiklasi okanye ukuthetha nje - oku akubalulekile. Into ephambili kukuba umntwana abe nomdla ebomini bakhe kwaye usabalulekile kuwe. Unganqikazi ukumxelela ngothando lwakho, ukubonisa intando, ukumanga nokumbamba umdala - uyayidinga ngoku!
- Xa uxakeke kakhulu kwaye unganakulingana nomntwana wakho, thumela ngokuhamba kunye noyihlo, ugogo nomkhulu okanye utatomkhulu. Makhe ngelo xesha uzive engathathi nto ingqalelo kubantu abadala, kodwa, ngokuchasene, phakathi kweziganeko.
- Ngesizathu esifanayo kucebise ukudibana naye kuyo yonke imicimbi yentsapho: apho uhamba khona ukuhamba, yintoni ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa, njl. Oku kuya kunika umntwana ithemba lokuba ngowokuqala, ilungu elipheleleyo lentsapho, kwaye, okwesibini , ophezulu (emva koko, omncinane akukho banikwayo).
- Musa ukucela uncedo kuye: makube ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ngokuzithandela, ngokwentando yakhe.
- Ukubona indlela umama akhathalela ngayo umntwana omncinci, umdala unako ukukhangela ingqwalasela efanayo kunye nokunyamekela kuqala ukuziphatha njengomntwana: ukukhala, ukuthetha kakubi, kungabonakali. Musa ukumgxeka ngenxa yalo, kuba yindlela nje yokufeza injongo yakho. Vumela umntwana ukuba aziphathe ngokungafanelanga, kwaye kungekudala uza kudinwa. Chaza kuye ukuba sele uyamthanda, kwaye ungamkeli kwiindawo zokuhlala:
ngoko ekugqibeleni uya kubona ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akusebenzi. - Akukho nto ibaluleke kakhulu umbuzo wendlela yokwahlula amathoyizi. Abantwana baqaphela ukuba abancinci banikezwa abo baqalayo, abahambahambayo, abaxhamli . Ukuba inkunzi inqwenela ukuba i-toy yakhe ibe yipropati yomntakwabo okanye udade omncinci, makamshiye ekhaya. Kwaye into eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba, ngokukhawuleza ubuze oko kukulungele ukunika umntwana, kunye noko angathanda ukuyigcina (izinto ezininzi ozikhethayo).
Ukuthobela ezi ngcebiso, unokukwazi ukubeka lula ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana kwintsapho.