Unqwenela njani ukuba wonke umama abone intombi yakhe encinci kwindoda engumyeni, abo bonke abantu abakujikelezile bayakuyithanda! Ufundiswe kakuhle, ufundiswe, ulungile, uyanyanisekileyo, uyayiphendula, ulungele kakuhle - ezi zimpawu zinxulumene nabantu abaninzi ngegama elithi "intombi". Kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuba okokuqala kwakusetyenziswa kubasetyhini abawaziyo kuphela ukubhaka isonka! Ngelishwa, namhlanje imilinganiselo enhle, ngokukodwa phakathi kwamantombazana asetsheni, ayisoloko ibonwa njengesiqhelo. Kodwa nangona i-schooling schooler yakho ikhetha ukuba ngabahlobo kunye nabafana, iziphatha njengento yangempela, kusekho ixesha lokunyusa intombazana yangempela.
Umama ukusuka kwindawo yokulala
Indlela eyona ndlela isebenzayo kunye elula yokuphakamisa intombi encinane kwintombazana encinane ngumzekelo ngamnye. Ngethuba leminyaka yokuqala yobomi, unina ligunya apho umntwana elinganayo. I-Psychology yentsana injalo ukuba yonke into ejikelezile, ishiya umshicileli kumlingisi, umzekelo wokuziphatha kunye nokubonakala. Ukuba umama ucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukubukeka kakuhle kunye nokulungiswa kakuhle ngaphandle kwendlu, kuya kuba nzima ukuchazela umntwana, kutheni ukugcina imithetho yokucoceka, ukujonga imeko yeengubo, iinwele, izipikili. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bacinga ukuba izinto ezintle kufuneka zigqitywe, kwaye indlu ye-pantyhose endala eneemingxuma, i-raglan enamabala ukusuka kwijusi okanye kwithokolethi iya kuhla. Hayi, oku akuthethi ukuba ekhaya kufuneka ugqoke intombazana ngokugqoka, kodwa iimpahla ezizenzekelayo kufuneka zihlambuluke, zicoceke.
Ukususela esemncinci, umkhwa wesinxibo sowesifazana, akusiyo mfihlelo ukuba namhlanje abaninzi abafazi abakwaziyo ukuphuma kwidonti yabo, becinga iipketi kunye nokugqoka. Umncedisi omncinci uya kuba novuyo lokugcoba kwiingubo ezimnandi, kwaye umkhwa uya kuhlala ixesha lokuphila. Zakolochki, amaqabane azinwele ezintle, iimboyi, i-pigtails - intombazana enomdla nje!
Ewe, ukubonakala kubalulekile, kodwa akukho zinto ezingabalulekanga. Ngokomzekelo, intetho yentombazana. Kwaye akukhona ngamagama angcolileyo, awamkelekanga! Iingxelo ezimbi zabanye abantu, ukunyundela, ukuhleba - oku yiloo nto inenekazi ayisoze avumele. Yingakho intombazana ayifanele ayive loo mazwi kumama, ugogo, odade. Ekubuntwaneni, naluphi na umkhwa wenziwa ngokukhawuleza, ngoko abazali kufuneka balandele intetho yabo.
Umama - kukuzimela, ubufazi, ukuzithemba, ubabalo, umkhwa, ubabalo. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuphula umlingiswa wentombazana! Ukuba unamandla kwaye unomthwalo, umsebenzi womama kukunceda intombazana ifumane imida eya kumvumela ukuba ahlale intombazana, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo uzive. Cacisa kancinci ukuba imbonakalo enobumnandi nekhangayo kunye nokuziphatha kakubi akuthethi nto! Ubuhle buya kungabonwa!
Masibhale iziphumo
Uyazi umntanakho kangcono kunomnye umntu! Akukho mithetho ejwayelekile enganceda ukufundisa inkokheli yangempela evela kwintsana, kodwa ngokulandela iziphakamiso ezilandelayo, uza kunciphisa kakhulu umsebenzi wakho:
- umzekelo;
- khuthaza naluphi na ukubonakalisa kobufazi;
- umsebenzi oqhubekayo ngokuziphatha komntwana;
- ukuthotyelwa kwemimiselo yococeko (kwimpahla, phakathi kwabanye);
- ukwandisa ukukhanya komntwana;
- ukuxhoma ukuziphatha kakuhle.
Yaye ungabaphulaphuli abo bathi amaxesha amakhwenkwe anesibindi kunye namantombazana athandekayo sele adlulileyo! Ububele, ukukhuliswa kakuhle, ukuphendula, ukuhlonipha abanye, ubuhle bangaphakathi buya kuhlala buxabiswa kakhulu. Uthando lwabazali, ukunakwa kunye nokunyamekela kubancedisi abancedisayo kwimfundo yenkwenkwana enchukumisayo.
Kwakunzima kakhulu kubazali kunye nokukhuliswa komntu omncinci.