Wonke umama omncinci, ngokuqala ukuthatha unyana wakhe osanda kuzalwa ezandleni zakhe, uyaqiniseka ukuba uya kuvelisa indoda eyinyani, intlonelo, i-knight yesimanje, eya kusebenza rhoqo imihla ngemihla enzima ngaphandle kokukhangela emva, ukuyisa amanqwanqwa amatsha kunye nolonwabo bonke abafazi . Kodwa ngaba le ndlela ingaqwalaselwa ngokuchanekileyo? Yintoni ehlabathini lanamhlanje ingcinga "yindoda" iquka?
Ukuba kwixesha lama-Victori igama elithi "intlanzi" lalibonakaliswa ngumntu ohloniphekileyo, namhlanje babizwa ngokuba bafundisiwe, amadoda anamava anesidima, ahloniphe abantu abakuzungezile.
Indima kayise kwimfundo yendoda
Bobabini kunye nobawo bafanele baqonde ukuba nayiphi indlela ekhunileyo yokukhulisa inganciphisa imbono yenkwenkwe yinkwenkwe, inokuchaphazela kakubi ubuhlobo bayo bokwabelana ngesini esahlukileyo. Ukuba yiminyaka embalwa yokuqala yobomi, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kubambelela kwengubo kamama, ekugqibeleni afunde ukuzimela. Akuyimfuneko ukuba inkwenkwe iphazamise le nto. Icandelo ngalinye lophuhliso lixabiseke kakhulu, kuba lijika umntwana kumntu.
Ngeminyaka emihlanu okanye emithandathu, abafana baye babonisa umnqweno wokunxibelelana namalungu esini ngokwaso. Kwaye ubaba uya kuqala. Oomatshini kunye neendlela, abaqulunqi, ukulungiswa kwebhayisekile okanye imoto yokudlala, ukuloba-le yimi sebenzi emdla. Yaye ubaba - uncedo olungcono, umhlobo, iqabane. Abafana banokuqiniseka ukuba imisebenzi enjalo kumantombazana (kunye nomama, phakathi kwabanye) abangaphezu kwamandla. Ukuqwalaselwa ngubawo, ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nokunyamekela kuzala inkcazo yenkwenkwana yentloko yentsapho. Nangona umntwana ekhula kwintsapho engaphelelanga, udinga igunya lomntu. Nendima inokukwazi ukujamelana nayo kunye nomalume, kunye no-stepfather, kunye notitshala, kunye nomzalwana omdala.
Kodwa ungacingi ukuba umntu onyanisekileyo akanalo ilungelo lokubonisa iimvakalelo zethenda. Ngokuchasene noko, ingqalelo kwaye unyango olunothando kunye nesini esahlukileyo, ukunakekelwa, izipho kunye nezihlwele ezintle - oku kuhlala kunjalo! Kwaye umzekelo omhle ngumoya wophiko kumama, ugogo nodade.
Imigaqo yemfundo yendoda
Umntwana ngamnye ngumntu onobubele bakhe, umlingiswa, uhlobo lokuziphatha, ngoko akukho migaqo yezemfundo eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, imithetho ekhoyo ikhona.
- Xanduva . Ukususela ebuntwaneni, umntwana kufuneka aziva ukuba unelungelo lokukhetha. Abazali bafanele bathembele kumntwana, kwaye kufuneka aqaphele ukuba nayiphi na isigqibo sakhe siqu siquka uxanduva, kwanobubi. Emva koko, fundani kwiimpazamo.
- Ukuzimela . Nangona umntwana esekuqaleni, le nkwenkwe inokuthenjwa ukwenza imisebenzi eyisiqalo kwimbono yakho (ukuqokelela amathoyizi, ucoceke kwii-nursery, izilwanyana zokutya). Yonke impumelelo yomntu omncinci uya kumvuselela emitsha, impumelelo enkulu.
- Hlonipha abanye . Eneminyaka emithandathu ubudala -
Lo ngumntu omncinci. Mfundise ukuba anikezele ezithuthi zikawonkewonke kwabesetyhini banoma yiphi iminyaka ubudala, nithi bonani kubamelwane, ncedise wonke umntu ngeendlela zonke. Ngubani ofuna. - U ku qi Ukufundisa le mkhwenkwe kwinkwenkwe kunako umama ngokusemthethweni ukususela kumntwana! Mncede umncinci ancede ukuzisa isikhwama ngebhotile yobisi, xhoma ingubo yomama, uyifake. Ukuva indumiso, umntwana onentshiseko uyazama ukubanceda abathandekayo nabasemzini. Emva kwexesha eli lizayo liya kuba yinto evamile.
Yaye khumbula: yiyiphi amazwi amakhulu ongaxeleli ngunyana wakho, inene yindoda, uyakwazi ukuba kuphela xa ejikelezwe ngabantu abakhethiweyo nabahloniphekileyo!