Besifazane

Abafazi abazalwanga, baba. Abasetyhini baye bafunda ukuba kukho into enjalo kwaye bahamba ngokuthe ngcembe kwinqanaba lexesha elide. Siye "sivuna iziqhamo zayo" ixesha elide. Kwaye esikhundleni sokumisa, ukuphinda ucinge kwakhona, ngokuthe xaxa senza iingxaki ezizenzekelayo. Ngokumalunga neliphi igama elithi "owesifazane" lithetha, funda.

Ngcaciso e ngakumbi

Ubufazi besifazana yintambo yokulingana kwamalungelo kunye namadoda. Kuye kwenzeka eNyakatho Melika ngexesha leMfazwe yoBu Independent.

Umfazi wokuqala-wesifazane wayenomdla ngokubhekiselele kuMelika u-Abigail Smith Adams. Kulo binzana eliyaziwayo: "Asiyi kuthobela imithetho, ngokuthotyelwa kwayo esingayithathi nxaxheba, kwaye asiyi kuthobela urhulumente ongafanelanga iimfuno zethu."

Ummeli wokuqala wokuhamba kwamalungelo amabhinqa kwi-USSR ngu-Valentina Tereshkova. Kamva, udumo lwale mini, abafazi abadumileyo babe nguClara Zetkin, oye wathandazela ukubhiyozelwa kweSuku loLuntu lwaMaTyhini ngo-Matshi 8 noMaria Arbatova. Abaxhasi bentlangano ekhuthazwa ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ngokupheleleyo kwizotywala, ebomini. Ngokomlando kwaqulunqwa ibhinqa kunceda ekugqibeleni ukucinezelwa nobuzwe. Ngoku ukuba konke oku sele kuphunyeziwe, ibhinqa ayifanelekanga.

Yintoni eyenzekayo ngoku?

Abameli beesahluko esihle sabantu baphikisayo kwaye baphambukisa ingcamango yanamhlanje yale nto. Bazibiza ngokuba ngabafazi, amantombazana aphika kwaye adlula ukubaluleka kwamadoda. Akumangalisi ukuba phakathi kwabalandeli abanamhlanje bentlangano yokunyelisa, abaninzi abanommeli ongekho. Ukugqithisa "muzhikovatost" kwi "phantsi kunye nomlotha" wanyathela umfazi.

Esikhundleni sokuphakamisa ubunzima besifazana, ubuhle kunye nobulili, sizithobela kumntu wesini esahlukileyo kwaye ngaloo ndlela sinciphisi nje kuphela, kodwa thina. Amadoda, kwakhona, alahlekelwa amandla kunye nobukhulu emehlweni ethu. Yintoni ke, siyibuhlungu xa thina sibaphuca eli thuba?

Okokuqala, sonke singabantu abanomphefumlo kunye nokukwazi ukuziva. Ufuna inkululeko - uya kuyenza. Kodwa asifanele siqhubekele kwimida kunye "nobunzima" kulowo mntu (asiyi kulukhomba ngomnwe) "nje kunzima kakhulu." Ngoku siyakhononda ukuba akukho madoda angokoqobo. Kodwa ngaba oomama abemi bahleli?

Ukufuna, njengoko besithi, kuphakamisa isiphakamiso.

Konke kulungile ekumodareyithweni

Masingakhanyeli ukuba amabhinqa anamhlanje uhlwaya ubundlobongela phakathi kwesini kunye nokukhuthaza imbono yokunciphisa indoda. Landela olu khonkco: konke kwaqala ngomzabalazo wokulingana nokuzimela, kwaye ekugqibeleni bafika ntoni?

Ngokuhlukumeza ukungafani kwemvelo phakathi kwabameli bezesondo ezahlukileyo, ukutshabalalisa indlela yendabuko yokuphila kunye nokutshabalalisa iindima eziqhelekileyo ezixhomekeke kumadoda nakwabaseTyhini, ukudideka okupheleleyo kufumaneka kulwalamano. Ekugqibeleni, bonke "abanelisekile" kwaye bafumana ubunzima ekuqondeni omnye nomnye.

Ukuba uzimisele ukuziba ngumfazi, cingisisa ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukuphunyezwa kwalo msebenzi. Wonke amalungelo kunye nenkululeko yethu sele sele iphakanyisiwe. Ufuna ntoni na injongo? Ukulwa nobundlobongela, ukungabikho kokusesikweni kwabasetyhini - ukuba ukhangelekile kwiintlobo ezinjalo, uze uthumele phambili.

Iingcali zengqondo zithi ingcamango yanamhlanje yesimo sengqondo sesifazane idala ukudumala kwamadoda. Ngenxa yokuphelelwa lithemba, isondo "sobuthathaka" siqala ukuphindiselela "esinamandla." Kuphela nje kule ndeyiselo kwaye inzondo ayifani lula. Umphefumlo nomzimba kudinga ukunakekelwa, uthando kunye nothando. Kunzima ukuchasene nendalo kunye nemvelo. Ngaphandle koko, senza ubundlobongela.

Njengoko imbongi enye yathi: "Wena ungowesifazane, kwaye nguwe ulungile." Kwaye oku kufuneka kuzingca.