Akukho mfazi ufuna ukudideka ngothando. Kodwa ukuba ugweme oku, kufuneka ukwazi ukujonga umfazi. Emva koko, ubudlelwane kunye nomntu onomoya oza kuzisa nto ngaphandle kobuhlungu kunye nentukuthelo.
Ungazijonga njani umfazi ngokuziphatha kwakhe?
Indlela eqinisekileyo yokuphepha ulwalamano nomntu onjalo ukujonga ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngexesha lokuthandana ukuba ungumfazi. Ukwenza oku kunzima, kuba i-femanizer izakuzama ukwakha ubudlelwane ngendlela leyo intombazana engayiqondi ngayo injongo yakhe. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, kukho imiqondiso ekunceda ukuchonga umfazi, apha:
- Ukuziphatha ngokuzithemba komntu xa intlanganiso kufuneka ilumke umfazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, lo mfana uhlazeka ukuba eze aze athethe nentombazana ayithandayo. Ngako oko, ukunyamezela kunye nokuziphatha okungenangqondo kungabonakalisa ukuba indoda inomdla kuphela kumfazi "njengexhoba eliqhelekileyo" kwaye ayinanto nayiphi na ngaphandle kwesithakazelo sezesondo. Inqaku kuye ukuba awunomdla kubudlelwane bobusuku obubodwa, akunokukunceda kuphela ekufumaneni umfazi womntu, kodwa nokukhusela ubudlelwane obungadingekile.
- Iingubo ezikhanyayo kunye nokubonisa uluhlu lwazo iimpawu kwiintetho zokuqala zinokuxelela nentombazana ukuba lo mfana akazukufumana ubudlelwane obude kunye nobudlelwane obubi. Amadoda anjalo ahlala ngama-narcissists, oko kuthetha ukuba baya kuzama ukutsala ingqalelo kumntu wabo ngazo zonke iindlela.
- Ukuncoma kwangaphambili kunye nemihla engalibalekiyo . Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kunokuthi uthethe ngamava omntu, kodwa ininzi yexesha abafana abazi indlela yokuziphatha nentombazana abayithandayo, ngoko ke xa umntu ekuncoma ngeendlela ezingavumelekanga, kufuneka uqikelele ukuba usebenzisa "i-home".
- Ukungafuni ukuzisa intombazana kubahlobo kunye nezihlobo zakhe . Ukuba isi sibini sithandane ngaphezu kweenyanga ezi-1-2, kuyinto evamile ukuba intombazana iyazi ubuncinane ubuncinane bomhlobo wakhe. Ukuba loo mntu uyaziphepha ngokukhawuleza ukuba ibhinqa lidibana nabahlobo bakhe, oku kungakho iimpawu zesimo sengqondo.