Sifuna ukuba nomntwana - sifanele siqale kuphi?
Abanye oogqirha bathi ukuba le nto isibini sinempilo, ngoko umthamo uza kuza ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungenakuzama. Abaxhasi beli ngcamango bayacetyiswa ukuba baqale ukucwangcisa xa benomnqweno, bengakhathazeki ngokunikezelwa kweemvavanyo. Nangona kunjalo, yonke into ayilula, kwaye ke omnye akufanele akhohlwe ngezifo ezifihlakeleyo ezinokuthi zibe "kwindawo ehleliyo", kodwa ekukhulelweni, zombini ebusweni nakwindoda ezayo idala ingxaki ezininzi.
Sifuna umyeni ngomntwana kwaye si tyelele ugqirha-yilapho kufuneka uqale ukucwangcisa ukukhulelwa kwakho. Ukubonisana nomzimba wesifo somzimba kunconywa kumfazi ukuba ahlolisise impilo yakhe kwaye anqume ukuba kubakho iinkqubo ezinobulwelwe kunye nokuvuvukala. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukuthatha uhlalutyo lwe -HIV-ntsholongwane. Indlela yokuqala umntu, ukuze ibinzana elithi "ufuna ukukhulelwa umntwana" aliguquli lizwi elingenanto, ukuhanjiswa kwe- spermogram ukufumanisa ukubunjwa kobunqamlezo.
Ukongezelela, abazali bexesha elizayo bacetyiswa ukuba bahambelane nolawulo olulungileyo lomhla kunye nesondlo:
- ukuphumla nokulala okungenani iiyure ezili-8 ngosuku;
- Ungazibandakanyi umsebenzi osebenzayo kunye nesifo somdla;
- ukulahla imikhwa emibi: ukutshaya, utshwala, njl.;
- zongeza kwiintlanzi kunye neentlanzi zasemanzini, iifuno zemifuno, izityalo kunye nemifuno.
Ngoko, ibinzana elithi: "Ndifuna umntwana wesibini, kodwa apho ndiqala khona-andiyikhumbuli," akufanele kukuhlazise. Ukukhulelwa okuphindaphindiweyo, uluhlu lwezenzo lufana nolokuqala: tyelela ugqirha, uphumle ngokuthe xaxa kwaye udle ngokufanelekileyo, uholele indlela yokuphila enempilo. Zonke ezi zenzo aziyi kukulinda ixesha elide, kwaye kungekudala uza kubona ezimbini zokulinda ezilinde ixesha elide.