Kwintlalo yethu kuyisiko ukucinga ukuba ininzi yabafana abaneminyaka engama-20 sele benamava ezesondo. Nangona kunjalo, oku akunjalo kubo bonke abantu, kwaye umfana unokuba yintombi eneminyaka engama-25, engamthinteli ukuba abe mnandi, kwaye uphumelele. Akunabo bonke abantombazana abakulungele le meko, kwaye baninzi abakwaziyo ukuba benzeni ukuba umntu uyintombi.
Wonke umntu walala ngesondo okokuqala , kodwa ngaba amadoda abe neentloni ngobuntombi babo, kunye nabadala, kuba ngakumbi ngabaxhalabisa. Inokukwazi ukuqiniseka ngokuzeleyo ukuba ubomi obusasazekayo obunentombi enyulu kusemagxeni athathaka omfazi wakhe wokuqala. Ukuqiqa kunye nokuqaphela - ezi ziimpawu ezimele ziboniswe xa zijongana nomfana ongenamava ezesondo. Musa ukumangaliswa xa ufunda ukuba umfana oneminyaka engama-20 uyintombi.
Ndingamkela njani umntu ovela kwintombi?
Akunzima, ngokuqhelekileyo loo madoda anothando kunye neengqungquthela, abaxhomekile ukuthetha ngezihloko zesondo, musa ukucela "indebe yekhofi" ngobusuku bokuqala.
Ubangela bokuba ubuntombi buntombi buyahlukahluka:
- loo nto inokubambelela kwimbono yokuba isondo ngaphandle kothando akunakwenzeka, kwaye ke ulinde "lakho kuphela" kwaye unqwenela kakhulu, ukuze uzinikele;
- mhlawumbi, amadoda anesisombululo malunga nobukhulu bepenisi , ukuma kwawo, ngenxa yobungqina bokuzalwa, inxeba;
- Ukunciphisa ukuzithemba kungaphinda kube yimbangela yobuntombi bendoda, nangaphandle kwindoda yokuzithemba ngaphandle;
- Ukungabikho komdla kwisini esinye isizathu. Mhlawumbi loo mntu wayesexakeke kakhulu-umsebenzi, ukufunda, ezemidlalo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, kwaye akazange akhuphe kumantombazana;
- Amava amaninzi kwixesha elidlulileyo unokude umdumise umntu ukuba aqalise ubuhlobo nentombazana. Mhlawumbi intombazana yangaphambili yayibonisa ngokungenangqiqo, okanye yamnyukisa loo mfana ngokungaziqondi kakuhle, kwaye le nto yayingumngcipheko weengqondo kangangokuthi akazange alinge ngakumbi ukwenza imizamo emitsha;
- loo mntwana unokuba ngumntwana omncinane kamama. Ukunyamekela kancinci kowamaxesha kaninzi akavumeli umntu ukuba azimeleyo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ukulawula okungaqhelekanga kunqanda iqhinga.
Ngoko wenzeni ukuba iqabane lakho liyintombi, kwaye uhlala naye embhedeni, okanye ulambile kakhulu? Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nendoda enyulu, oneminyaka engama-18 ukuya kwiminyaka engama-20 ingaba "kwizinga." Emva koko, i-hormone kule minyaka ibuhlungu ngokwenene, kwaye ukuba loo mntu sele esifikelele "kwisiqhamo esithandayo", ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba namandla ebhedeni. Kodwa kunjalo kule meko kungcono ukukhumbula ezinye iingcebiso:
- ukuziphatha kwentombi enyulu kungqina ngokungakhuselekanga kwakhe. Umsebenzi womfazi ukukunqoba. Umfana makaqiniseke ngothando lwakho, kwaye ukuba awuyikuyeka, nangona umzamo wokuqala wokulala ngesondo ungapheli;
- nangayiphi na imeko awukwazi ukukhumbula ngamanye amaqabane akho. Umntu sele esesaba ukuba akayi phezulu, ukusuka ezinkumbulo ezinjalo kuya kuba nzima kakhulu.
- indlela yokuvuyisa intombazana? Musa ukukhawuleza, unike inyathelo kuye, vumela loo mntu enze isigqibo sokumanga, ukugxotha, ukuya kwisini;
- bonisa ukunyamezela, kuba amanyathelo okuthatha isigqibo anokufuneka alinde ngaphezu kosuku olunye. Yithetha nje ngothando lwakho, malunga nento oyifunayo;
- Kufuneka azi ukuba uyithanda umzimba wakhe, yibani nomnene, makhele. Kodwa ukuba loo mntu akavumanga ngokukhawuleza ukuba "uyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu", ungagxininisi, yenza ngokucophelela.
Kukho imeko xa umntu kunye nentombazana iintombi. Kule meko, ngaphambi kokuqalisa isenzo sesini, umntu kufuneka afunde kakuhle i-theory, funda iincwadi ezifanelekileyo. Kukulungele ukuqala ngokuhlukumeza, kunye nokulala ngesondo emva kobusuku obuchithwa kunye kunye.