Umfana uzinikezele ukudibana, kodwa awazi ukuba ungayenqaba njani? Kule nqaku, uya kufunda indlela yokusombulula ingxaki enjalo. Fumana amagama alungileyo, ukuze ungakhubeki uze ungakhubekisi iimvakalelo zentwazana enokuziva uvelwano kuwe, akunjalo lula.
Ngaba kukuvuyela ukugatya umntu ukuba adibane?
Ewe, into yokuba indoda ekhethwe kwisihlwele wena, kwaye ingengenye intombazana, iyandisa ukuzithemba. Kodwa ukuba ungazivumi ukuphindaphinda, kubalulekile ukuxelela umntu ongazifuni ukuba naye, ngokuchanekileyo ngokunokwenzeka. Nqabe umntu ukuba adibana naye akunzima kakhulu xa ulandela le mithetho elandelayo:
- Bonisa ukuba uqinile kwaye unesiqinisekiso sokwenqaba kwakho. Indoda kufuneka iqonde ukuba isigqibo sinomlomo kwaye ayikwazi ukuxoxwa ngaso. Kungcono ukwenza oku kwingxoxo kwintsimi engathathi hlangothi. Kwaye ke, akumele kubekho amangqina.
- Zama ukukhathazeka kwaye uphathe intetho ngokuhlonipha nokuqonda. Musa ukwenza njengokuba ucinga ukuba umntu akafanelanga wena kunye nengqalelo yakho.
- Ukuze unqabe ngobumnene umfana ukuba adibana, kufuneka ukhethe kakuhle ingxoxo. Kubalulekile ukumxelela umntu ukuba uyamphatha ngokuhlonela, uxabise ukunyaniseka kwakhe kunye nokunyaniseka, uyamkholisa kwaye uyamxabisa njengomhlobo onyanisekileyo. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, oku kukugqwesa koko uhlangabezana nalo mntu. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kukwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ixesha elide.
- Ukuba ufuna ukufumana ukuphefumula okwethutyana, ke ushiye umhla, ubhekisele kwimicimbi ebalulekileyo. Kodwa olu khetho lukude kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ukwenzela ukuba ugweme iimeko ezihlaselayo, kukulungele ukubeka ngokukhawuleza onke amanqaku angentla "i". Ukongezelela, loo ntokazi engafanelekanga ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala ayiyi kwandisa
iibhonasi kubameli bezesondo ezinamandla. - Ungatsho ukuba unomfana oyintanda enomdla kunye naye onoyolo kunye naye. Kodwa olu khetho lufanelekile ukuba umntu engazi iinkcukacha zobomi bakho.
- Mkhulule loo mfana kwiinkcukacha ezingadingekanga kwaye ungathethi amagama angadingekile. Emva kokuba uthi unqabana ukudibana naye, unokunyanzelisa ukuqhubeka nencoko. Ngoko ke, sincoma ukuba ucinge kwangaphambili indlela ongakuphepha ngayo ukuqhubeka nencoko.
Ukulandela ezi ngcebiso ezilula, unokuzichaza ngokucacileyo kuloo mfana ukuba kutheni unqabile ukujongana naye.