Ukuxhomekeka komntu kwisini nawuphi na isibini esitshatileyo kuxhomekeke kwiintlobo zombini. Omnye uhlala ehlambulukile, kwaye ngexesha ngalinye - njengowokuqala. Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, bayavuya xa bezama amatsha amatsha, amacebo kwaye abaqineli kwiimvavanyo. Kwiminyaka yokufumanisa ngokwesondo, i-subculture seksvayf, esekelwe kwisinilo esivumelekileyo, isasazeke.
Yintoni i-seksweif?
Kwintsapho yeklastiki, ukungcola akuphosakeli, kodwa xa kuziwa ngesini, iifundo azisebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi: nje ukukholisa amaqabane kwaye ungahambi ngaphaya kwemida yazo. Ngubani u-seksvayf (ukusuka kwisiNgesi umama, "umfazi-sexy")? Umfazi otshatileyo, ngokuvuma komlingane wakhe, ngokuzithandela angena kwisini ngesini okanye omnye umntu. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwano:
- Ukwabelana ngesondo kuqhutyelwa phambi kwendoda yakhe (ulawulo lweepopopi luvela kwiCuckold "cuckold");
- isondo senziwa ngokubambisana ngqo kwababini iqabane (Gyeonggi-beng, "grupovukha", i-MZHM, njl);
- umfazi ngokuzimeleyo uya kwimihla enomtsalane, enikela okanye anganikeli ngokulandelayo "ingxelo ngomsebenzi owenziweyo".
Izimpawu zesini
Vula ubudlelwane be-seksvayf - kungekhona kuwo wonke umntu, kodwa njengomthetho, amaqabane awenzayo, abeke umgca ocacileyo phakathi kokungcatshiswa ngasemva kwaye "avunyelwe." Umva wokugqibela unako ukudala ukunyuka kwemvakalelo, kodwa ungayonakalisi intsapho. Ukuqonda ukuba abesilisa abane-sexwave, kwaye lona wesifazane ulungele ukuzama inxaxheba kwintombazana ekufowuneni, kunokwenzeka ngezi zilandelayo:
- Ukuvunyelwa kwezesondo zeqela kunye nokutshintshana kwamaqabane.
- Ukulungelelwa kwamalinge kwisigaba sezesondo.
- Izibini ezitshatileyo zibalandeli bezononografi (ividiyo yasekhaya).
- Umfazi ozingelayo utshela umyeni wakhe malunga namaqabane angaphambili.
- Uhlala edlala ngothando nabameli bobulili obuhlukile.
Yintoni eluncedo seksweif?
Kwimininzi, imidlalo yezesondo kunye nokutshintshana kwabafazi ibangela ukuphazamiseka nokucaphukisa, kodwa umntu unokufumana inzuzo yokusebenzisa olu hlobo lobuhlobo obungaqhelekanga. Ngezibini eziye zazenza iingcamango zabo ngale ndlela zineengxaki eziqhelekileyo, iingxabano, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiimbini ezinjalo akukho nto ingcatshwa ngayo kubafazi. Kutheni, ukuba ibhinqa le-sexwaves lingakwazi ukumema isithathu? Umdlalo onjalo wezesondo ungasindisa intsapho kwaye kwiimeko ezinjalo, xa umfazi engumnyanyakazi, kwaye indoda ayikwazi ukufanisana nomoya wakhe. Yintoni i-seksvayf ithetha ngowesifazane?
- uyayibona isidingo sokudukisa abantu;
- unethuba lokutshintsha ubomi bobulili kwaye ufumane amaqabane amatsha ngaphandle kokushiya intsapho.
Kumntu, ubuhlobo obunjalo:
- ukubonakaliswa kwe-sadomasochism (uyazihlazisa xa abanye besethamsanqa);
- uxinzelelo oluvusa ukuthanda;
- iinzame zokugcina intsapho (umzekelo, ukuba indoda ayikwazi ukwenza uthando ngenxa yokukhubazeka ngokomzimba).
Isikhokelo sabaqalayo seksvayf
Ubomi bobuqu babantu ababoleki kwimilinganiselo efanayo kodwa ezinye iingcebiso kufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngaphambi kokuba zibe sevvayf:
- Kubalulekile ukuba bobabini bomtshato baxhase umnqweno omnye.
- Ungakwazi ukuzithoba ngokuthe ngqo kwiimeko ezingaqhelekanga zomyeni osemthethweni: lungiselela intlanganiso kwi-cafe, uqalise abantu, qalise ukudlala ngothando.
- Umbuzo olandelayo ukhetho lomlingane. Ngokuqala kunqweneleka ukuhlala kumntu oqinisekileyo: umhlobo omdala okanye umthandi. Kwixesha elizayo, unako "ukuya emthunzini." Abaninzi be- swingers kunye ne-seksvayf abalandeli bafuna inkampani kwiifom kwi-Intanethi. Oku kuyingozi, ngenxa yokuba umntu akaqhelekanga, kodwa uyimfihlo.
- Kubalulekile ukucacisa ixesha elivumelekileyo nelingagunyaziswanga ngaphambi kokuba ulala ngesondo.
Indlela yokwenza umfazi seksvayf?
Xa bobabini abalingani bexhasa imfono enye - oku kulungile, kodwa kuthekani ukuba iqabane lingayifaki phambili? Indlela yokukhohlisa umfazi wakhe kwi-seksvayf? Indlela yokuphendula kwisiphakamiso ingaba lulandelayo - ukusuka ngokukhawuleza ukuvunyelwa. Yaye ukuba umfazi uyavuma ukuzama, kodwa iimvumba, mhlawumbi kungumntu ophantsi kokuzithemba kunye nokungaqiniseki. Ukuze ufikelele kwisivumelwano, ufuna oku kulandelayo:
- ukuqala ukubonelela ngeemeko zentuthuzelo kunye nokhuseleko kwintsapho;
- khuthaza umlingane, umnike izipho, kuquka nezambatho ezintle;
- uthetha ngothando lwakho;
- Ukudlala le meko ukwenzela ukuba umfazi ubone ubukhulu bakhe kumyeni wakhe;
- kumdla kuye ngesondo kunye namanye amaqabane;
- ubukele kunye namafilimu eonobumba, ukunyanzela ukwenza isigqibo, kodwa ungathethi ngokucacileyo ngomnqweno wabo.
Iifilimu malunga ne seksvayf
Kukho ezininzi izibini ezonwabileyo ezigqibeleleyo kwi-seksvayf. Ezinye iifilimu zikwaxela ngeempumelelo, nangona kwihlabathi elikhohlakeleyo yonke into ibonakala ihlukile kunobomi boqobo (nakwiimboniselo ezindala ngaphandle kwebali). Ukuze uqonde oko kuchazwe i-subculture ibonakala ngathi, unokwazi ukubukela iifrimu malunga ne-seksweif:
- "Ilayisenisi yokukhwabanisa" , ngo-2004. Umtshakazi ubuza umyeni ukuba avumele ukuhamba ngendlela ecaleni.
- "Abagijimi" , 2002. Ibini elihlangene lifundisa abaqalayo ngobulumko bothando kwiqela.
- "Amadoda nabathandi" , ngo-1991.
- "Bonke abafazi bayakwenza oko" , ngo-1991. Iiklasi ze-genre ngomxholo wesibini esibambini.
- "Fantasy" , ngo-1976. Iindibano ezininzi ngeengcamango zabantu.