Ngethuba elithile emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ukungabikho kokulala komama kunomthelela kwimpilo yakhe, isimo sengqondo kunye nenhlalakahle, kunye nobudlelwane kwintsapho. Ukuze ugweme oku, kuyimfuneko ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufundise umntwana osanda kuzalwa ukuba alele ubusuku bonke aze amsindise kwimikhwa emibi yokuhlala evuka.
Indlela yokufundisa abantwana ukuba balale ubusuku bonke?
Abazali abancinci abazama ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ubusuku, indlela eyaziwayo njengendlela ye-Esteville, iya kwenza. Nangona kubafazi abathile kubonakala kunzima kwaye banobudlova kubantwana, eqinisweni, yilo lucwangciso olusebenza kakhulu kwaye lukhethwa ngoluvo lweninzi lwabahlengikazi.
Amaqhinga okwenziwa kwabazali abancinci xa usebenzisa indlela ye-Esteville kufuneka ibonakale njengale:
- Qhubekani ukwenza zonke izinto ezifanayo ngokuqhelekileyo kukunceda ukuzola nokukhupha ukuzulazula ezandleni zakho okanye kwibhola, kucula ingoma yeLlalaby, ukufunda iindaba zobomi kunye nokunye. Xa umntwana sele sele eqala ukulala, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba angakwazi ukulala, yibeke kwisibhedlele. Ukuba uyakhala, mthabatha eentendeni zakhe, ugxininise umncinci uze umbuyisele kwisikhumba. Qhubekani nenza oko de kube umntwana engakwazi ukuzola kwaye angakwazi ukulala ngokwalo. Njengomthetho, izenzo ezinjalo zithatha ubusuku bokuqala ukusuka kwiimitha ezingama-30 ukuya kwiyure. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abantwana baqala ukusabela ngokukhawuleza kwizenzo zabazali babo abangaqhelekanga kubo, ukuba le nkqubo inokuthatha amahora ama-3-5. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akubona bonke oomama kunye nabazali abanomonde wokunyamezela uvavanyo olunjalo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufuna ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba alale ubusuku, kufuneka ube nesimo sengqondo esihle kwaye kungekho phantsi kweemeko ukuba uphambuke kwisicwangciso.
- Emva kokuba unako ukuphumelela ngokuphumelelayo nesigaba sokuqala, khawuleza uqhubekele okwesibini. Ngoku, ukuba umntwana uqala ukukhala emva kokukufaka kwisibhedlele kwaye akakwazi ukuzincama, ungayithathi ezingalo zakho, kodwa uguqa ngokukhawuleza kwisibhedlele, uhlabe phezu kwentloko kunye namazwi athandekayo. Ukuba umntwana uwela ezinkwenkqeni, yilahla le ngcamango uze ubuye kwisigaba sokuqala. Emva kokulawula ukubeka i-crumb yokulala ngokusebenzisa le ndlela, phinda uzame ukuhamba kwisigaba sesibini.
- Emva kokuphumelela ngokuphumelelayo kwisigaba sesibini, iya kwesithathu - zama ukubeka umntwana ukuba alale ngendlela efanayo, kodwa unqabe. Ngaphandle kokuthintela umzimba womntwana wakho, ngokufezekisa ukuba uya kulala ngokulala ebhedeni lakhe. Xa kunesidima, buyela ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba elidlulileyo.
- Ekugqibeleni, xa unako ukujamelana namanyathelo amathathu okuqala, iya kwiimvumba ezikude. Ukwenza oku, faka umntwana kwisibhedlele uze uphinde ubuyele emnyango wegumbi, uthetha ngamazwi amnandi. Ngoko, ngokuthe ngcembe, umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukulala yena ngokwakhe aze ayeke ukufumana uncedo oluqinileyo lokuthintana nomama.
Ukongezelela, ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ubusuku kuya kunceda ezinjalo iingcebiso njenge:
- ukulahla ukusetshenziswa kwe-pacifier;
- ukondla i-crumb kungekhona emva kwesigama seyure ngaphambi kokulala;
- kancinci umlumle umntwana ukusondla ebusuku, imihla ngemihla ukunciphisa inani lokutya okudliwe;
- Sebenzisa isikhalazo kuphela sokulala, ungashiyi imivumba kuyo nje;
- unciphise ixesha lokuphumla komntwana.