Kungekudala, ubomi bethu buzele zonke iintlobo ezimbi, kuba nzima ukuphefumula. Thina, njengomoya, sithatha ububele nothando lwabanye, kodwa bambalwa abantu bacinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuqala, okokuqala, kunye nawe. Cinga ngantoni na ukugweba abantu, ubagwebe nantoni na, ufuneke ufuneke ufungele? Ngaphezu koko, wena uyazifumanisa ezininzi izizathu zokuziphendulela, ucinga ukuba impendulo yakho ilungile: "Ude ufike emva kwemizuzu elishumi elinesibini!", "Ngabe unokuba yambethe njani?", Njll. Kwaye kaninzi kangakanani ukhululekile, kwintliziyo ecocekileyo, unceda umntu ongaqhelekanga okanye umntu ongaphantsi kwimeko? Uhamba ngaphantsi kwesitrato uze ujabulele namhlanje, iintaka ezibethayo, ilanga elikhanyayo elikhanyayo ngaphezu kwentloko yakho? Ziphendule ngokunyanisekileyo, yintoni ebonakalayo ngokwakho, enomdla okanye engalunganga? Ukuba unethambekele ekukhethweni kokugqibela, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokuba nomusa kwaye ekugqibeleni, thabatha inyathelo ekuvuyiseni kunye nolonwabo.
Ndifuna ukuba nomusa
Kukho uluvo lokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ngumntu olungileyo, banokuzalwa kuphela. Mhlawumbi kunjalo. Kodwa kuyaziwa ukuba kummandla omkhulu okanye omncinci, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isimo sentlalo, umbala wesikhumba, umzimba, ngamnye wethu unalo ubuninzi bokutya. Yaye iya kuthixelela ukuba sibe nomusa, ukuthandana, ukunyamekela nokunyamezela abanye.
Izizathu zokuba nomusa
- Ukuba nomusa kwabanye, uya kuba nomusa kuwe.
- Njengoko uyazi, zombini ububi nokulungileyo, rhoqo ukubuyela kuwe ngobukhulu obuphindwe kabini.
- Ububele bungenza ngcono ubomi bakho kuphela, kodwa ihlabathi elikujikelezile.
Indlela yokuba mnandi nobubele?
- Okokuqala, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba okulungileyo akufanele kube yedwa kuwe, kodwa kuqala kokunye kwabanye. Yiphendula, zama ukunceda nje kuphela ngeengcebiso, kodwa kunye nezenzo.
- Yibulele konke onakho okanye ufumane kwaye ubonise ukubonga kwakho. Khumbula ukuba nakubonakala kungabalulekiyo kunye nokukrakra "mbulela", umntu unokuba lula ekuphefumuleni.
- Yeka ukugweba abanye kwaye usebenze kangcono ngokugxeka. Khumbula ubulumko "Musa ukugweba kwaye awuyi kugwetywa."
- Phatha yonke into ngokuqonda, thintela ingxabano. Zama ukuqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuqonda wonke umntu, kungekhona wonke umntu onokukuqonda, ngoko kutheni uchitha ixesha kunye namandla kwiingxabano ezingenamsebenzi.
- Yenza uncomelo, kunokuba uqaphele iimpazamo ezahlukeneyo kunye nokungalungi, qaphela izinto ezintle kwaye ungakulibala ukuxelela abantu ngabo, ngenxa yokuba loo nto iyingqungquthela, kodwa inomdla.
Ububele bungumxholo opheleleyo kwaye ongenakucatshulwa, yibani nomusa kubantu abakujikelezile, kwaye ke ihlabathi lonke liya kuba nomusa kuwe.