Ukuba usandula nje ukuhlukana nendoda, ngoko ukubonakala kwakhe ephupheni akuyinto engaqhelekanga, kuba ezi zikumane zikhumbule ubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Cacisa iphupha liyimfuneko kuphela kwimeko apho ixesha elide kungekho nxu lumano nomntu owayengumthandi. Kule nto, kuyimfuneko ukuba ukhumbule ubuninzi beenkcukacha ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo kwisalathisi.
Yintoni umlingani wangaphambili aphupha ngalo?
Kweminye yeencwadi zokuphupha kukho ulwazi lokuba loo mbono ebusuku ubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo bexesha elidlulileyo uya kuzikhumbuza kwaye, mhlawumbi, umphuphi uya kufuna ukuzibuyisela. Iphupha apho ubuhlobo kunye nomntu wangaphambili, luba khona, njengokungathi akukho ukuhlukana, kubonisa ukuba iimvakalelo zalo mntu sele zipholile ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba umthandi wangaphambili uhlala ephupha, ngoko umphuphi ebomini bokwenene uhlala enza izinto ezintle. Ngokufanayo, ingqondo engacingiyo inika iingcebiso eziyimfuneko ukuhlaziya indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Kukho enye indlela, kutheni ngokuphindaphindiweyo umlingani wangaphambili amaphupha, oku kubonisa ukuba inkokheli ayikwazi ukuyeka ukuhamba kwithuba elidlulileyo, kwaye oku kunempembelelo embi ebomini boqobo. Ixesha lokumisa kwaye uqhubeke phambili.
Iphupha lomntu owayengumthandi wesibini oqhawule umtshato ngumxube weengxaki eziya kubandakanywa nokugula, impahla kunye nabantwana. Iingxaki zempilo nazo zixela ingxoxo kunye nomnye owayengumlingani. Sifunda oko kuthetha ukuba umntu owake waphila amaphupha ubuhlobo obutsha luphawu oluhle, olubonisa indlela yokuzonwabisa kunye nosapho. Ukubona umntu owayengumthandi onomomothekayo uthetha ukuba kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba iqabane langoku lingekho. Kunconywa ukuba uthathe ukhangele ngakumbi okhethiweyo.
Kutheni uphupha ukuba usondele kumntu othandekayo?
Ubundlobongela ephupheni kunye nomntu osele kudlulile ebomini bakho, ubonisa ukuba kungekudala uzakujamelana neendlela ezidlulileyo. U kiss waseFransi kunye nomntu owayesithandana naye umele umangaliswe okuza kuba namava kwisekusondele. Incwadi yephupha ayichazi ukuba ingaba yinto enhle okanye ayibi.
Kutheni unayo ingxabano nomntu wokuqala?
Iphupha apho uxabana nabathandekayo bexesha lithembisa utshintsho ebomini obuya kubakho kwikamva elizayo. Awunakukhathazeka, kuba utshintsho luya kuba luhle. Kwimeko apho isigxina sifinyelele ukulwa kwiphupha - oku kubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nomntu wangoku kukho iingxaki ezinzulu, ezona zihlandlo ezininzi zinxulumene nomona.