Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthelekisa sisixhobo esikhulu. Ebomini, ngokuqhelekileyo into efaniswayo: izixhobo zasekhaya, iimveliso, njl. Konke oku kwenza ukuba umntu enze ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Kodwa, unqanda njani ukuziqhathanisa nabanye abantu? Kutheni abantu abaninzi kangaka benza kwaye kunjalo?
Ungayiyeka ukuthelekisa njani nomntu kwaye kutheni siyenza?
Ukuba ngamnye wethu uhlala ebuntwaneni, kuyacaca ukuba ngelo xesha abantu abasondeleyo benza iimpazamo ezimbi kangaka - baqhathanisa nabanye abantwana, beka umntu njengomzekelo. Kodwa, ephosakeleyo! Ekubuntwaneni, wonke umntu wayeqonda ukuba wayengenakufana nolunye, kuba wayenetalente ezahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kwakunzima ukuchazela omdala, kwaye umntwana wayengayiqondi indlela yokwenza ngayo.
Abaninzi sele bekhulile abakwaziyo ukuba baqale ukuzixabisa kunye nendlela yokuyeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye baze bayeke ukukhanga abanye, ukuba unokukwazi ukufeza yonke into.
Yaye yintoni umphumo?
Umntu omdala ubonakalisa ngokucacileyo ebuntwaneni bakhe. Umkhwa wengane onjalo wokuthelekisa ubangela ukudumala, umsindo kwaye akukho mntu udinga ukudandatheka . Kwimeko apho umntu ebhekene nenqwaba yeengxaki, ngoko, ngokwemvelo, ufuna ngokwenene ukufumana isizathu sale nto yonke. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kubi kakhulu ukuba umntu omdala akayiqondi indlela yokuziqhathanisa nabanye, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo libonakala liphumelele, libhetele kwaye liphezulu.
The lekisa nawe
Ininzi yabasetyhini ibhekene nengxaki yokuba intombi okanye ummelwane unembatho engcono, unobulumko okanye unomsebenzi ohloniphekileyo. Kodwa, njani ukuyeka ukuzifanisa nabanye abafazi kwaye uhlale phezu kwabo? Into efuna ukuyenza yinto yokuzifumana kwiimpawu ezilungileyo kakhulu ezingenayo abanye.
Ngokwemvelo, wonke umntu usekude ekupheleleni, kodwa ukuthelekiswa makuqhutywe kuphela ngezolo kwaye kuphela. Njalo kusihlwa unokucinga malunga nendlela ohamba ngayo imini. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukujonga iimpawu ezintle eziye zazibonakalisa kwaye zenza ngcono imihla ngemihla.