Ukwesaba ukubeletha kufumaneka ngabasetyhini abaninzi abakhulelweyo. Omnye uloyiko lwenkqubo ngokwayo yokuzala, kwaye omnye umntu ukwesaba okungaziwayo. Kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo ukwesaba ukuzalwa okwesibini kwabasetyhini ababelethayo kuyafana okanye kunamandla kunokuba bafika. Iingcali zengqondo zithi zonke ezi zinto zixhalabileyo, kwaye into ephambili apha akuyiyo ingxaki.
Uyazi-ngaba ixhobile?
Ngombulelo kwi-Intanethi, ubuninzi beencwadi kunye nabahlobo "ngamava", phantse onke amabhinqa akhulelweyo ezama ukufumana ulwazi oluninzi ngendlela enokuyenza ngayo ukunqoba ukwesaba kokubeletha nokulungiselela inkqubo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuqonda kuyinto enhle kakhulu, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ininzi yolwazi ingakwazi ukuphikisana neenkxalabo zowesifazane okhuselekileyo. Iingcebiso zethu zokuqokelela ulwazi ziya kuba ngale ndlela:
- Thembela kuphela imithombo eqinisekisiweyo. Ukuba ubona ulwazi ngeenkcukacha ezidakisayo malunga neengxaki ngexesha le nkqubo okanye emva kokubeleka, zama ukufumana kwenye indawo. Akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi abalobi beemibhalo basebenzisa iifayili ezichongiweyo, ngoko musa ukuzithemba "ngokungaziboni" kuzo zonke ezibhaliweyo.
- Thatha indlela ekhethekileyo kwingcaciso oomama ekuxelela ngayo ngokuzalwa. Ukuba ukuzalwa kwakunjalo kumntu wonke, mhlawumbi iindaba zabanye ziza kuba luncedo ngakumbi, kodwa umzimba wowesifazane ngamnye ngumntu, ngoko akunjalo ukuba uya kuzala ngosuku, njengoko intombi yakho yenza.
- Ziphulaphule wena nomzimba wakho. Umzimba wakho ngowakho kuphela, umzimba wakho ngowakho kuphela kwaye akukho mntu, ngaphandle kwakho, uyazi ngaphezu kwakho. Ngaphambili, abafazi bazala ensimini ngaphandle koncedo lwabasebenzi bezonyango kwaye bathemba kuphela iimvakalelo zabo zangaphakathi. Ngoku sinethuba lokuzithemba thina, kodwa phantsi kolawulo loogqirha, ukwandisa amathuba okuphumelela nokukhawuleza kweshishini, ekuthiwa "ukuzalwa ngaphandle kokubuhlungu kunye noyiko."
- Ukuzalwa okuhlangeneyo. Inendima ebalulekileyo ekulungiselelweni kokuzalwa ngaphandle kokwesaba idlaliswa yinjongo yomlingani. Xoxa ngethuba lokuba khona komntu othandekayo oya kukwazi ukukuxhasa ngexesha lokulwa. Umthandayo ngokubonakala kwakhe kunye nokunyamekela kuya kunciphisa ukwesaba intlungu ngexesha lokubeletha.
- Kholelwa kwizinto ezilungileyo. Umbhali owaziwayo kunye neengcali kwimiphefumlo yabantu, uPaul Coelho, wathi "ukuba ufuna ngokwenene nantoni na - yonke indawo iya kukunceda kule nto." Isimo sengqondo esilungileyo sele isiqingatha sempumelelo. Zama ukunciphisa ngaphambi kokubeletha uze ucinge ngentlanganiso ekulindelwe ixesha elide kunye nolonwabo oluthile, kwaye ke inkqubo yokuzalwa iya kubonakala yindlela kuphela eya kukukhokelela umntwana wakho.
Iphazamisekile - nwabisa
Abafazi abakhulelweyo banomdla wokhathazeka ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nokuxhalabisa, ngoko ke, banokucinga ngento engathandekiyo. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuphazamisa iingcamango ezingalunganga kunye nomculo kwiimvakalelo ezintle.
- Iikhosi zabafazi abakhulelweyo. Iikhosi zokulungiselela zilungile kuba iingcali ziya kukuxelela indlela yokuzolalisa ngaphambi kokuzala, indlela yokulungisa kakuhle umzimba wakho wokubeletha kunye nexesha lokugqibela emva kokubeleka.
- Uqeqesho lwamaziko. Ukuzivocavoca kunceda xa ukhulelwa, kunika ithemba, ukuba ulungele ukuzalwa kungekuphela kwendlela yokuziphatha, kodwa nangokwenyama. Ukongezelela, umsebenzi osebenzayo unceda ekukhululeni i-endorphins-hormones yolonwabo, okuyimfuneko kakhulu kumfazi okhulelwe.
- Ukugcinwa kolawulo. Urhulumente ochanekileyo wolu suku unceda ukuphucula isimo sengqondo kunye nenhlalakahle. Qinisekisa ukubandakanya kwisicwangciso semisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ukuhlala ixesha elide emoyeni omtsha. Oku akuncedi kuphela wena kunye nosana, kodwa kunceda "ukuvuselela" iingcamango.
- Unxibelelwano oluhle. Zama ukungagxininisi kuphela kuwe kunye neengcamango zakho. Nika ixesha elingakumbi kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo, kwaye oku, kwakhona, kuya kunika umrhumo wendlela enhle kunye nethemba.