Abazali abaninzi emva kokuzalwa komntwana baqala ukunyamekela imiqondiso, ngakumbi ukuba bayathinta umntwana. Njengoko uyazi, igama linempembelelo enamandla ebomini bomntu nakwixesha elizayo , ngoko ukhetho lwakhe lufanele luphathwe ngokufanelekileyo. Umxholo oqhelekileyo kutheni awukwazi ukubiza umnyana wakho uyise. Inkummme ezininzi ekuzuzeni ukubulela zingathanda ukubiza umntwana wazo ngokuhlonipha umyeni wakhe, kodwa isibonakaliso sibangele ukungathandabuzeki, okufuneka kuqondwe.
Kutheni ungeke ubizele umntwana egameni likayihlo?
Lo mqondiso unentsingiselo emininzi, umzekelo, ukuhluka okukhethiweyo kukuthi ukuba ngamagama afanayo obawo kunye nomntwana baya kufaka isandla sokuba okokuqala kuza kuphinda kubakho isithuba sesibini. Ukuthetha nokuba umntwana unokuthiwa igama emva kobawo, kufuneka kubhekiswe enye into ebalulekileyo: ukuba abantu ababini abanegama elifanayo bahlala kunye, baya kuba nelosi enye yomgcini. Oku kuthetha ukuba bobabili uyise kunye nendodana baya kubuthakathaka ngokukhuselwa kwamandla, oko kuthetha ukuba umngcipheko weengxaki ezahlukeneyo ukwandisa kakhulu.
Kukho olunye ukuchazwa kweempawu, kutheni kungenakwenzeka ukubiza unyana ngokuthi igama likayise, ngokubhekiselele kulowo mntwana anikezelwa ngumntu ombi. Phakathi kwabantu kukho uluvo lokuba abantwana abanjalo banengqondo, banomsindo kwaye abazi ukuba banxibelelana njani nabantu ababajikelezile.
Iingcali zeengqondo zineengcamango zabo nokuba ngaba kungenzeka ukuba ubize umntwana igama likayise, kwaye ke bacinga ukuba akufanelekile ukwenza izinto ezinjalo, kuba kunomngcipheko omkhulu ukuba unyana akayi kuzibona njengomntu ohlukeneyo okanye ukuba uya kuthanda ubomi bakhe bonke Yiba ngcono kunomzali wakho.
Kukho nezinye izinto ezingavunyelwe ukuba ziqwalaselwe xa ukhetha igama lomntwana wakho:
- Abaninzi bakhetha umntwana wabo igama longcwele, onokukhumbula usuku lwakhe. Kule meko, ungakhethi igama lomfel 'ukholo.
- Akuvumelekile ukuba ukhethele umntwana igama lomntu oshonile wosapho. Kukholelwa ukuba umntwana unokuphinda abuyele kwixesha lezihlobo. Ungakhethi igama lomntwana oshonile kwintsapho kumntwana, kuba imeko ingabuya.
- Akukhuthazwa ukuba ukhethe umntwana kungekhona nje igama loyise, kodwa kunye nonina kunye nezinye izihlobo eziseduze. Ngokomqondiso, omnye wabo uya kufa.
Phakathi kwabantu, uphawu oluthile luqhelekileyo, ngokubhekiselele kulowo ongenakuxelela mntu igama lomntwana wakhe phambi kwe- christenings , ukuze bangabi naye.