Ukutolika kwamaphupha ngamanye amaxesha kunokubangela ubunzima. Ukucacisa intsingiselo yayo, umntu kufuneka aqale ukusuka kwimifanekiso ethile. Umzekelo, akufuneki ukujonga nje impendulo kumbuzo weso sivakalisi ophuphayo ngayo, kodwa ukucacisa ukuba ngaba lesi siphakamiso somtshato okanye umsebenzi. Kule meko kuya kwenzeka ukuba ufumane inkcazelo echanekileyo yephupha lakho kwaye uqaphele ulwazi olunjalo.
Yintoni isibonelelo sesandla nentliziyo ephuphayo?
Ukubona iphupha ngomtshato yintombazana engatshatanga okanye ibhinqa ngumqondiso omhle. Yaye inokutolika ngokuchanekileyo. Unokukwazi ukuxela ezinye izinto ezingalindelekanga, kodwa ezithandekayo. Abafazi abaye bazibophelela ngomtshato, elophupha likwazi ukuxela utshintsho ebomini bomntu bomntu onobuhle, ezihlobene nezihlobo, abaqhelana nabo, oogxa nabo. Okanye uthetha malunga nokuqala kokuvumelana ngokubanzi kunye nendoda yakhe.
Kutheni uhlawulelo ludibana?
Iphupha malunga nokuqala kobudlelwane phakathi kwabathandekayo kufuneka kwakhona kuthathwa njengempumelelo. Ba thembisa intombazana ukuba kuvele intlungu yothando phakathi kwakhe kunye nomfana osele ephupheni. Nangona umntu engamazi okwamanje. Iphupha lisithi ngokukhawuleza intlanganiso enomdla kunye nalo mfokazi iya kwenzeka. Kwakhona, ukulala kunokuthetha ngokunyaniseka kwentombazana, malunga nokungakwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe .
Yintoni eyenziwa ngumsebenzi?
Ukunikezelwa komsebenzi, kubonwa kwiphupha, kufuneka kuguqulelwe njengokutshintsha kokukhawuleza kwenguqu. Kwaye, akunakwenzeka ukuba uhambelane notshintsho kwimiba yomsebenzi. Mhlawumbi, ngokuchasene noko, kwindawo yokusebenza yomntu umntu ulindele ukunyuswa okanye ukwanda kwimivuzo. Ezinye iincwadi zephupha kumbuzo wokuba isiphakamiso somsebenzi omtsha uphuphayo siphendulwa ngolu hlobo: omnye kufuneka alungiselele abaqhelana nabo, iimpumelelo kunye, mhlawumbi, uhambo lwezoshishino.