Indlela yokusinda isisu ngumbuzo onzima. Ngenxa yokuba kuluntu lwethu lonke uxanduva lokukhulelwa ngokuphazamiseka ngokutsha luya kutshintshela kumfazi osele kunzima. Ukuvakalelwa yecala kunye nokuzisola, kungakhankanyi imiphumo enokwenzeka, kude nokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuchaphazela isimo sengqondo kunye nempilo ngokubanzi. Yaye inyaniso yokuba umfazi emva kokukhipha isisu kufuneka uncedo lwengqondo, aluhambanga nhlobo.
Kodwa iingxoxo malunga nokukhipha isisu azipheli, kodwa ngelo xesha ziyaxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo, ngenxa yokuba, ngaphezu kweengxaki zokuziphatha nokuziphatha, kukho iimeko ezahlukahlukeneyo ezingenakuthi ziqwalaselwe "ngabacebisi." Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunjalo, masibuyele kwisihloko sendlela yokusinda isisu emva kwesiganeko.
Psychology yokukhipha isisu
Nangona ibhinqa ligqibile ukuphazamisa ukukhulelwa ngokucacileyo, ayithethi ukuba akayi kuhlangabezana neengxaki ezinzulu zengqondo kwixesha elizayo. Iziganeko ezimbini zokuphuhliswa kweemeko zihluke kakhulu. Kwimeko yokuqala, ukuphulwa kwexesha lokukhupha isithuba kubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwifomu:
- iimvakalelo zecala nokuzisola;
- ukwanda komsindo;
- ukuxotha okusisigxina;
- iingcinga zokuzibulala;
- iimvakalelo zokulahleka okungenakulinganiswa;
- ukunyanzeliswa, njl
Njengomthetho, abafazi abanjalo bathatha uxanduva ngokupheleleyo kwizinto abazenzileyo, kwaye le yinyathelo lokuqala lokuxolela nokubuyiswa kokomoya.
Ngenye inguqulo, ibhinqa liyakushiya ingxaki ixesha elide, livale yona. Ubonakaliso obusondeleyo bexesha lokukhishwa kwesisu lidla ngokubonakalayo:
- ukunciphisa i-libido ( umnqweno wesondo );
- ugonyamelo;
- ukuphazamiseka kokulala;
- intloko;
- ukwandisa ukunxila kotywala, njl
Kukho nawuphi na, iimpawu ezifanayo zibonakala zifana namazinga ahlukeneyo phantse zonke izigulane emva kokukhipha isisu kwaye zifuna uncedo lwengqondo olufike ngexesha.
Imiba yokuziphatha nokuziphatha
Imeko yowesifazane emva kokukhipha isisu ithinteke kwiimeko ezininzi. Lo uluvo lukawonkewonke, isimo sengqondo somlingane, iinkolelo zonqulo, utshintsho lwezinto eziphilayo kunye ne-hormonal. Kodwa okokuqala, oku kucinga ukuba kwenzeke ntoni, apho ixesha lokubuyisela lixhomekeke ngqo.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunokuba buhlungu ukuba uphume isisu:
- Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ngokupheleleyo oko kwenzeka.
- Emva koko ukwamukelwa kweqiniso lokuba akukho ndlela yokubuyela kuyo: akuzisoli okanye ukuzisola komntwana kuya kubuyiselwa.
- Kwaye inqanaba elona lukhuni kakhulu ukuxolela. Ukwenza oku, ungaqala ngokuxolelwa ngabanye, abaye bathatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezenzekayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukuxolelwa yindlela kuphela yokuphuma kwimeko yangoku ebuyisela uxolo kwengqondo.