Uyakuthanda ukuziphatha kakuhle "uphila ngokufanelekileyo", "wenza okungahambiyo", "zonke izenzo zakho ziphosakele"? Mhlawumbi hayi, kwaye bambalwa abantu baya kukwazi ukuphulaphula iingcebiso ixesha elide, indlela yokuphila ngokufanelekileyo. Kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngalokhu - wonke umntu ufanele aphile ubomi bakhe, fumana indlela yakhe, ukuba ufuna, kunye nokuphazamiseka kwabanye abantu akufanelekanga apha. Ngoko ke, ukuphendula okungalunganga kwiingcebiso ezininzi kunobulungisa. Ngoko ke umthetho wokuqala wokuphila - ibhunga liya kuviwa kuphela xa kuyimfuneko, ngoko xelela abanye indlela yokuphila ngokufanelekileyo xa ucelwa ukuba wenze njalo. Kodwa kulula ukuthetha ngobomi bomnye umntu kunokuziqonda zakho. Kuthetha ukuthini ukuhlala ngokufanelekileyo, kunye nendlela yokuyifunda?
Ngaba ndihlala kulungile?
Ukuba enkundleni yakho umbuzo wazalwa, ngaba ndihlala ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba, nale nto unengxaki. Ukuba yonke into yayilungiselelwe, bekungekho ndawo kwiingcamango zakho malunga nemibuzo enjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzekayo xa ungafumani nto oyifunayo. Oko kukuthi, wenza into ethile - umsebenzi, ufunde, khangela iinkalo ezintsha zokufaka izicelo zeetalente zakho, kodwa akukho nanye yale nto ikukusondeza kwinjongo. Yaye yonke into ngenxa yokuba awuyiyo into elandelayo, uhlala uhamba malunga neminqweno yabo. Inkohliso enkulu kukufunda ukufuna ukwenza okulungileyo. Ewe, ukuze uqaphele apho ungahamba ngaphandle kokucwangcisa (ubuncinci ubuncinane), awukwazi ukwenza. Khangela iinjongo ezicacileyo, ofuna ukufezekiswa ngexesha elithile. Emva koko, cinga ngeendlela zokufumana injongo kwaye uqale ukuqhubela phambili.
Kodwa imeko ingahluka - ulungile, kwaye ngokuchaseneyo uyaqinisekiswa, izalamane, abamelwane, abaxhamli bezinto eziqhelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo, bonke abangabonisi. Kule meko, kufuneka uchaze kubo bonke "abanqwenela kakuhle" ukuba ukuba ufuna iiluleko zomntu, umele umcele, kwaye kude kube ngoko kulungile ukuyeka ukuphawula ngobomi bakho.
Indlela yokufunda ukuhlala ngokufanelekileyo?
Cinga ukuba wena ngokwakho uyaqonda ukuba ubomi bakho abuphelelanga. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko, indlela yokuqala ukuhlala ngokufanelekileyo? Mhlawumbi oku kulandelayo kukuphendule kulo mbuzo.
- Ukucwangcisa, ukusebenza ngekamva kuyamangalisa, kodwa akukho nto ebhetele kunokuba ususe uvuyo lwakho "ngomso." Qala uzonwabela ubomi ngoku, ungalibali inkqubela phambili ekujoliswe kuyo.
- Ungalindela umzuzu ofanelekileyo ukuba uya kutshintshiselana ngemali kwizinga elifanelekileyo kwaye uyazi ukuba ekupheleni kweveki kuya kuba njalo. Kodwa ukulinda ixesha elifanelekileyo, kungabi namanyathelo okuba, akunangqondo. Awunakuze udibane nombhanki onokukunika ubukho obukhululekile, awunakuze unethamsanqa kwi-lottery, umphathi awukwazi ukuqaphela iitalente zakho kwaye ungenzi umphathi weprojekthi. Ngoko keka ukuphupha kunye nethemba lenhlanhla yamathambo, qala ukusebenza ngoku.
- Abanye abantu bazisa zonke iintsilelo zabo kwiNkcazo, kulungile kakhulu. Kodwa masibe neengqiqo-mhlawumbi ezinye iziganeko kwaye zenziwe zivela phezulu, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba zonke izinyathelo zethu zibhaliswe kwincwadi ye-Forensics, oko kuthetha ukuba sinokutshintsha yonke into.
- Bonke abantu bahluke, uyazi oku? Ngoko, akukho mfuneko yokuguqula nabani na okholweni lwakho, kungcono ukuzama ukufumana enye into yakho kwienkolelo zomnye umntu. Funda kwabanye abantu - ayinamahloni kwaye akaze aphuze.
- Ngaba uxelwa ukuba uhlala ngendlela engafanelekanga? Indlela efanelekileyo yokuyikholisa ngokuchaseneyo akuyikuphikisana kuze kube yinto ephazamisayo, kodwa ubomi obuhle. Qalisa ukuhlala ukuze yonke imini uvelise uvuyo, vumela ukuba ube nethemba. Xa ubona ukuba uyavuya, abantu bayayeka ukuthetha ngokungalunganga kwezenzo zakho.
- Musa ukukhwele umntu, wonke umntu unengxaki, nje ngumdlali ongcono kunawe. Khumbula, isityebi siyakhala, kwaye intombazana enomothekayo onomsindo ebusuku ibonisa indlela efanelekileyo yokuzibulala. Ngoko uyeke ukukhwele, kungcono ube yinto yokukhwele.
- Ungesabi ukuvuma ukungazi, ukwazi konke akunakwenzeka, ukwesaba ukungazi, ukungafuni ukufunda nantoni na.
- Imali ayifanele ibe yiphelo ngokwayo, yindlela nje. Kwaye ukuba awuhlali kwisiqingatha-indlala kwaye ube nophahla phezu kwentloko yakho, akufuneki ukuba ulale ngokwaneleyo kumzamo wokufumana ipenithi eyongezelelweyo.
- Musa ukulungela wonke umntu, ulawule ngisho nabangcwele, njenjalo
into eyanelisayo kuwe. - Ungazami ukubonakala ubhetele kunokuba kunjalo - kuphela imikhosi iya kutshabalaliswa. I-Pokazuha - intloko yabaselula, ngokwenene sele ushiye kweli minyaka?
- Ebomini, kukho indawo yokuphumelela nokuphumelela, ulonwabo olukhulu kunye nosizi olukhulu. Yamkele yonke into ngokubulela, ngaphandle kokungabikho kwezi zibonda, asisoze sakwazi ukuqonda okulungileyo ebomini-ubuhlobo, uthando, ububele, uvuyo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni-ukufunda iincwadi eziyimfuneko kuyimfuneko, kodwa izifundo ezilungileyo zifundiswa nguBomi. Ngoko qalisa ukwenza kwaye ungesabi iimpazamo, akukho mntu ukhuselekile kubo.