Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato kwimeko yokuba ngaba abatshatileyo banabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka engama-18, bobabini eRashiya nase-Ukraine baqhutywa kuphela enkundleni. Ngelo xesha, i-judicial judiciary ihlolisisa iimeko ezininzi ezinokuthi zithintele impilo engakumbi yomntwana. Kule nqaku, siya kukuxelela ngubani umntwana ohlala naye ngokuqhawula abazali, kwaye ziziphi iimeko eziqwalaselwe ngolu hlobo.
Oonyana abancinci bahlala bani ekuqhawuleni umtshato?
Okokuqala, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba amalungelo omama nonina kumntwana ekuqhawuleni umtshato ayenjalo ngokufanayo. Nangona ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abaselula bahlala kunye nonina, oku akuthethi ukuba upapa akanalo ilungelo lokushiya umntwana wakhe ekhaya.
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphuhliswa kweemeko, apho indawo yokuhlala kuyo umntwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato, ingaba:
- Indlela elula kunye neyona ndlela ifumaneka kakhulu yokusombulula le ngxaki kukukwenza isivumelwano kubantwana ngaphambi kokuba isigqibo senkundla sigqitywe. Kule meko, ubaba nomama banqume ngokwabo kwaye bavumelana nobani oza kuhlala umntwana, kunye nendlela umzali wesibili eya kufundisa ngayo nokuyigcina. Ngelo xesha, abafazi abangevumi ukuvumelanisa kuphela ukufundiswa komntu omnye, kodwa kunye nokudibanisa, apho umntwana uya kuhlala nabo bobabini abazali ngokunye. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba isibini sinabantwana abangaphezu kweyodwa, kwaye emininzi, kwimiqulu enjalo ibonisa ukuba omnye okanye abaninzi abantwana bahlala kunye nonina, kunye nabanye - kunye noyise. Kule meko, inkundla kufuneka ihlole kwaye ivume isivumelwano ngokukhawuleza ukuba imimiselo yayo ayinakuphulwa amalungelo amancinci kuluntu.
- Ngelishwa, abaninzi abantu abatshatyalaliswayo, ekutshatweni komtshato benqabile nokuba bathethe, kwaye ngoko abanakho ukuvumelana nantoni na. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, indlela yokwahlula umntwana kwisiqhawulo-mtshato iya kugqitywa yinkantolo, ingqalelo imeko efana nepropati yabazali bobabini, ubukho bokuxhomekeka kwezilwanyana, kunye nomnqweno wenkwenkwe okanye intombazana engaphezu kweminyaka eyi-10 ubudala.
Ingaba indoda ingathatha umntwana ngomtshato?
Namhlanje, ootata abanothando nabanyamekelayo abafuna ukuphakamisa nokunyamekela abantwana babo emva kokutshatyalaliswa komtshato,
- ukuxhomekeka kotywala okanye ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi komama, ukuziphatha kwakhe okubi;
- ukungabikho kwemali;
- ukungabi nendawo yokuhlala;
- ukungaqondakali kwengqondo kumama womntwana;
- uhlobo lokuhamba lomsebenzi wakhe, olungavumelekanga ukubonelela ngononophelo oluyimfuneko umntwana.