Ucinga ukuba uqhelekileyo phakathi kukaMerlin Monroe noFidel Castro? - Xa bezalwa, abazali babo abatshatile. Ukususela ekuzalweni, babethwala ukungabikho mthethweni, kwaye ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20 kwakungelula. Uluntu olugcinayo lukholelwa ukuba abantwana abanjalo banelungelo lokuziphatha kakubi, kungekhona njengendlela yokuziphatha kwaye bengabalulekanga njengontanga yabo kwiintsapho ezintle. Uphando oluthile lwabafundi bezengqondo zagxotha ezi ngcamango eziphosakeleyo. Kanye kunye nesimo sengqondo kubantwana abangekho mthethweni, amalungelo abo ashintshile. Masibone ukuba yimaphi amalungelo abantwana abangenalo mthethweni namhlanje.
Ukulingana ngokomthetho
Umthetho wamazwe amaninzi namhlanje akenzi umntwana ongekho mthethweni kwi-social discast. Ngokusemthethweni, umthetho uphelele ngokupheleleyo kwicala lomntwana onjalo, kumnika amalungelo alinganayo nabanye abantwana abazalwa emtshatweni.
Bobabini abazali banyanzelekile ukuba baxhase abantwana babo abancinci, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baye babhalisa ubudlelwane babo kunye nekhontrakthi yomtshato okanye cha. Kwimeko yokuhluleka kukayise ukufeza imisebenzi yakhe ngesiseko sokuhlolwa kwemfuyo, unina unako ukubuyisela kumntwana wengane engekho mthethweni enkundleni. Ngomntwana omnye, utata kufuneka ahlawule ikota yengeniso yakhe yenyanga.
Ukongezelela, ukuba umntwana usungulwe, umntwana ongekho mthethweni unelungelo lokudla ilifa lepropati ngokulinganayo kunye nezinye izindlalifa zesigaba sokuqala. (Umthetho ngokufa kwezingane ezingekho mthethweni ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala kungalunganga kulutsha olutsha lomntu ongenamdla.)
... kunye nokungalingani
Nangona kunjalo, ngoku siyiqwalasela okwenene, kwaye kungekhona nje imiba esemthethweni yombuzo:
- Ayikho yonke intsapho inokukwazi ukukhupha ukuhlolwa kwe-DNA efanelekileyo, okuyimfuneko ekumiseni ubuhlobo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona ukuba uzalane lusekwe - le nto ayisoloko ithetha ubomi obukhululekile kumntwana ongekho mthethweni.
- Ootata abaninzi banamahloni ekuhlawulelweni ngokunyanisekileyo kwe-alimony, kunika inkxaso kuphela "ngokubhekiselele kwileta yomthetho", oko kukuthi, ukuchithwa kuphela kwi "mvuzo omhlophe".
- Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uyise, ozala owamiselwa enkundleni, unokungaphazamisa ngokungenangqiqo ukuhamba kwentlawulo yomntwana kunye nonina. Oko kukuthi, umzekelo, unganiki imvume yokuhamba komntwana omncinci ngaphandle. Kwaye ngaphandle kwemvume enjalo, unina onomntwana akayi kuwela umda wehlabathi.
Ngaloo ndlela, nangona ngokomthetho amalungelo omntwana ozelwe ngaphandle komtshato alingana namalungelo omntwana ozelwe ngokusemthethweni, ngokwenene umphumo waloo mntwana uncike kuphela kwiimpawu zokuziphatha zabazali bakhe kunye nokukwazi ukufumana ukulungelelaniswa kwiimeko zobomi ezinzima.