Abantwana abaneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu bangabonakaliyo okanye bangacatshulwa ngokungazenzisiyo - zonke iingxaki zezingane zisetyenziselwa ukuxazulula ngokukhalela nokukhala. Ukuba kukho ukungquzulwano, umntwana ungena kumlo okanye aphephe umhlalaphantsi. Kodwa umntwana ukhula kwaye ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuqeqesha isazela sakho. Injongo yokwenene ayisoloko ihambelana nokulindela kwakhe, le yeso sizathu sokwakhiwa kwecala lomntwana.
Intukuthelo yintliziyo engenangqiqo kwaye engenamsebenzi. Umntwana okhubazekile, endaweni yokutshitshisa kwakhe, uvale iimvakalelo zakhe. Akazami ukusombulula le ngxaki, injongo yakhe kukuvusa ukuziva unetyala phakathi kwabo bajikelezile. Oku kuyichaphazela kakhulu imvakalelo yakhe, imisebenzi kunye nolwalamano kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba angalondolozi isenzo kuye, kodwa ukuba afune isisombululo esakhayo kwimeko yangoku, ngaphandle koko isicwangciso sobungozi bokuziphatha sibe yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye, endaweni yokuphumelela nokuqonda, umntwana wakho uya kuba ngumdala ongenelisekile-uya kuhlakulela oko kuthiwa yi-syndrome yomntwana okhubekileyo.
Kutheni umntwana ecasulwa?
- umntwana ukhubekile ukuba akafundile ukuxelela abanye ngeminqweno yakhe. Kuye kunzima ukuqagela okwenzekayo kwangoko kwintloko yakhe, kwaye uyayibona le nto njengento yokungazikhathaleli iimfuno zakhe, ixutywe kwikhonkco, iyathula kwaye ihlaziyeke ngamehlo, ekuthethwa ngayo, indlela onokuyenza ngayo;
- umntwana akanako ukuzityhila kwingqungquthela yakhe neemvakalelo ezithintekayo xa ebona ukuba abanye abazungezile, ngombono wakhe, benza okungalunganga;
- Inkwenkwe isebenzisa ukuhlambalaza, njengendlela yokwenza umdla. Ukuba umntwana ukhubekiswe ngumama wakhe, kwaye uya kuthulisa yonke into aze amthuthuzele, uya kuyithatha njengesiqiniseko sothando kunye nokuziqonda iimfuno zakhe.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomntwana onobubele?
Okokuqala kwaye kufuneka ukuba ubonise ukuba ukuhlambalaza kungenasiphelo kwaye kungabi nako ukuvelisa, kwandisa imeko kwaye akukho ndlela ixazulula iingxaki. Abantwana abavakalelwa uthando, inkxaso kunye nokukhuselwa kwabathandekayo babo bayazi indlela yokusabela ngokukhawuleza umsindo - umsindo okanye ukudabuka.
Umsebenzi wabazali kukunceda umntwana afunde indlela asabele ngayo ngokufanelekileyo, unokukwenza oku ngale ndlela:
- Ncedisa umntwana ukuba aqonde kakuhle oko akuvakalelwa ngethuba. Ndixelele ukuba uyayiqonda isizathu sokuba ethukuthele kwaye yinto engathandekiyo imeko.
- Ukuqonda nokwamkela iimvakalelo ezivela ngenxa yokungquzulana nabanye, nokuba ucinga ukuba umntwana akalungile.
- Yiphathe umntwana njengomntu opheleleyo, uhloniphe iimfuno kunye neminqweno yakhe, nokuba ngaba ayinakwenzekayo okwangoku. Yakha ingxoxo ukuze umntwana azive inkxaso yakho.
Kwezinye iimeko, umntwana ochaphazelekayo kufuneka afundiswe kwakhona. Ezi ziimeko xa, ngenxa yokuhlambalaza kwakhe, uzama ukuphatha abanye. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka:
- Bonisa ukuba le mpawu ayiyi kufeza nantoni na. Kubalulekile ukuziphatha, ngokungathi akukho nto eyenzekayo, ukuzama ukumphazamisa umsebenzi othile onomdla;
- ukuba umntwana ukhubekiswe yizenzo ezibhekiswe kwabanye abantwana, umzekelo, umntu wayedunyiswa, kodwa akayena, kuyimfuneko ukucima umntwana ukuba axhomekeke ekudumiseni, ukuba enze ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo.
Kwezinye iimeko, akunakwenzeka ukungazihoxisi ukuhlambalaza - umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ukhutshwe kwi-kindergarten. Kule meko, kufuneka ufundise umntwana ukuba aphendule kwi-mthetho, kungekhona ngokulwa, kunjalo, kodwa kufuneka ulungele ukuba ngenye imini oku kwenzeka.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, fundisa inkululeko yomntwana yokubonakalisa iimvakalelo, musa ukukhupha isiphepho esikhulu, ngombono wakho, ukubonakaliswa kwazo.