Amanqanaba amatsha obomi ngokuqhelekileyo afaka isidingo sokuphuhlisa nokuphucula, fumana ulwazi olutsha kunye nezakhono, kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lomsebenzi. Kwaye umntu onoxanduva kufuneka alungele izinto ezahlukeneyo zobomi, ingakumbi ukuba le nto imangalisa ukuzaliswa kwintsapho.
Wonke umzali ucinga malunga nokukhuliswa komntwana, mhlawumbi nangaphambi kokuba azalwe, kodwa kungekhona wonke umntu owaziyo ukwenza kakuhle, kuba bonke abantwana bahluke ngokupheleleyo, ubuqu obuhlukile. Kwaye indlela yokusebenza yokufundisa ummi othile osemncinci akahlali esebenza kabini. Kuthekani ngabo bazali abaye banquma ukufumana umntwana, kunye nemikhwa kunye nokuziphatha okwenziwe ngaphambili?
Kubonakala ngathi kunzima ukwenza oko ucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko? Uqala ukuzama ukungazivumeli iimpazamo zabazali bakho, uhlalutye ubuhlungu obuhle bahlobo kunye nokuzama ukwenza okunye. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku akwaneleyo. Yaye ungayithumela njani umntwana ukuba ufuna ntoni na? Emva kwakho konke, ukuba unomusa kakhulu nomntwana, unokuyiphatha ngokulula, kwaye ukhulele umntwana ongenamdla, "onzima". Ngokufanayo, unako ukunqoba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ulahlekelwe yintlonipho kwaye uthembele kuwe. Yaye ukusola oku kuya kuba yedwa. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma ukufunda. Kwaye esinye sezixazululo ezilula kunye "nesabelomali" ukuthenga incwadi ekukhuliseni abantwana.
Ukuza kwisitoreji, ii-counters zizele izitifiketi ezahlukileyo kunye nezihloko eziphathekayo zeencwadi, zininzi zazo, kuba inyaniso iyinyani. Kodwa indlela yokukhetha kanye into oyifunayo, indlela yokuthenga incwadi eya kuba ngumlingani wakho kule nto ayikho nje into enomdla kodwa yinto ebalulekileyo? Amanyathelo amaninzi asekelwe kumanyathelo athatyathwe ngamanyathelo anokuxelela ukuba wenze njani kwimeko ethile. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu okwazi ukukholelwa umbhali aze alandele ngokungaqhelekanga i-algorithm. Ukongezelela, ubuninzi beendlela azisebenzi ngokusebenzayo, okanye bachaza izinto ezivelele.
Iincwadi zePerelopativ zi-pu kwimfundo yabantwana, abalobi abahlukahlukeneyo kunye nabavakalisi, uyaqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukufumana indlela esebenza ngokwenene.
Kodwa isisombululo safunyanwa. Incwadi eyenza ucinge, uphuhlise, kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu: ukuphuhlisa uxanduva lwakho. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunzima ukuphendula ngenxa yezenzo zabo phambi komntwana, kuba kulula kakhulu ukumnqabela nantoni na, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uza kuphinda aphinde. Ababhali bencwadi ekubhekiselwe kuyo bayabana bakaJohn noKaren Miller, abazali babantwana abasixhenxe! Aba bantu bayazi malunga nokukhuliswa kwabantwana kungekhona ngetyala. Le ncwadi kulula ukuyifunda, iqulethe iingcamango ezincedo, ezilula kakhulu, kunye neziphakamiso ezifanelekileyo. Inkqubo yabalobi bencwadi ibandakanyi iindlela ze-template zokukhulisa abantwana, ijoliswe ekuphuhlisweni kobuqu, ezayo ekuncedeni ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezisebenzayo kwimisebenzi yokukhulisa abantwana.
Incwadi ethi "Imithetho Yemihlali Eyoyolo" yayingunkulunkulu. Kuhluke ngokupheleleyo kwezinye iincwadi zezihloko ezifanayo. Le ncwadi iza kunceda ukuxazulula ezininzi (kubandakanywa nexesha elide) iingxaki ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabazali nabantwana, kungakhathaliseki ubudala babo, kuba akusayi kukhawuleza ukufunda.
UAndreya, uyise wabantwana ababini.