Ukulahla akuthwali nto into enhle okanye ngokwenene, okanye ephupheni. Umntu olele oye wabona iphupha apho ephuzile angase avuke kusasa edinwe kwaye akhathazeke. Ngamanye amaxesha iphupha elinjalo libonakalisa lula ngokukhawuleza kokuphila, xa umntu efuna ukwenza izinto ezininzi kunokuba anethuba. Kule meko, ingqondo, nokuba ephupheni, ayikwazi ukuphelisa ukuxhatshazwa kunye noyiko lokungahlali ngexesha.
Nangona kunjalo, iincwadi zephupha zinikeza ukutolika kwazo kwento abaphuphayo ukuba ifike emva kwexesha.
Kutheni ufuna ukuphupha?
Kwiincwadi zephupha unokufumana ukutolika okunjalo, nawaphi amaphupha aphuphe:
- Ukulahla kungaphupha kumntu ngaphambi kokuba kukho nawuphi na umcimbi okanye uhambo olubi. Kule meko, iphupha libonisa ithuba lokulahlekelwa ithuba elihle.
- Ukukhawuleza ukuthutha kwiphupha kuthetha ukuba umntu akazalanga umcimbi obalulekileyo. Iifowuni zokulala, kulo mzekelo, ukucinga malunga nantoni na engenziwanga kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokuzigqiba.
- Ixesha elide lokuqeqesha ithetha ukudideka kwisenzo esibalulekileyo kubantu. Ukuba isitimela sishiya, kufuneka ucinge kwakhona izicwangciso zakho, mhlawumbi, ulahle ezinye.
- Kukho ukutolika okungafaniyo kwamanye amaphupha malunga nokutshatyalaliswa komtshato wakhe. Ukuba ngokwenene kukho umyeni, eli phupha liyakwazi ukuxela ingxabano naye. Kwezinye iimeko, ubuthongo bungabhekisela kwiingxaki zezinto eziphathekayo okanye izithintelo ekuphunyezweni kwezicwangciso.
- Iphupha umntu aphuthumayo ephupheni lokuzalisekisa isithembiso sakhe, unokuthetha ngokuphumelela okuzayo okanye ukunqoba.
- Ukuba umntu sele ephuzile ephusheni ngephupha, unqabile, ezama ukukhawuleza, uthetha ngokukhathala kunye nesidingo sokuphumla.
- Ukwesaba ukuphuthuma kwiphupha kungabonisa ukwesaba ukulahleka ithuba lokuba uqonde iphupha lakho.
- Ngokuphathelele ukutolika, kutheni amaphupha aphelile emsebenzini, ngoko uluhlu olukhulu lwephupha lukholelwa ukuba eli phupha lithetha ngokuchanekileyo komntu olele, abanye abafuni ukuyiqonda, kodwa okuza kuvela ngokukhawuleza.