Ixesha elihle lokuncelisa ibele lishiywa ngasemva, i-kindergarten ihamba phambili kwaye ukungena komntwana kwindawo yangempela yabantu abadala. Kodwa kukho phakathi kwezi zinto zibini eziphakathi eziphanga yonke into. Igama lakhe ibhotile. Kuomama abaninzi abangakaze bafumane isondlo sokufakelwa, ingxaki ibonakala nzima. Emva koko, kunzima kakhulu ukuthambisa kwi-esifubeni. Kodwa ukuba ususe "inyosi" ethandekayo evela kumntwana wakho, ngubani umzekelo, uneminyaka engama-1.5 ubudala, oku akuyona into elula ukuyenza. Ungayichitha njani ngaphandle kokulimaza umntwana wakho?
Indlela yokululela umntwana wakho kwibhotile?
Iyintoni ibhotile kwintsana esesondlo sokufakelwa? Okokuqala, luphawu loxolo noxolo. Ukuvuka ebusuku okanye kusasa ngelixa umama esalala, unokuzifumana ngokuzimeleyo "intandokazi" ayithandayo kwaye aphinde alele naye. Ukuba ubisi luphela ngokukhawuleza, kuba umntwana ufana neentlekele. Ngoko ke, kumbandela wokungabikho umntwana kumntwana, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ulungele ngokwengqondo kule nkqubo. Njengoko i-shelf yobomi beebhotile zezingane zi malunga neenyanga eziyi-3-4, ixesha eliphela ngalo, kungenokwenzeka ukuba lilungele ukucoca kwiinambuzane ezixabisekileyo. Kubalulekile ukulandela imithetho emininzi:
- Ingane kufuneka ikwazi ukusela kwisiphuzo kunye nendebe;
- Umzuzwana wokulunywa kwi-ingono akufanele ihambisane nokuxinzezeleka kwengqondo yomntwana;
- umntwana kufuneka akwazi ukutya ukutya okuqinileyo kwi-spoon aze ahlale yedwa;
- Usana kufuneka lube ngaphantsi kweminyaka emibini, ngaphandle koko kuya kuba nzima ukuhlukana ne-pacifier.
Ootitshala bezilwanyana bayacetyiswa ukuba baqale utshintsho kwibhotile ukuya kudla okuqhelekileyo okuvela kwiinyanga ezili-9. Xa sele abazali bezisola ngomntwana wabo kwaye bavumele ukuba bajabulele "i-sauce", iingxaki ngakumbi eziza kuzisa umntwana kwixesha elizayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukusebenzisa ixesha elide ibhotile kunokukhokelela ekuphuhlisweni kokulinywa okungalunganga kunye nokuphuhliswa kwee-caries. Isizathu sesibini sokuba nesimo sengqondo sengqondo esichaphazelekayo kwiibhotile kukuba umntwana udla ubisi obuninzi kangangoko afuna. Oku kukhokelela ekubeni umzimba uphatha kakubi ngokutya okuqinileyo, kwaye ezinye izinto ezilandelwayo zihlanjululwa ngaphandle komzimba.
Ngoko, ukulungelelanisa nezenzo ezinqabileyo, kuba nomonde kwaye ulandele isiluleko esisebenzayo sokusondeza umntwana ebhotile.
Ukuba umntwana akasekho unyaka ubudala:
- Ukuqala ukususela malunga nesiqingatha sonyaka, ngexesha lokusungula okusebenzayo kokutya okuncedisayo, vumela umntwana uzame ukusela kwindebe. Ubuncinane i-sips yosuku ngalunye liya kukuvumela ukuba utshintshe ngokupheleleyo ukusela kumgudu ngeenyanga ezili-9. Ngelo xesha, ibhotile ephethe i-spoonful epheleleyo. Kuya kuvumela umntwana ukuba aqaphele ukutya okuqinileyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kufunda ukutya kwi-spoon rhoqo.
- Ukuba umntwana ubelethwe de iinyanga ezili-8-9, ukucoca esifuba, ungamniki ibhotile, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ufundise ukusela kwindebe.
- Ukugxotha umntwana kwendebe, makhe aphuze ngokuthe ngqo xa ehlamba. Kulapho awuyi kuba nexhala lokuba uya kungcola kwaye adakwe.
Indlela yokululela kumntwana osiswini, okungaphezulu kweenyanga ezili-12:
- Ngethuba lokutya kwemini, ungamniki umntwana ibhotile. Okokuqala, ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo ubisi okanye nayiphi na into ephazamisayo isithintela ukutya. Okwesibini, ungathatha indawo yengxube ngokusela kwendebe.
- Zama ukudlala umgaqo "wokutya ongenakudliwa." Ngokomzekelo, faka ityuwa encinane okanye amanzi kubisi kwibhotile. Uze uthele indebe yobisi obuqhelekileyo. Ngexesha elide, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba kunomnandi ukusela kwendebe kwaye ushiye ibhotile
- Kubazali abanabantwana abangaphezu kweminyaka yobudala bombuzo wendlela yokukrazula ingxowa yinkxalabo kakhulu. Iintsana zinamathele kwibhotile, kwaye ukucoca kunzima gqitha kwaye kunzima. Kule meko, iindlela zokunyathela ngamanyathelo aziyi kusebenza, ngoko uzama ezinye iindlela:
- ukuba umntwana sele sele sele ephakathi kweminyaka emibini ubudala, kuyafaneleka ukuba achazele kuye ukuba sele sele ekhulu kwaye sekuyisikhathi sokubamba nebhotile. Phakamisa umdlalo wenkomo: iveki ngaphambi kokuba ukuhlukana kuqale ukulungiselela lo mcimbi. Ngokuqhelekileyo masisiphuze emgodini. Phakamisa ukuba ukhetha umgudu oqaqambileyo kunye nomhle kakhulu. Ukuze ungakhathazeki ngaphandle kokuba "uncelise" umntwana unokunikezelwa ukugubha ithoyizi yakho oyithandayo. Ngomhla we-X kufuneka ususe zonke iibhotile uze ubonise ukuba ngoku ixesha lokuhlala ngaphandle kwazo.
Umvuzo kwaye ukhuthaze umntwana ukuba uthe wachitha yonke imini ngaphandle kwebhotile ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza; - Indlela enkulu yokuthambisa umntwana kwisipuni ngaphandle kwezinyembezi kukukhawulela "iholide leholide". Unokuyilungiselela, umzekelo, ngokutyelela abahlobo abanesana. Yibhabhise ibhotile ngamabhokhwe kunye neerbhoni uze uchaze umntwana usukubaluleke kakhulu "uLali". Vumela umntwana wakho abeke "ngenene" le bhotile. Qiniseka ukumdumisa ngokuba ngumdala, kwaye uyinkwenkwe enkulu, ukuba wenza isipho esinjalo. Ingane iya kuba nekratshi ngesenzo sayo kwaye iimbumba ziyayeka ukuba nomdla kuye.
Ukuba ungenabuhlungu ukhula umntwana ususelwa kwibhotile ekhethiweyo, akufuneki nje ukuba uhluthe i-psyche kwaye uhlupheke kuyo, kodwa unika imizekelo efanelekileyo. Musa ukusela iibhotile ukusuka kwintsana, kuba ngaphezu kwesigamu sezenzo zakhe ezenzayo, ukukopisha abazali bakhe. Bonisa umntanakho indlela elula kunye nokumnandi ukusela kwindebe. Kwaye ke ukugcoba kwi-ingono, endaweni yentlekele, kuya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo kunye nexanduva lokukhula.