Uthando ngamanye amaxesha lugubungela amehlo ukwenzela ukuba umlingani enze isigqibo sokuphulaphula imithetho yemvelo nokuyalela intliziyo yomnye. Yaye iindawo zokuhlaziya ukuya kumatshini omnyama obunzima - isipelo. Ngale ndlela, ngendlela, ayikhuthazi uthando, ibopha kuphela inhlanhla kumlumbi. Kwaye umntu ophethwe ngopelo, unentlungu enkulu. Ulahlekelwa ngumnqweno wakhe, uba ngumsindo, abe nexinezelekile, aqale ukusela. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntu wakho uziphatha ngokungenakufaneleka, kwaye usola ukuba isiqalekiso senziwe kuye, thatha le nto ezandleni zakho. Emva koko, isenzo sentshukumo enothando enamandla asiyekanga kuphela kumntu onomdla, kodwa nakwintsapho yakhe, kuquka nabantwana. Indlela yokususa ulwaphulo olunamandla ngokwakho, uya kufunda kule ngcaciso.
Ungasusa njani isiphelo ebandleni?
Icawa ilahla nayiphi na imbonakalo yemilingo, oko kukuthi, ukuba ungumntu okholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo, ngoko umbingeleli akanakukusikelela nakwezinye iindlela.
Ukuba isipelingi senziwa ngumntwana omncinane, intombazana engenamava, ngamanye amaxesha amakhandlela alaneleyo kwimpilo yemithandazo ethandekayo kunye nokufunda ukuya kwinqanaba. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ujongene nobuthakathi obuqilileyo, kuya kufuneka uchithe ixesha elide ixesha lokupasa.
- idilesi kumntu ophezulu ngokomoya;
- unxibe umnqamlezo, uye ecaweni rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka, imithandazo yokufunda yempilo. Yiya kwiinkonzo, ngakumbi kwieholide;
- ngexesha lokususwa kwepelo, wenqaba ukutyelela ezonwabisa (ukuya kwiiklabhu, kwiivenkile, njl);
- landela iingcebiso ezinikezwa ngumfundisi.
Ungasusa njani uthando lwakho?
Zama enye yeendlela ezilandelayo:
Isithethe kunye neentlanzi zesonka
- Uya kuyidinga: isiqwenga sesonka se-rye esomileyo, ama-5 amakhanda anikezelwe ngecawa (omnyama, waxy) kunye ne-napkin;
- Ukuhlala wedwa ekhaya, ukhanyisa onke amakhandlela kanye, usasaze i-napkin phambi kwakho;
- izihlandlo ezintathu ziwela kunye nesonka kwaye uqale ukuzithela kwi-napkin yokusabalalisa, utsho amagama athi "isonka sinqabana njani, ngoko ukhonkxa lwakho luyehla";
- uxoke isonka, ubophe ngeqhina uze uhlale phezulu. Ukuhlala kuya kuba neeyure ezingama-2;
- emva kwe-crumb, uthele kwiipokethi kunye nezicathulo zomyeni wakhe. Yongeza kongeza ukutya.
Isithethe kunye namakhandlela
Olu khetho lufanelekile ukuba uyazi igama lekosikazi.
- uthathe ikhandlela elimnyama nelomfusa, kwaye kwiphepha lephepha bhala kumacala amabini amagama: indoda kunye nenkosikazi;
- ukukhanyisa ikhandlela, kwaye unqumle iphepha phakathi kwamagama, unqanyulwe;
- utshise iphepha elinye negama lomyeni kwikhandlela elinye, kwelinye - negama lekosikazi;
- ukubeka umlotha ngezandla ezahlukeneyo, phuma waya kwisitalato kwaye, emva kokulinda umoya, uhlalise umlotha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ungasusa njani ukuphambuka kwothando ekhaya?
Kwenzeka ukuba thina ngokwethu singaba lixhoba lomlingo omnyama. Ukuba uyazi ukuba ngubani isandla, sebenzisa indlela elandelayo:
- ukuthatha isithombe okanye into yomntu womntu owenza i-rite, kwaye uthenge ikhandlela lecawa elingcwelisiweyo;
- Hlala kwisibuko uze ubeke le nto phambi kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukukubona, kodwa ukuba awuvimbele ubuso bakho;
- ukukhanyisa ikhandlela kwaye uqale ukukhangela umfanekiso womntu okanye kwinto yakhe, uzama ukuphazamisa amandla akhe;
- ukuba ulunge, qalisa ukuqhuba ingxoxo nayo ngengqondo. Sebenzisa amabinzana amfutshane, ekupheleni koko uphinda "vumela".
Ukulahlwa kakuhle:
- kokuba ubonise, vula into okanye umfanekiso ojikelezayo, uze uwugubungele ngotshani lomhlonyane okanye inambuzane. Beka ikhandlela;
- kusasa ubeke isithuko sekhandlela ebandleni ngenjongo yokuphila.
Ngoku uyazi ukuba ungasusa njani kuwe (okanye kuwe) ukuthanda uqobo lwakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukususa isipelo akusoloko kuqinisekisile ukubuya komntu othandekayo. Ukuba isipelingi sabekwe ngumlindi oqinileyo, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, wayenokwenza umonakalo wokutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane. Ngoko ke, lungele ukwenza yonke imizamo yokubuyisela uthando lomntu othandekayo kuwe .