Ngokomthetho okhoyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubhalise umntwana obabini kwindawo yokuhlala koomama noyise. Ukuba ngaba abazali beemvumba bayatshata ngokusemthethweni ngexesha elifanayo kwaye, ngaphezu koko, babhalisiwe kwindawo ephilileyo efanayo, abayi kuba neengxaki - umntwana uya kunikwa apho ngaphandle kweemeko.
Okwangoku, kukho iindidi ezahlukahlukeneyo ezinokuchaphazela kakhulu imeko. Kule ngqaku, siza kukuxelela ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukunika umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa usana, nendlela yokwenza phambi kweemeko ezahlukeneyo.
Unokumisela njani umntwana osandul 'uzalwa kubazali, ukuba abazali ababhaliswanga kunye?
Iimeko eziqhelekileyo kukuba ngaba abazali basesikweni somyeni nomfazi, kodwa ababhaliswanga kunye. Emva koko unina nobawo mabafake isicelo kwiofisi yepaspoti kwidilesi yobhaliso yabadala kwaye bazise kunye namaxwebhu afunekayo, oku:
- isicelo esivela kumpapa ngesicelo sokubhalisa i-crumb;
- ingxelo evela kumama, apho kufuneka abonise ukuba akaphazamisi ukuhlala;
- isitifiketi esivela kwidilesi yobhaliso lomama, eqinisekisa ukuba umntwana osandulwanga akabhaliswanga khona;
- iipasipoti ezithatyathwa ngubaba nomama osandul 'utsha;
- isitifiketi sokuzalwa semivumba.
Ukubhaliswa kwintsana yokuzalwa okanye intombi kwidilesi yokubhalisa yomama kunye nobawo ikhululekile, awuyi kuhlawulwa nayiphi na irisidi. Kwiintsuku ezi-3 nje zokusebenza emva kokuba isicelo sifakwe, uya kukwazi ukufumana uxwebhu ekubhaleni ilungu elitsha lentsapho yakho, kwaye sele ukhona umntu onokuyenza.
Nangona umnini-mthethweni ohlala kuyo, apho uyise womntwana ebhalisiwe, ungomnye umntu, kwaye akavumelani nokubhalisa umntwana, oku akunakukunqanda ukuba ubhalise imvuthu apho. Ngokubanzi, awufanelekanga, ngokusemthethweni, ubuze umnini okanye nawaphi na amalungu omndeni, nokuba abo babhalisiwe kule dilesi.
Imeko engafaniyo ngokungafaniyo xa kwenzeka ukuba umama noyise wengane bahlala emtshatweni othiwa "umtshato", kodwa ngelo xesha upapa, ngesicelo sakhe, wamkela ngokusemthethweni unyana wakhe okanye intombi.
Ukongezelela, abafazi bahlala benombuzo ukuba ngaba uyise ungabhalisa ngokuzimeleyo umntwana, ukuba umama akanalo ithuba lokuqhagamshelana nabaphathi abafanelekileyo naye. Oku kunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokunikezwa kwamaxwebhu angeziwe kuphela xa abazali abatsha bashadile ngokusemthethweni kwaye babhaliswa kwindawo enye. Kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko nangaphantsi kwezinye iimeko, imvume yomama, echazwe kwiofisi yomnothi, kuya kufuneka inikwe.
Ungabhalisa njani umntwana kwindawo yokuhlala kayise, engachazwanga kwisiqinisekiso sokuzalwa?
Kwiintsapho zanamhlanje ngokuqhelekileyo kukho imeko apho kukho "ikhokho" kwiikholomu zokuzalwa zeziqhekeza kukho idatha. Okwangoku, emva kwexesha unina unakho ukufuna ukubhalisa umntwana esendlwini kayise.
Ekubeni i-crumb ingenayo i-documentary, ayikwazi ukubhaliswa ngokusemthethweni kwindawo yakhe yokuhlala. Ukuze azalise umnqweno wakhe, umama kufuneka afake isicelo enkundleni ngesitatimende malunga nokusekwa kobuni. Kuphela xa kwenzeka ukufumana isigqibo esifanelekileyo segunya lomgwebo singakwazi ukuthetha ngokubhaliswa kwengane kwindlu ye-biological biological.