Ukuba umntu uyeka ukubonisa ingqalelo kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini, ngamnye umfazi uqala ukuvakala i-alamu. Sonke sisetyenziselwa ukuba inkosikazi inokuba nentloko yesondlo kusihlwa, kodwa ukuba le binzana iyayizwa imihla ngemihla yindoda ebhinqa, ngoko ubuhlobo phakathi kwamalingani buqala ukuhlahloka ngokukhawuleza. Okwangoku, kukho izinto ezininzi ezenza indoda okanye inkwenkwe ingafuni ukulala ngesini: ukuziphatha okubi, ukwenza umsebenzi ophantsi, ukunyamezela, uxinzelelo, ukungondleki kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mfazi oya kuneliswa yizo mpendulo kumbuzo othi kutheni umntu engafuni ukulala ngesondo.
Kule meko, kukho iindlela ezimbini zokufumana isisombululo - nokuba ulungelelanise ingxaki, okanye uzigwebe ulwalamano olusenyameni, oluya kuphelisa emva koko.
Ngokwezifundo ezenziwa eYurophu, izizathu ezibalulekileyo zezizathu zokuthi umyeni akafuni ukulala ngesondo zachongwa.
- Ubudala. Ukuba umntu ongaphezu kweminyaka engama-30, kunokwenzeka ukuba emzimbeni wakhe kukho utshintsho olunexesha elidala oluchaphazela amandla. Kwiimeko zanamhlanje zabanye abantu, impilo iyaqala ukungaphumeleli nangemva kweminyaka engama-25. Isizathu salolu hlobo - uxinzelelo olufanayo, ukutya okukhawulezayo, umsebenzi wokuhlala. Kwakhona, musa ukulibala ukuba umnqweno omkhulu wesini uhambelana namadoda aneminyaka eyi-18-24. Kula mabhinqa, ukuphakama kobulili kuza emva kweminyaka engama-30. Ukungafani oku kuboniswe ngendalo, ngoko imeko efanayo ifanele iyakwamkelwa.
- Ukuhambelana ngokwesondo kwabatshatileyo. Kwimeko yobomi besondo nabasetyhini, umgaqo-wesondo udlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ngokuxhomekeka kwiimpawu zomzimba ngamnye, umgaqo-wesondo ungabuthakathaka, uqine okanye ulinganise. Ukuba umgaqo-wesondo ufana kunye nabafazi, ngoko banesidingo esifanayo ngesondo, ukuba bahluke, ngoko omnye umfazi anganeliseki nenani lezenzo zesondo.
- Ukuthatha unyango okanye ukuxhatshazwa. Uninzi lweemveliso zonyango luqulethe izinto ezichaphazela kakhulu amandla, nangona zinokuba nefuthe kwezinye iinhengo. Ukuba umntu uthatha nawaphi na amachiza, akufanele uphawule ngenxa yoko kutheni umyeni angafuni mna, kodwa mcebise ukuba ayeke ukuthabatha iziyobisi, okanye atshintshe.
- Iqondo eliphantsi le testosterone. Ukuncipha kwi-testosterone kuba isizathu sokuthi kungani indoda engayifuni umfazi. Kule meko, kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengcali. Ubuchwephesha bwanamhlanje kwiyeza lungayicombulula le ngxaki ngexesha elifutshane.
- Iingxaki zomntu. Okumangalisayo kukuba, amadoda amaninzi athambekele ekuboneni ukuhluleka kakhulu. Ukuba umntu uxhalabele kakhulu ngento ethile, ngoko akayi kulala ngesini. Kule meko, umfazi unokuzama ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo naye. Akuyimfuneko ukukrokra umyeni onobugwenxa kunye nokuhlambalaza ukungalindelekanga-oku kungenza kube nzima kakhulu imeko.
Ukuba intombazana ayikwazi ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo othi kutheni umfana engafuni ukulala naye, unokuzama ukusebenzisa iindlela ezithile ezikuvumela ukuba ubuyisele ingqalelo yomlingane. Sinika iindlela zokwenza umntu afune kuwe:
- ncokola. Ezininzi iingxaki zivela ekungaqondani. Mhlawumbi iqabane lijongene nale ngxaki. Ingxoxo ephosakeleyo ikuvumela ukuba ubeke yonke indawo kwindawo yayo, susa umbane kwaye uthethe;
- ukwenza iindidi zesini. Esinye sezizathu ezenza ukuba umntu akafuni ukulala ngesondo kunye nexhala. Ibhinqa kufuneka lenze ukukhanya kunye novuyo ebubudlelwaneni, ngaphandle kokungabaza uzame entsha, umangalise indoda yakhe;
- utshintshe imifanekiso. Yahluke kumntu wakho-othobekileyo, okhululekile, onokuqonda, onenkathalo okanye onobunzima. Imisebenzi eyahlukileyo yenza indoda yakhe ibhekane nomlingane wayo omtsha ebomini kwindlela entsha kwaye inako ukuqinisa ukukhangwa kwesondo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, iingxaki zesini zivela ngenxa yeengxaki zolwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngoko ngaphambi kokuba uphawule ukuba kutheni umfana engafuni mna, kufuneka uzame ukufumanisa oko kuhlahlole ubudlelwane kunye nokuphelisa zonke iingxaki.