Iingcamango zabantwana zibonakala zingenayo imida kwaye aziyekanga ukumangaliswa. Ngoko, abanye abantwana banezihlobo ezicingelayo. Ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga kusoloko kusabisayo abazali kwaye kubangele ukuxhalabisa. Yintoni, umdlalo womntwana ongenacala okanye ingxaki yengqondo?
Ukutyekela kohlobo olukhohlisayo kuthiwa yi-Carlson's syndrome, xa umntwana edala ekhanda lakhe umfanekiso othile, ucinga, kwaye ukholelwa ukuba ukho. Ngokuqhelekileyo le meko ibonakala kubantwana kwiminyaka emi-3-5. Kwixesha elide lokuziqonda, bambalwa abantu abasebenzisa ukuthetha okunjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ungalibali le nto.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, imvelaphi yale meko ingxaki zengqondo ezikhoyo. Kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, abantwana bacinga indlela yokwenza umhlobo ocingelayo kwedwa, ukungaqondi okanye ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano olupheleleyo kunye noontanga. Umzekelo, umntwana uhlala esedwa ekhaya xa abazali besebenza, kwaye abantwana onokudlala nabo kwididi abakhoyo okanye nabo kukho iingxabano. Nangona umhlobo osungulwe rhoqo "uphulaphule aze aqonde" kwaye, ngokungafani nabanye, uya kuba sobubele kwaye kulula ukudibana.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uqala umngane oye waqulunqwa ukuba aphephe uxanduva kunye neemvakalelo zetyala kwenye i-prank. Emva koko, ukutsho ukuba kwakunguye wena owenze, yinto elula ukubeka ityala. Ngoko uzama ukuzikhusela kwisigwebo.
Ngaba kukho isizathu sokukhathazeka?
Abazali bangenza njani kwiimeko ezinjalo? Into ephambili ayikuqhubeki malunga nomntwana, kodwa ungayihoyi le meko. Fumana i-compromise. Buza imibuzo malunga nalo mhlobo. Mamela ibali lentsana, unike kancane, sele uzalisekise nayiphi na isicelo somhlobo. Musa ukuhleka usana umntwana, ngoko uya kungena ngaphakathi kwilizwe lakhe langaphakathi. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ungalilahli kwimisebenzi oyifunayo kumntwana kunye neengxelo ezenziwe.
Ukuba ngabazali bomntwana baqine kakhulu, umhlobo onenkohliso unokuba ngumntu owamkela umntwana njengoko yena, njalo
Ukuba umntwana ulahlekelwa ngabahlobo bamandulo ngenxa yokuhamba, kumncede athole ezintsha, anike ithuba lokuba abone okanye aqhubeke edibanisa nabadlali bexesha elidlulileyo.
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, mnike umntwana ixesha elide, uhambe epakini, wenze into kunye kunye, uthathe nabo kwiintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo, ube nomdla ebomini bakhe. Emva koko, xa uthetha nawe, akayi kuba nesidingo sokuxelela omnye.