Akuyena wonke umntu onokuphupha umongameli welizwe lethu, ke kutheni loo maphupha kufuneka anikwe ukubaluleka okukhulu, ekubeni ukutolika kwabo kunentsingiselo ethile. Ukuba ephupheni umongameli ufunda iintetho kwiintlanganiso, kwaye uthatha inxaxheba ebalulekileyo ekuxazululeni iingxaki ezibalulekileyo zehlabathi, oku kuthetha ukuba imisebenzi emitsha iya kubonakala kungekudala. Unokufuna ukuzityhila kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo.
Kutheni uphupha umongameli welizwe?
Abo baphupha lohlobo lophupha bangaba nokuzola, kuba ukubonakala kwintloko yentloko kukubonakalisa ukuzinza nokukhuthaza umntu. Ukuba umongameli amaphupha, kwaye usebenza ekuqalisweni kwemithetho emitsha, oku kubonisa ukuba kungekudala uza kutshintsha imeko ebomini. Umntu unokukwazi utshintsho olukhulu umhlaba. Kule meko, imeko kufuneka iphathwe ngokulumkisa, kuba akuyiyo yonke into iyatshintsha ukuba ibe ngcono. Ukuba ephupheni inhloko yombuso inxaxheba ekuphelisweni kwemithetho ekhoyo, oku kuguqulelwa njengento yokuba ngokukhawuleza uza kudaniswa ngabahlobo abalungileyo.
Utoliki, oko kukhethwa kukhetho lonyulo lukazwelonke, luthi umntu uza kukhawuleza enze ukhetho olunzima oluya kuguqula ubomi bakhe, kwaye luya kuxhomekeka phi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufikelela kulo mbandela ngokubaluleka okukhethekileyo kwaye ucinge ngento yonke.
Iphupha apho umntu azibona khona njengomongameli welizwe uthi ukuthanda kwakhe ngokugqithiseleyo kuya kuvuzwa kungekudala. Mhlawumbi ithetha ukuba kungekudala iphupha lakhe elide liza kuba liyinyani, kwaye injongo eyabonakala ixesha elide iya kuphunyezwa ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa musa ukushiya yonke into kuye, kuba ukufezekisa le njongo kubaluleke kakhulu iimpawu zobuntu ezifana nokunyamezela nokunyamezela. Kufanelekile ukuhlawula ingqwalasela eninzi kuyo yonke into ebangelwayo, kuba nayiphi na into engalunganga inokuyikrola imali. Kungcono ukuba ungagqiba izinto ngendlela enokuthi yonke into iqhube njengesiqhelo.
Kutheni umhlangano kunye nomongameli uphupha?
Ukuba umntu unomhlangano wakhe kunye nomongameli welizwe, oku kuyimpawu yokuba ulindele ukuphucula imeko yakhe yezemali, mhlawumbi nokuba kubonakala komsebenzi omtsha oza kuzisa iimvakalelo ezintle. Hlala umongameli welizwe kwindawo ekhululekile, umzekelo kwiholide ibonisa ukuba kungekudala umntu obone le phupha uya kufumana ulwimi olufanayo nalabo abaphikisana nabo ngaphambili, into eyona nto iwukuziphatha ngokwemvelo. Xa liphupha lokuba babulala umongameli okanye ukuba ubomi bakhe bungozi - bubonakalisa ukuba idumela lakho linokuphangwa kwaye kufuneka uqaphele abantu abanokugula nabagwenxa.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umfanekiso ephupheni ucoceke kwaye uqondeke. Oku kukufuzisela ukuba zonke izibikezelo ziya kuzaliseka nganye. Ngokubanzi,
Ukuba umongameli welizwe uphupha intombazana - oku kukuphawula ukuba kungekudala uza kutshata ngokutshata. Abo bazibuza umbuzo wento abaphupha ngayo malunga nokuthetha nomongameli kufuneka bazi ukuba intetho yomntu kwiincwadi ezininzi zephupha ibonakalisa inkathazo, kodwa ukumenywa ukuba sidle kunye nomongameli kwaye abe yinkampani yakhe kwimicimbi evuya.
Incwadi yephupha ye-dream iguqulela ukunxibelelana nomongameli, ukuba uyambona kwaye unxibelelana naye, njengemiphumo yokuzixhalabisa ngokwemeko yezopolitiko. Ngokuhambelana nencwadi ephuphayo yokuphupha ukuba ndizibonele endaweni yomongameli, ityhilwa njengezinto ezininzi ezinqwenelekayo.