Abantwana bathanda ukuxelisa abantu abadala, kwaye oku kungumnqweno wokuthunyelwa ngexesha ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukumisa umntwana ukususela kumncinane kwitheyibhile efanayo kunye nawo onke amalungu entsapho. Ukujonga abantu abadala, inkunzi izama ukuphinda zonke izenzo, ngoko ke, iqala ukufunda ukuzidla yedwa.
Ukufundisa umntwana ukuba adle yena ngokwakhe-akufanele kubekho ukukhathazeka nabazali. Ingane ngokwayo imele ithande inkqubo yokuzondla. Into ephambili kukuba ube nomonde kwaye ukhumbule imithetho elula:
- ukuba angamphoqeleli umntwana ukuba adle;
- musa ukukhawuleza;
- ukudumisa nokukhuthaza;
- Uncedo lokufunda indlela yokugcina i-spoon.
Ubudala xa kulungele ukuqala ukufundisa umntwana ngokuzimela kuxhomekeke kwimimiselo yalo kunye nenqanaba lophuhliso. Ingane iyakubonisa umdla kumfowuni ukususela kwiinyanga ezi-7-8, kwaye kufuneka usebenzise umzuzu ukumkhohlisa kwaye ukhuthaze umdla wokufunda ukuzidla. Ukuba ungesabi iingubo ezihlambulukileyo kunye nokucoca rhoqo kwekhitshini, emva kweminyaka eyi-1.5-2 umntwana uya kuqonda le ngakhono.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba adle ngokuzimela?
Imithetho ebalulekileyo:
- Nika umntwana ukuba adle yena xa elambile ngokwenene. Xa umntwana efuna ukutya, akayiyo imizwa ye-vagaries kunye nokupasa.
- Ungavumeli umntwana ukuba adlale ngokutya. Xa umntwana enelisekile, uqala ukutyisa ukutya, ukuziva nokuguqa iminwe yakhe, ukuphosa. Kule meko, kungcono ukuba uthabathe ngokukhawuleza isitya kunye ne-spoon, ukuze umntwana aqonde umahluko phakathi kokudlala nokutya.
- Musa ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba agcine isonka kwisandla sakhe sobunxele, kunye nekhaphu ekunene. Kuze kube yiminyaka emithathu ubudala abantwana bazama ukwenza yonke into ngezandla zabo zangasese nezisekhohlo. Kwaye mhlawumbi umntwana wakho unesandla esisekhohlo, uze uphinde uhambe ukuze ugcine i-spoon esandleni sakho sokunene, konke okungekho mfuneko.
- Ekuqaleni kwemfundo yomntwana, kungcono ukunikela izitya zakhe ezithandayo kwaye uzihlobise kakuhle. Oku kuya kubangela umdla kunye nesondlo, kwaye umntwana uya kufunda ngokulula ngokuzimela.
- Ngexesha apho umntwana eqala ukudla khona yedwa, abantu abadala kufuneka babe nesineke kwaye bangakhathazeki. Ucoceko olulungileyo ekhishini luya kulibala ngeli xesha. Akukho sidingo sokusula yonke inkunkuma yokulahla kunye nokuthabatha imivumba ewileyo xa udla umntwana kwaye umphazamise. Ukucocwa kwetafile kungcono ukwenza kunye nomntwana kamva, ngoko uya kuhlolisisa ukucoceka nokuchaneka.
Ngokwenza njalo, ngamnye umama uya kufuna umonde kunye nendlela ayenayo kumntwana, ngaphambi kokuba afunde ukutya kwaye aziphathe kakuhle etafileni.