Kwimeko yamava okuqala ngokwesondo kukho amaxesha amaninzi amahlebezi kunye nokungaqondani, abaninzi banolindele ukuba abe nolunye uhlobo lwengqondo, kodwa abantu abambalwa bayesaba ukuba ngexesha lokuqala ngokwesini yonke into iya kuhamba. Ukwesaba kulungeleleneyo - amava okuqala angaphumelelanga ngesondo okanye intombazana inokubangela ukungaphumeleli okulandelayo kwimpilo ebusondeleyo. Makhe sibone indlela yokuphepha loo ngxaki.
Amava okuqala ngokwesini kunye nentombazana
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana alahlekelwa ubuntombi bawo kungekhona ngenxa yesifiso sangempela, kodwa ngokuphantsi kweempembelelo ezithile okanye phantsi koxinzelelo lwabalingane babo. Musa ukwenza oku ngenxa yokuba intombazana kufuneka ilungele le nyathelo, zombini ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama. Ngokubhekiselele kumgca wokugqibela, iminyaka efanelekileyo yokulala ngesondo ngowama-17-18 iminyaka. Kwaye akukho malunga nohanahaniso okanye imigangatho engapheliyo, eli lixesha libizwa ngokuba ngumzimba weqabane lomntwana. Uqhagamshelwano lwangaphambili luphelelwe sisifo kunye neengxaki ezahlukeneyo.
Ukulungelelana ngokomzwelo kuyadingeka ekubunjweni kwesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngokwesini ngokubanzi, ekubeni unamava okuqala angaphumelelanga, iimiphumo ezimbi zingenziwa - ukwethuka kobomi obusondeleyo, u- vaginismus , ubuncwane. Kwakhona, imeko ephosakeleyo yentombazana iya kunceda ukuphepha intlungu (okanye ukunciphisa) ngexesha lokuphuka kwe-intombi. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba iqabane lilumkele kwaye lenze ngaphandle kokunyaniseka, kwaye loo nto yayiqhelekile. Abanye basebenzisa "iinkonzo" zotywala ukwenzela ukuphumula, kunokwenzeka ukwenza njalo, kodwa kuphela ukuba kuncinane, akukho glasi yewayini, ngaphandle koko umphumo uya kuhluke ngokupheleleyo kwizinto ezifunekayo. Kwakhona, ukunciphisa intlungu kuya kuququzelelwa ngokukhethwa kwesigxina esifanelekileyo, okokuqala ukudibanisa ngoxhatshazo lwezesondo, isikhundla kwisemva, ngomqubo okanye i-blanket eboshwe phantsi kwe-sacrum, ilungile.
Enye ingongoma ebaluleke kakhulu ingxaki yokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo. Ngesizathu esithile, phakathi kwamantombazana amantombazana kukho inkolelo yokuba "okokuqala akukho nto iya kwenzeka," engenasiseko ngokupheleleyo. Ngako oko, akuyimfuneko ukulibala malunga nokukhulelwa kwezilwanyana, ngaphandle kokuba kuya kukhusela izifo ezibangelwa yi-venereal.
Amava okuqala ngesini somntu
Kuyavunywa ukuba isondo sokuqala sisinyathelo esibalulekileyo ebomini intombazana, kodwa ukuba esi siganeko sinomdla kakhulu kumfana, wonke umntu uyalibala. Phantse yonke into engqondweni engqondweni ingagcini ingcamango yokuba akufanele 'ibe phezulu', ngokunjalo nokuba bhetele kunabanye abantu intombazana leyo. Ukuxhalabisa ngokugqithiseleyo ngale ngxaki, abanye abafana banomdla kwaye abanako ukufezekisa injongo yabo nangayiphi na indlela. Ukuba oku kuphinda kulandelelwe, isifo sokulindela ukuhlukana ngokwesondo singakhula, okuza kuba yintsebenziswano kuphela yengqondo. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ujonge ngaphantsi kwimeko yokungaphumeleli, kwaye intombazana kufuneka ibonise ingqiqo, kuba ukunyamekela kungakhankanya kakhulu
Ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yokugqithisa, ukunyuka kwexesha kuqhutywe ngaphaya komntu oza kuba nexesha lokufaka ipenisi. Kule nanjalo, akukho nto engaqhelekanga, udibaniso lwangempela lunokuthi lwenzeke kude nangokokuqala. Ukuba akukho nto isebenza, ngoko kufuneka uzinqamle, utshintshele kwenye into, kwaye yinto yokujika kwintombazana ukuncedisa ukulungiswa.
Ukuba loo nto intombazana ayifuni ukuqiniseka ukuba okokuqala iya kuba yinto yolonwabo ngokwenene, abaninzi baqala ukunandipha ukukhwela kwesibini okanye yesithathu. Akukho nto engavamile kule nto, nje ingqondo ingekazi ukuba isabela njani kwinto eyenzekayo.