Umfanekiso wesetyhini ibhinqa

Ibinzana elithi "umfazi weshishini" lithandwa iminyaka embalwa edlulileyo. Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, apho abesifazane kunye namadoda bafunga amalungelo afanayo, amabhinqa amabhinqa amaninzi kangangokuba kunzima ukufumana, umzekelo, umfazi wendlu.

Umfanekiselo wesifazane weshishini kufuneka uhlale ephezulu, kuba kufuneka uhlale uphumelela. I-psychology yowesifazane ibhinqa ihluke kakhulu kwi-psychology yomfazi wesilinganiso.

Ukuphumelela kunye nobutyebi maxa wambi banenhlanhla ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazalwe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuya kuba ngohlobo lweemeko. Umfanekiselo wesifazane weshishini lodidi lokuqala luvela kubuntwaneni. Abafazi abancinci bafuna ukufumana udumo phakathi kwontanga yabo, bahlala bebahlobo kunye namakhwenkwe, bazama ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo kuyo yonke into, baphumelele kwizifundo zabo. Kwakhona, abafazi besigaba sokuqala balwela ukulingana ngokwesini kunye nokunyanga okulinganayo, kokubili amadoda kunye nabasetyhini.

Umfazi wamashishini wamanje wesigaba sesibini wafika ekufumaneni ukubaluleka kokukhula kwakhe komsebenzi ngenxa yeemeko ezimbi ebomini bakhe (kwakudingeka ukuphakamisa inyawo lomntwana wakhe, umtshato ongaphumeleli, njl.).

Ziziphi izakhono kunye nezakhono zonxibelelwano zoshishino ongazange ube nazo, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba iimpawu zowesifazane weshishini kufuneka ziphuculwe rhoqo. Makhe sicinge ngemigaqo esemiselweyo yezobugcisa zoshishino.

Isicatshulwa seshishini somfazi

1. Isitala sakho sokunxibelelana. Ulwimi lwezandla zakho, isikhundla somzimba kufuneka sihlale sichaza intlonelo kumlingane, umva wokuzithemba, nokuba ibhizinisi lithetha okanye intlanganiso eqhelekileyo kunye nabaphathi. Impumelelo yemicimbi yakho incike kwinxalenye enkulu kwisimo sengqondo sabasebenzi bakho kunye nabangaphantsi kwakho kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo kubo. Eyona ndlela ikhethekileyo kukugcina umqolo wakho uqonde, kwaye ukutshintshela kwakho kufanele kube kwindawo yokuthuthuzela kuwe. Isikhwama esona sikhulu sibekwe kufuphi okanye emva kwakho. Ukuba ubeka isikhwama sakho emadolweni, uya kufumana ingcamango yokuba uvale, ngoko ke, ukususela kwintlanganiso yakho, ukudala umqobo ekuthinteni. Ngethuba lokubulisa xa udibana nomfokazi, pha kamisa isandla sakho ukuze idibanise okanye iwanga. Ukukhethwa kwezenzo kumntu ohamba naye.
2. Uluhlu lwemithetho. Ukuze ugcine ukuphakama kwemicimbi yakho, yenza uluhlu oluncinci lwemithetho oyifunayo ukuba uhambelane ngqo. Ngokomzekelo, musa ukuthetha ngezihloko zobuqu ozenzayo nabashishini. Indawo yokusebenzela kufuneka isebenze, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintando yesimo sakho. Zifundise ukuba ulandele yonke into encinane (unqwenela usuku olungileyo, njl.). Kuvela kwizinto ezincinci eziye zenziwa ngolu hlobo.
3. Kubonakala. Akukho mntu wanciphisa ubulumko obudala, ngokokuhlangana kwabo kwiingubo. Bonisa ukuthintela kwisitayela sakho. Gcina izandla kunye nezipikili zilungele kakuhle.

Iingcali zentsebenziswano yabasetyhini

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba izazinzulu zeSikolo soBuchule baseHarvard zakwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni i-psychology yeshini ibhinqa.

1. La mabhinqa anobuntu obuqaqambileyo, ngokuziwayo, ngesithunzi, athwala isihloko esithandekayo somfazi, engabandakanyi ubunqunu, ubanda kunye nokuqina.
2. Bakhombisa ubuqu, benza izigqibo, banike amandla ngamagunya abo.
3. Abasetyhini basomabhizinisi banako ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza kwiindidi zentlalo (intlalontlekazi, inkokheli) kwenye (umfazi onothando, unina, intombi enomdla).
4. Baqinisekile ukuba intsapho yabo, abantu abasondeleyo baya kuhlala beyiqonda, inkxaso kunye noncedo, kwimeko apho.

Ngoko, ukuba ngumfazi weshishini akusoloko kulula, kodwa kukho izinto ezintle kule nto. Into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyi kukulibala ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ube ngumfazi oqhelekileyo oya kuhlala efumana inkxaso kumntu osondeleyo.