"Ndandicinga ngokwalo, ndicaphukile!" - amaninzi amantombazana nabasetyhini beva ukuhlwaywa kwabo bahlobo. Kutheni kusebenza kwizenzo zamabhinqa ezifana nokuqulunqwa, kunye nendlela yokuyeka ukuthukuthela izibonda - makhe sijonge kweli nqaku.
Kutheni si khubeka?
Ukunyamezela akuyena umhlaba onguhlobo lomntu. Abantwana baqala ukukhubeka kuphela emva kokuba bajwayele imigaqo. Umzekelo, umntwana ufundiswa ukwabelana ngamathoyizi akhe. Kwaye ummelwane kwi-sandbox uthatha ifosholo yakhe, kodwa akanikeli ibhakethi lakhe. Yithini indoda encinci? Intukuthelo kumlingane ongazange aphile ngokwemfuno yakhe, kunye novelwano. Nantsi ke, icala lokuqala.
Kweemeko ezithile, umntwana, kunye nentombazana, ufunde ngokuncedwa ngumsindo wakhe wokuphatha abanye. Njengomthetho, uluntu luvumela abantombazana ukuba baphathe ixesha elide ngendlela yabantwana abaselula. Kwimeko efanayo, inkwenkwana iya kuthiwa: "Yiba njengomntu!", Kwaye intombazana encinane iyazisola kwaye iyanceda ukubuyisela ubulungisa. Ngelishwa, le yindlela indlela intukuthelo egqityiweyo ngayo kumntu wesifazane. Kwaye umfazi omdala uva ukuxhalaba: "Ngaba uphinde ukhubeke?"
Ngoko, uvakalelo lwenkanuko luvela kwizinto ezingalindelekanga. Intombazana ikulindele i-sms yothando kumntu, kwaye xa bengenayo, uyacaphuka. Ngoxa iintsebenziswano zifumana isigaba sokuqala, amadoda akulungele ukuba netyala ngaphandle kwecala. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, baya kuhlaziya i-whims cute kwi-tyranny. Kwaye ukuchukumisa kuya kubizwa ngegama layo-umnqweno wokuba usebenze ngoncedo lwengqondo engenasisiseko. Kwaye, kanye, ngaphandle komkhwa, ube nesibonakaliso kwisiponji, umfazi ufumana isifundo esinonya. Esikhundleni somntu okhunileyo, ubona ukubuyela kwakhe. Uva amazwi aphonswe phezu kwehlombe lakhe: "Ucinge yonke into, ukhubekile, ngoku, kwaye uhlale kunye necala lakho."
Kutheni sifanele sicaphuke?
Ezinye izibini zihlala ubomi babo bonke, kwaye omnye uhlaselwa, kwaye omnye-umva wecala. Ngaba kufuneka ndiyitshintshe into ethile, khangela izizathu kunye nezindlela? Iingcali zengqondo kunye noogqirha basabela ngokungaqinisekanga kwi-affirmative, ngovelwano lufanele luqondwe, ngaphandle koko lukhokelela kwizifo ezinzulu ze-somatic. Intukuthelo yintlungu, esiyithwala ngaphakathi kwaye sisetyhe ngokwethu. Ukuba utyhefu umphefumlo wakho ixesha elide, unokungazinzi, u-cardiovascular and even cancer. Kwaye ukuba impilo ebuthathaka isele iqale ukubonakalisa ngokwayo, ke lixesha lokufuna ukuqonda, njani ukuba ungacasuli kubantu.
Ungayeka njani ukukhubeka?
Ngoko, ngenxa yokungcikivo kukho izizathu ezibini.
- Iyokuqala iyaphatha . Lo ngumkhwa ogqityiweyo kwimeko yokusebenzisana nabanye: Ndikulindele wena, unganginiki, ndiyakhathazeka, uguquke kwaye unike. Kule cwangciso, kwaye impendulo yombuzo wokufunda ukungazikhubeki isetyenziswe. Inkohliso kukuba umntu omdala ulindele into ethile kumntu. Kulo kulindeleke ukuba usebenze, kwaye uqale ngoku, fumana ezi ngongoma ezilandelayo:
- Kungenzeka ukuba ufumane oko ufuna ngamandla akho. Ukuzithemba kwenza umntu abe namandla kwaye azimeleyo. Kumntu onjalo abanye abantu bayazidonsela kunye, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuzigcina zisondelene nomoya wecala;
- Ngaba loo mntu uyazi into ekulindeleke kuye? Amadoda athambekele ngokwenene ekuboniseni ububele obungaphantsi kunye nokucinga kwangaphambili. Kodwa ngovuyo uya kwenza ntoni kumthandayo konke, malunga noko akubuza ngokukhululekile.
- Isizathu sesibini sinenjongo .
intsingiselo inokulimaza kakhulu, kubangele ukuhlambalaza. Indlela yokufunda ukungabacaphukisi abantu kwiimeko ezinjalo? Nayi impendulo enye-ukufunda ukufunda nokwamkela. Yamkela ukuba abanye abantu banomzila omude wokukhula komzimba. Ukuxolela ngokunyanisekileyo, ukukhulula umthwalo ongeyomfuneko entliziyweni yakho kwaye ungakhumbuli ngakumbi ngako.
Kuzo zombini iimeko, sebenza kuwe, ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu zakho kuya kunceda ufumane ngaphezu kwentlungu. Isibalulekileyo kuzo zonke iingxaki kukuqala ukukhangela ngaphakathi kwakho, ngokokuba kumntu okhubekileyo kwizinto ezincinane, ube ngumntu ongenakho ukuthukuthela kunye nokulindela okungenanto.