Nangona kwimihla yamva nje inani labasetyhini abanenkcenkcesha likhula, ngubani olungele ukunika nayiphi imali ukufumana uvuyo lobazali, kunabesifazane abakwazi ukushiya umntwana esibhedlele. Abaninzi balaba bafazi basuka kwiintsapho ezihlelelekile, apho balahlekelwa yimbono yendalo yonke kunye nokuba umntwana uyisipho esiphezulu esinokufumana. Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi uphoxiswa kwisenzo esinjalo ngenxa yobunzima bezemali okanye iingxaki zomntu. Ngokwezibalo, abantwana bashiywe esibhedlele sokubeletha, abaye bakhulela ngaphandle kokunyamekelwa ngumama, kaninzi bayeke abantwana babo ngokwabo.
Ukukhanyela umntwana esibhedlele
Ukuba lona wesifazane wagqiba ukushiya umntwana esibhedlele, kufuneka abhale isicelo esikhethekileyo xa ehlala esibhedlele. Esi sicelo sithunyelwa kwi-arhenteti kunye ne-arhenteti arhente, emva koko umntwana adluliselwa kwisebe lesisana esitsha esibhedlele, kwaye emva kweentsuku ezingama-28 zobomi kwintsana.
Kwiinyanga ezili-6 umfazi angatshintsha ingqondo yakhe aze athathe umntwana wakhe. Ukuba akazange akwenze oku, umntwana angathunyelwa kwenye intsapho ekukhuliseni okanye kumkelwa. Naliphi na malungu entsapho yomama we-biological angakwazi ukubhalisa ukugcinwa kwengane esandula.
Ndingathabatha njani umntwana esibhedlele?
Naliphi na isibini esingenamntwana esinqumle ukufumana umntwana, ufuna ukuthatha i-refuseni esibhedlele ukuze amnyamekele kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukwenza oku, kuba abantwana abashiywe banomda omde. Ukuba uluhlu lokulinda, umntu kufuneka afake isicelo kwi-arhentehip kunye ne-arhenteti arhente malunga nenjongo yokufumana umntwana osandula. Ukufumana isigqibo esilungileyo sobulungiseleli kunye ne-arhenteti arhente ngumzuzu obunzima kakhulu kwinkqubo yokwamkela.
Ukwamukelwa komntwana esibhedlele kudinga uluhlu olulandelayo lwamaphepha:
- inkcazo yenjongo yokuba ngabamkeli;
- i-autobiography;
- isitifiketi sezokwelapha kwiimeko zempilo;
- isatifikethi esivela kwindawo yomsebenzi kwisithuba esiphethwe kunye nesatifikethi somvuzo kwiinyanga ezili-6, kunye nabasomashishini-ukuvakaliswa kwengeniso;
- isatifiketi solwaphulo-mthetho;
- isatifiketi esichazela ukuba umgcini onokuthi ungumnikazi wepropati (okanye umboniso kwincwadi yekhaya);
- kubantu abatshatileyo - ikopi yesatifiketi somtshato, ngesinye-isatifiketi sokuzalwa komzali owamkelayo;
- imvume yomntu wesibini;
- iimpawu zokuhlala kunye nomsebenzi.
La maxwebhu okufuneka ube nawo xa kufika ithuba lakho lokubhalisa umgcini. Ukuba imvume yokumkela ifunyenwe, ke unokuqhubeka nenkqubo yokukhetha umntwana. Ukuba kwakungekho nabantwana abashiyiweyo kwizindlu zokubeleka zesixeko sakho, ngoko umntwana unokuthathwa esibhedlele sokubeletha ngaphakathi kweli lizwe.
Isigaba esilandelayo kukufakela isicelo kwinkundla kwindawo yokuhlala kuyo umntwana malunga nenjongo yokwamkela umntwana. Inkqubo yokwamukelwa
Ngoku umntwana usukulindele ixesha elide kwaye unokukuthatha esibhedlele. Umsebenzi oyintloko kukusijikeleza ngokufudumala, ukunakekelwa nothando, ukukhula indoda yangempela kuye. Futhi ungakulibali ukuba iminyaka engama-3 ukususela kumzuzwana wokwamkelwa, i-artienship kunye ne-arhenteti arhente inokulawula iimeko apho umntwana ehlala khona kwaye ukhuliswe.
Ukwamukelwa komntwana kuyisinyathelo esibalulekileyo, esidinga isinqumo ngokuzikhethela nangokulinganayo. Kufuneka ukuba uqaphele ukuba unembopheleleko yomntwana owamkelweyo ubomi bakho bonke.