Abazali abasebancinci abakwazi ukumthanda abantwana babo. Ukuba umntwana uyabetha, ngoko nangoko baqala ukunqoba amava: ukuziphatha komntwana oqhelekileyo. Ngaba le nto idibanisa ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Ubudala bomntwana apha budlala indima ebalulekileyo: kwithuba elilodwa lexesha - ngumdlalo wemfundo, kunye nomnye-uphawu lwe-alamu. Intsana kufuneka ixilwe "kumnandi" okunjalo.
Kutheni umntwana eluma?
Ngokweziphumo zangoku nje, malunga ne-10% yabantwana abaselula bavakalelwa kakhulu. Oku kuchaza ngokubanzi ukuba kutheni abantwana abancinci. Nasiphi na isiganeko ebomini babo sihamba kunye nesiqhwithi seemvakalelo. Iingqumbo ziluma kungakhathaliseki ukuba zivuyayo okanye zithukuthele. Oku kuphazamiseka kubazali, kuba emva kwemidlalo, iyakuncoma kwaye iyakwanga emzimbeni, kukho imihla ngemihla "yokumnandi" komntwana.
Kutheni umntwana ebetha isifuba?
Le meko ayibuhlungu kakhulu kumama oselula, kwaye ngenxa yoko kukho izizathu:
- Ummandla weengono ngumnye wezona ndawo zibuhlungu kakhulu zomzimba womfazi. Umama uyaba buhlungu xa umntwana eluma ngexesha lokutya.
- Oku kwenzeka ngokumangalisa xa umfazi engalindelanga oku. Ngomzuzwana, ukuvisisana phakathi koomama nosana kuphukile.
Umntwana ukhawuleza kwimeko:
- Umama ubeka ngokungafanelekileyo umntwana kwisifuba. Umlomo kumntwana kufuneka uvule ngo-130 ° -150 °. Ingxowa ithathwa kunye ne-areola. Kule ndawo, ukuluma kwe-crumb ayikwazi ukulunywa.
- Ubisi oluncinane kumama. Unokukuchonga oku ngeendlela zokufumana ubunzima (kufuneka zifaniswe nemimiselo yobudala). Ukuxazulula le ngxaki, ukuxhamla rhoqo kwibele kuya kunceda.
- Amazinyo aphulukana kwiimvuthu. Eli xesha linika umntwana ubuninzi obuxhalabileyo kwaye uyagula kakhulu. Ukunciphisa ukrakra okukhulu, umntwana ushukumisa yonke into engayi kumlonyeni wakhe. Akakwazi ukusebenzisa ithuba lokubamba ingono.
- Umntwana angaluma xa elala. Ukuba umama akakubonanga oku ngexesha, umntwana usephupheni angabamba ubuhlungu.
- Uhlobo lomdlalo ukuze ukhange umdla. Oku kwenzeka xa umama ngexesha lokutya uyaphazamiseka ngokuthetha kwifowuni okanye ukubukela iTV.
Kutheni umntwana eluma ngomnyaka ongu-1 ubudala?
Kule minyaka, ixesha apho amazinyo "ekhuphuka" , adlula. Umntwana omncinci uyabetha ngenxa yezizathu. Omnye wabo uphezulu. Ukongezelela, i-crumb ingabanjwa ngokuqinileyo xa ixhala, iyamoyika into ethile, ivakalelwa ingenakunceda okanye ikhutshwe yinto ethile. Umntwana akakwazi ukuphuhlisa ngokwaneleyo izakhono zolwimi, ngoko akakwazi ukuchaza isizathu sokuziphatha.
Kutheni umntwana eluma kwiminyaka emibili ubudala?
Ukuba i-"jests" ebudeni kule minyaka, ibangela ukuba abazali bakhe bakhathazeke kakhulu, kuba uyayikhathalela. Umntwana ubetha iminyaka emi-2 ngezi zizathu zilandelayo:
- bonisa ubukhokeli;
- unikezela iimvakalelo;
- ubonisa ukucaphuka kwakhe.
Kutheni umntwana eluma kwi-kindergarten?
Sithetha ngamantombazana eneminyaka emithathu ubudala kunye nalawo asebekhulile. Abantwana banomntwana omncinane ukulimaza okanye ukukhusela iimfuno zabo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana omdala ukhawuleza kwi-kindergarten kwaye akayikunyamekela ingcaciso yotitshala okanye abazali, oku sele kusisigxina esiphazamisayo. Ingane kufuneka iboniswe ngokucacileyo kwi-psychologist. Ezi zizathu zibangelwa zizi zilandelayo:
- indawo engalungileyo apho kuphakanyiswa khona;
- engavamile kwengqondo;
- ukulibaziseka kokuthetha, okubangela ukukhathazeka kwengane kunye nokwanda kweentlanzi;
- imfundo engalunganga (imiqathango eninzi kakhulu);
- ifom ye-Down's Syndrome ;
- umzekelo ombi (i-crumb ibona indlela omnye oontanga lwakhe azame ngayo ukuzithoba phantsi kwezo zinto okanye ukufikelela kwakhe);
- ukungakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo (inkunzi ayinakukwazi ukuzibamba);
- ukungahambi kakuhle.
Umntwana uyabetha - wenzeni?
Ukuba umntu omncinci uzama ukubamba unina, uyise, iontanga zakhe, okanye umntu osondelene naye ngeentlobo zakhe okanye amazinyo, kukho into ekufuneka yenziwe malunga nayo. Ukumelana nokuziphatha okunjalo kuyimfuneko, ngaphandle kokulibaziseka, kuba kungenjalo kuya kuba ngumkhwa. Ukuba umntwana uyabetha kwaye axabane, simele siyixhamle kule "hobby" ngendlela elandelayo:
- Ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Kumele kucaciswe kumntwana ukuba izenzo zakhe azibi nje kuphela, kodwa zithandeka. Unokuthi ngokuthe ngqo: "Akunakwenziwa!"
- Ngaphambi kwe-prankster, umntu kufuneka azisole ngento ayenayo. Ukubonwa kuya kunceda umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba wabangela intlungu enzulu. Umntu omdala unokuba yenze ingozi ukuzisa ipelitta yokulimala okanye udwebe umfanekiso okanye unike itekisi.
- Kubalulekile ukutshala imikhwa emihle. Ukuba umntwana uyabetha, xa igum ishushu, i-eraser iya kunceda ukususa ukuphazamiseka. Xa kunzima ukubonisa iimfuno okanye iimvakalelo, abazali banokufundisa umntwana ukuba athi: "Ndifuna ..." okanye "Ndiyesaba" njalo njalo. Zonke iimpumelelo zeendlela ezilawulayo izenzo zakhe zimele zibonwe. Ukongezelela, lo mntwana kufuneka adunyiswe.
- Kufuneka ube kwi-alert. Abazali bantwaneni, abavela kule ngxaki, kufuneka bakwazi ukutshintsha ingqalelo yabantwana babo. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukukhusela ezo meko ezinokubangela ukuba iziqhekeza zibe "ukugqwetha." Emva kwexesha, i-prankster iya kulahla le mkhuba.
Yintoni endiyenzayo xa umntwana eluma?
Ukususa umntwana kulokhu kuya kunceda izi ngcebiso ezilandelayo:
- Ukuba amaqhekeza "aphakama" amazinyo, umama kufuneka alungiselele "ukukhusela". Ngethuba lokutya, kufuneka agcine umunwe wakhe ukulungele ukuwufaka naliphi na ixesha ekhoneni lomlomo wengane, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyakhupha ingono.
- Ebusuku, umama akakwazi ukulala ngelixa umntwana usana. Ukuba iyajika, yandisa amathuba okuba avuke entlungu.
- Ukususa ukuvuvukala nokunciphisa ukuvalelwa okubuhlungu kuya kunceda iziyobisi ezikhethekileyo-iigelisi ngefuthe lokupholisa. Zingasetyenziswa maxesha amaninzi ngosuku.
- Ngaphambi kokutya, unako ukunika inkukhu i-teetotal ebomvu. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufaka emlonyeni wakhe aze afune. Lo "mdlalo" uya kunceda umama ukunciphisa amathuba okuluma.
- Umama kufuneka azame ukungaziboni ngokuzibetha ngokomoya. Ingane inokuyithatha konke njengomdlalo othakazelisayo. Ukunciphisa ukuvalelwa kwentlungu kuya kunceda ukusikitywa ngoncedo lwezandla ezikhethekileyo.
Xa umntwana elambile, uyadla, kodwa akadlali. Qinisekisa umlinganiselo wokuzaliswa komntwana onomntwana onokubaluleka kwakhe. Ukongeza, unako ukunika iprankster kunye nokuthetha kwakhe. Emva kokuba unqabile, inkunzi iqala ukujonga umama, emva koko umntwana uyaluma. Ukuba umfazi ufunda ukuqaphela zonke ezi "mpawu", uya kukwazi ukuthatha isifuba kwi-prankster ngexesha kunye nokuthintela ukuguqulwa kwesondlo ibe "umdlalo".
Indlela yokunciphisa umntwana ukuba alume ngonyaka o-1?
Ukujongana nale ngxaki kuya kunceda iingcebiso ezilandelayo:
- Kubalulekile ukufumana isizathu sokuba umntwana "kusuchesti". Ukuba le yindlela yokuxelela abanye ngawe, isiphelo sibonisa ukuba inkunzi ayinayo ingqalelo. Kubalulekile ukujikeleza i-prankster kunye ne-caress nokunyamekela, ngoko uya kuyilibala ngemikhwa yakhe embi.
- Ukuba umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa uyaluma, ungazama ukutshintsha ingqalelo yakhe. Ukunikezela ukudlala umdlalo othakazelisayo okanye ukugaya ngokumisa okanye i-apula.
- Ukuphononongwa kwenkqubo yokuxhaphaza. Ukuhlala ixesha elide emoyeni omtsha kunye nokulala ngokwaneleyo kuya kuba nefuthe ekuziphatheni kwakhe.
Indlela yokuxhatshaza umntwana ukuba alume kwiminyaka emi-2?
Abantwana, njengentonga, baphinde bakopishe indlela abaziphatha ngayo yabazali babo. Ukuba bahlala behlambalaza imihla ngemihla okanye bafaka ingxabano rhoqo, oku kuya kuthintela isimo sabo sengqondo kubontanga babo ngexesha lo mdlalo. Umntwana onjalo (iminyaka emi-2) uyaluma kwaye adibanise: konke oku kucinga ngento eqhelekileyo. Ukutshintsha iimoya kwintsapho ekungcono kuya kunceda umntwana ukuba abe mncinane kwaye abe nomusa.
Kwakhona, ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ziyakunceda ukukhulisa umntwana ukuba alume:
- Xa umdlalo udlala, unokuvula umculo othulileyo.
- Susa ukuxhatshazwa komntwana kuya kunceda ukutshintsha umdlalo ohambayo ukuphuhlisa.
- Kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi ocacileyo.
- Abazali kubalulekile ukubonisa umntwana umzekelo wakhe, ukubonisa ukuthabatha abanye.
Umntwana ubetha e-kindergarten-iingcebiso zeengcali zengqondo
Iingcali zincoma ukuqala ukulwa nale mkhuba ngokukhawuleza. Abazali kufuneka baqine, kodwa bangacasuli. Ukuba umntwana (iminyaka emithathu) uyaluma, ukuhlangabezana nale ngxaki iya kunceda cebiso:
- Awukwazi ukuchukumiseka xa umntwana ezama ukubamba umntu onamazinyo akhe.
- Ukuluma inkunzi yempindiselo akuyona indlela engcono yokumkhusela kulo mkhuba omubi. Xa ebona ukuba abantu abadala benza oku, i-crumb iba yi-self-assertive.
- Kufuneka ukuba ube nomonde. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kuthatha ixesha ukukhulelwa umntwana kulo mkhuba.