Thetha malunga nendlela le indebe yekhofi kunye nabahlobo kungekudala kungeyona nje intsikelelo eyintandokazi, kodwa inkoqobo yangempela. Kodwa kwenzeka kaninzi kangakanani ukuba uxoxe ngemicimbi yakho nangakumbi ngabahlobo abaxhamlayo, ngaba uqala ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane lwakho nomhlobo wakho, ukuphazamiseka kwimpilo yakho kunye neengxaki ezingalindelekanga?
Ewe, sonke siyazi ilizwi elibonakalisa intsingiselo yobomi obonwabileyo: "ukuthula kuyigolide," kodwa kunzima kangakanani ukuxhathisa nokungaxubushe nentombi yomntwana, ukugxeka uninazala okanye ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe? Kwaye bambalwa abantu abazi ukuba ukuxelela abantu izinto ezifanele zihlale ziyimfihlelo, awuyikugxotha kuphela inhlanhla yakho, kodwa unokutshabalalisa ubomi bakho!
Iingqondo kunye nezenzo ziqulunqa izihloko ezi-4, ezifanele zigcinwe zithule, ukuze zingabangeli inkathazo:
1. Ukuthanda ubudlelwane
Nantoni na othethayo, kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo okanye olusapho - olu budlelwane luphakathi kwabantu babini kuphela! Kodwa kwintlalo yanamhlanje ukuxubusha intsha "indaba yothando," ukutshatyalaliswa, ukunyamezela kwesiqingatha okanye ukwabelana ngeendaba malunga nobomi bomntu kwiintanethi zentlalo, akusayi kuba neentloni. Kuphela, maye, onke amagama akhulume ngokuzwakalayo, aphephe kwaye awonakalise ngokupheleleyo amandla ombini wakho. Kwaye ingxoxo ngakumbi - ngaphantsi kwayo iya kuhlala kuwe ezimbini! Ukuzalwa kobudlelwane, iintsapho okanye izihlandlo zokungavumelani kuyimfihlakalo, kwaye akufanelekile ukukhangela amagama entsikelelo okanye inkxaso evela kubahlobo apha. Ukungafani na imeko apho usengozini okanye isigqibo senxalenye sele sithathwe.
2. Impilo kunye nezifo
Ngaba uqaphele ukuba kungekudala kwanabantu abangaziwa ngemizuzu embalwa yokunxibelelana ebhasi okanye kumgca, bangenza abahlobo baze bafumane izinto eziqhelekileyo, bengathethi ngokukhawuleza ngezilonda? Kwabaninzi, le mxholo ibonakala iyona nto ebalulekileyo ebomini, ibangela umdla kunye novelwano kubantu, ukhangela umdla wabo kwi-Net nakwiTV, kwaye ngoko-ukhetha yonke imikhosi yobomi! Kwaye kuvela, yonke into iyilula - i-chakra ephuzi ixanduva lokukwazi ukujamelana nobunzima bemihla ngemihla, kodwa xa uqala ukukhononda ngempilo okanye ukuxoxisana nabanye, akunakuncedo kwaye ngokukhawuleza iphelile. Ukubuyisela i-chakra ye-yellow kwaye ungavumeli ukuba imikhosi yobomi ihambe inkunkuma, zama ukuxoxa ngezi ngxaki kuphela kubantu (iingcali) eza kukunceda kunyango lwakho.
3. Ingeniso kunye neendleko
Esinye isihloko esifanelekileyo esinokuyithatha incoko ayikho iyure enye - ingeniso yakho, ubunzima bezezimali okanye ukuchuma. Yaye mhlawumbi uyamangalisa ngoku, kutheni ungayixoxisanga ngakumbi? Ngoko, imeko yakho yezemali nayo inegunya layo, okanye ngokuchanekileyo - iseshini sakho semali. Kwaye xa uxoxa ngemibandela "yezinto eziphathekayo", ngoko uyayibhengeza kwaye uvumele umnxibelelwano ukuba "atyelele" imali yamandla akho. Ngaloo ndlela, ngexesha le ncoko, ngokwenene utshintshe impilo yakho yezemali kwabanye abantu okanye ngokugqithiseleyo, ukunikezela ngempumelelo kwimali kwi-interlocutor yakho! Kuphela, ke, ukuhluleka kwemali akunako "ukudluliselwa" kunoma ubani, kodwa ukuthetha ngabo, unokubanandisa ngokulula!
4. Iingcamango zabantwana
Akunandaba nokuba abantwana baneminyaka engakanani ubudala, badibaniswe nabazali babo ngemicu engabonakaliyo bonke ubomi babo. Kwaye unxibelelwano lwamandla lunamandla kunabo bonke! Kodwa emva kokuxoxisana nomhlobo wakho emsebenzini ekukhohliseni umntwana wakho esikolweni okanye ukhetha "umntwana ongenangqiqo" kwisiqingatha sesibini, ngaloo ndlela uphula umzila wakho wamandla kunye nokunciphisa umntwana ukhuseleko lwabazali. Kwaye nangona ukuba iingxoxo ezinjalo zibonakala ziyinkozo yentliziyo yakho, ziya kuthintela kuphela imeko ngendlela ewonakalisayo kwaye ikwazi ukuphonsa iingxaki ezongezelelweyo ebomini bakho kubantwana. Kodwa ookhokho bethu bekunene xa besifundisa ukuba singathathi inkunkuma kwindlu ...