Xa lo mbhangqwana ucwangcise ukukhulelwa umntwana, oku akuthethi ukuba umama olindelekileyo uya kuhlala ekwazi ukuqonda ukuqala kokukhulelwa. Emva koko, ebomini akufani nakwiifilimu: xa iqanda lixiliswa, isicupunu , isicidosis kunye nokuqala . Ukuze ufumane ukuqala kokukhulelwa, kufuneka uphulaphule kakuhle umzimba wakho.
Ngokomzekelo, abanye abafazi "bavuke" isondlo kwisiveliso esithile. Kungaba nantoni na: ivenkile zaselwandle, iziqhamo, inyama, ushokolethi njalo njalo. Ibhinqa iyakuthandayo isitya sayo esiyithandayo ngokubanzi, ngaphandle kokuzibona. Ngamanye amaxesha ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa kuvela iimvakalelo ezingaqhelekanga ezinokudityaniswa nokukhathala, ukuhamba, ukutyhefuza njalo njalo. Kodwa le nto ingaba yimiqondiso yokuqala ye "imeko enomdla".
Ukukhulelwa kubonakala nini?
Njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, ngokuqhelekileyo oku kungaphantsi kwenyanga, akukho mpawu ekhethekileyo. Iimpawu zokukhulelwa ziqala ukuvela kwiveki yesibini okanye yesithathu, xa iqanda elichumayo lizama ukulungelelanisa nodonga lwesisu. Kule meko, umfazi unemvakalelo engaqhelekanga engaqhelekanga ekukhulelweni kokuqala. Ukongezelela, ukuvakalelwa okunjalo kuhamba kunye nokukhutshwa kwamanzi okuphuma kumfazi. Oku kungabonisa isongelo sokupheliswa kokukhulelwa.
Izimpawu eziphambili ezibonakalisa ukukhulelwa zi:
- Ukukhathala nobuthathaka . Umfazi uziva ehlala elele kwaye uhlala efuna ukulala kwindawo ethile.
- Ukungabikho . Abaninzi abafazi abakhulelweyo banokugula, kwaye ubuthongo babo bubuhlungu kakhulu, apho banako ukuva nangona izandi ezingabonakaliyo.
- Isihlunu kunye nokunyaniseka . Esi sibonakaliso asikho isigunyaziso, kodwa sisenzeka kuma-50 ekhulwini kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo.
- Ukunyuka kwexesha . Esi sibonakaliso sisona saqala kwaye siqhelekileyo phakathi kwayo yonke impawu zokukhulelwa.
- Ukunyuka kwesisu . Ekukhulelweni umzimba ulungiselela "umgcini" womntwana, ngoko ke izilonda zeemfesi ziqala ukwandisa kancane, ukuba emva kokuzalwa kuzo ubuninzi obaneleyo obisi lomntwana lungaphuhliswa.
Yonke le miqondiso iyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ingasongela impilo kamama kunye nosana lwakhe oluzayo. Kodwa zikhona ezinye iimpawu ezingenanto engenakonakala njengokuba zibonakala ziqala.
Xa isongelo sokukhulelwa kwesisu ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, umfazi unokuba neengcambu zokutsala kwisisu, esiqinisa xa uhamba okanye uhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kule meko, kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza ugqirha oya kuhlola kwaye aqinisekise isizathu seentlungu. Ngokuzimeleyo ukulwa nemeko ephuculweyo akuyimfuneko, kuba kunokwenzeka ukulimaza umntwana.
Ungabala njani ukuqala kokukhulelwa?
Akukho mntu unokugqiba ngokuchanekileyo xa kutyalwa iqanda. Ngoko ke, ukukhulelwa kuthathwa njengokuba kususela ngomhla wokuqala wokugqibela kwesithanga. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba inyanga yokugqibela yayinombalo e-3, kwaye ngomhla wesi-2 kwinyanga elandelayo ufumene ukuba ukhulelwe, ngoko kuvela ukuba ngomhla we-10 useneveki yokukhulelwa njalonjalo.
Ukuze uphuhliso oluqhelekileyo olupheleleyo, umntwana unamaviki angama-40. Kodwa isakhiwo somzimba ngamnye wesibini ngumntu ngamnye, kwaye umntwana angabonakala ehlabathini ngaphambili okanye kamva.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, uqala ukuziva ukhulelwe xa umzimba ufuna. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka okokuqala ngosuku lokuqala emva kokuchumisa, xa umfazi engaboni kakuhle umama kwaye ezama ukufumana iimpawu ezithile zokukhulelwa.
Ukuba uceba umntwana kwaye uzimisele ukuqala kokukhulelwa, ngoko kufuneka ufunde kwangaphambili oko ukwenza ngokulandelayo:
- qalisa ukutya ngokufanelekileyo;
- bayeke ukutshaya;
- sichitha ixesha elingakumbi emoyeni omtsha;
- ukunciphisa ingozi yesifo;
- meleza u khuselo;
- ukulala emva kwexesha leshumi ntambama.
Xa ufumene ukuba kungekudala uza kuba nosana, kuyafaneleka ukunyamekela impilo yakho kunye nesimo sengqondo. Akuyi kuba luncedo kuwe kuphela, kodwa ngekamva eligqithiselayo phantsi kwentliziyo yakho.