Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa kwiziprofeto zeencwadi zephupha, kuba ihlabathi elimangalisayo lamaphupha lingathi ngandlela-thile lithini ukuba lindelwe ntoni kwikamva. Ukuze uqonde ukuba ungalindela ingxaki, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, yonke into iya kuphumelela ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukuba uyikhumbule ngokucophelela yonke imiba yombono uze uyihlalutye. Le yodwa indlela yokuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umlilo wendlu yomnye umntu uphupha ngayo, kwaye unokuwuqonda njani.
Umlilo nomsi babengakhange baqwalaselwe iimpawu zento elungileyo, ngokuchaseneyo, yiyomso yeengxaki zexesha elizayo kunye neengxaki.
Yintoni enokuyilindela ukuba umlilo endlwini engazange ibe nephupha?
Okokuqala, zama ukukhumbuza ukuba uyazi ngokwenene abantu abahluphekileyo embonweni ovela emlilweni. Ngokuqhelekileyo iphupha elinjalo lithetha ukuba umntu kufuneka a lumkise abahlobo bakhe ngeengxaki ezizayo, ezinxulumene nobunzima bezinto eziphathekayo, kunye nokutshabalalisa okunokwenzeka. Ngoko ke, ukuba amaxhoba omlilo ayaziwayo, zi lumkise malunga neengxaki ezinokuthi ziqale zonke kanye.
Ukuba umntu ubone iphupha ngomlilo endlwini engaqhelekanga kunye nabantu abangaqhelekanga kuye, le nto inokuba ngumlumkiso kuye malunga nabasebenzi abaza kubakho emsebenzini abangayi kuzisa nto. Kule meko, simele sikhumbule oko kusitshisileyo, kunye nendlela umlilo usasazeka ngayo. Ilangatye, uphahla kunye nokufakwa kwesakhiwo esiye saziswa, kuthetha ukuba ukutshintsha emsebenzini kuya kuchaphazela wonke umntu, kuba baya kuphuma "phezulu", oko kukuthi, kwi-CEO okanye umnini-nkampani. Ukuba umlilo awubonakali, kodwa umlilo ubonakala ngokukhawuleza ngumsi womsi, ngoko intetho inokuthi ihambe ngeenguqu ezintle kodwa ezincinane.
Kutheni ufuna ukuphupha umlilo komnye umntu?
Kodwa le phupha, nangona ayinakubizwa ngokuba yintsimi efanelekileyo, sele isele izibikezelo ezilungileyo. Isalathiso esinjalo sibonisa ukuba inkathazo, ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kwenzeka, kodwa iya kuba yintsholongwane. Xa uguqulela ubuthongo, zama ukukhumbula ukuba umlilo upheliswe ngokupheleleyo, kuba ukuba oko kwenzeka, zonke iingxaki ziya kulungiswa ngexesha elifutshane, kwaye aziyi kuba nemiphumo.
Xa umntu ephupheni ngomlilo uyaqonda ukuba ukutshabalalisa akunakukwazi ukuhlalwa kuyo, nangona yonke imizamo, kunokucingelwa ukuba ebomini bakhe i- black streak iya kuqala kwaye yonke imizamo yokutshintsha imeko ibe ngcono. Eli phupha liyisilumkiso esithunyelwa kumntu ukuze abe nexesha lokuthatha isenzo kwaye abe nesibindi ngaphambi kokuqala kwengxaki. Xa uyibona, kufuneka uthathe isenzo ukunceda
Ukuphupha umlilo kwindlu yomnye umntu kwaye ungazami ukwenza nantoni na, uyona uphawu olubi. Ngokuqhelekileyo umbono onjalo ubonisa ukuba kufuneka kuhlawulwe ingqalelo kubantu, kunye nokunika ixesha lokunceda izihlobo zabo nabahlobo. Umlilo wendlu enye unokukhokelela ekusasazeni komlilo, ngoko ke xa ephusheni umntu akazami ukwenza nantoni na ukunceda, kwaye uthetha isilumkiso ekukhunjini nokuzingca. Ezi zimpawu zingalimaza, kuba umgaqo we-boomerang awusayi kucinywa.
Kodwa ukujonga indlela ummandla weentshaba okanye umqhudelwano otshaya ngayo ephupheni, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kuthetha ukutshatyalaliswa ngokupheleleyo komntu. Eli bali ibonakala ngokugqithiseleyo ngabamashishini okanye abathandi abaziyo ukuba banomdla. Lo mbono uthembisa isisombululo esiyimpumelelo kwimeko yesibambano. Ukumbona unako ukuthembela kwinto yokuba kungekudala umchasi uya kulahlekelwa, kodwa uya kuphumelela.