Kubazali, abantwana baya kuhlala bengazi, bafuna iingcebiso kunye nenkxaso. Ngethuba lexesha, ngamnye wethu uza kule nto kwaye uyayifumana, ngakumbi emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana bethu. Kodwa kukho ebomini kunye nexesha xa ufuna ukuzinyulula yonke into ngokwakho, ukuvuyisa ekukhuleni kwakho nokuzimela. Ewe, ewe, sithetha malunga nobudala obunzima nobunzima-iselula.
Njengoko abantwana bekhula, abazali banezizathu ezininzi zokukhathazeka, ngokukodwa, ukuvela kobomi babantu kubantwana babo: i-languid ihamba phantsi kwenyanga kude kube ngokuhlwa, ukuhamba okude kunye nokumanga emnyango nokunye. Abazali bamantombazana bakhathazeke ngokukodwa, okokuthi, ngokusemthethweni, akunasisombululo.
Ewe, ukuba intombi yakho inxulumane noontanga - lo mfanekiso kunye neliso liyazi kakuhle, kwaye ngokubanzi uhlalise. Kodwa ukuba izinto ziyahluke kwaye intombi yakho idibana nomntu omdala kunye nendoda? Ukuqala kokusabela kweninzi lwabazali kwiindaba ezilolo hlobo kuya kuthi, kunene, kuyotya. Ingqondo ephosakeleyo "isinceda" idonsa imifanekiso, apho umfo angahendwa kuyo yonke imiba yomalume ogqithiseleyo igazi. Kodwa ungagxothi kwizigqibo kwaye ungenzi "ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza". Izenzo ezinobungozi ezingenakunceda kuphela ukusixazulula ingxaki, kodwa zichaphazela kakhulu ubuhlobo bakho nentombi yakho.
Iingcebiso kubazali beentombi
Sinikeza iingcebiso ezininzi ukukunceda ukulungisa imeko:
- Akukho mqathango owamnqabela ukuba adibane nomntu akhethiweyo kwifom yeqela - into kuphela oya kuphumeza ngale ndlela kuwukulunga nomntwana ngokwakhe;
- kuthetha nentombi yakho ngokungenakuphilisa, ngohlobo lwakho lonke, imizwelo, ithoni, ukukwazisa ukuba unobungane. Ngohlobo oluqinileyo, zama ukufumana imibuzo enokukukhathaza kakhulu, umzekelo, ubude babo buye "buye" bude kangakanani;
- Zama ukuba ngumhlobo wakho womhlobo, kwaye ngoko ke uya kumcebisa ukuba uza kuza kuwe, kungekhona kumantombazana ofanayo. Mxhase kwaye akukho mzekelo ungacingi okanye udibanise ngomoya: "Ndixelele";
- uthethe naye ngobomi besondo, ukuba awuzange wenze oko ngaphambili. Uya kumangaliswa, kodwa kwixesha lethu le-Intanethi kunye nokufikelela okungenamkhawulo kolwazi, amantombazana amaninzi akholelwa kwiingcamango ezithandwayo malunga nobulili nokukhulelwa , njengokuthi "ukususela okokuqala akukho nto eyenzekayo" njalo njalo. Ukuba inyaniso yesondo sele sele iyenzeka, musa ukwenza oku kube yintlekele, kungcono ukuthatha intombazana kwi-gynecologist yoviwo lokuqala lokukhusela ;
- uzama ukufumana intshukumo yentombi yakhe - ngokuphindaphindiweyo phantsi kwengqondo enokuqala, ethatyathwe ngabafana abaphakanyisiweyo ngenxa yothando, iminqweno elula ifana 'nokuziphindisela' ngaphambili, ukubonisa abahlobo. Ukuba intombazana ikhulile kwintsapho engaphelelanga, mhlawumbi ukuba umntu omdala uya kukhangela ubaba, engayifumana kulwalamano kunye nokuthandana ekulahlekeni ebuntwaneni;
- Zama ukuqhelana nomhlobo wentombi yakho-ngendlela ephosakeleyo, zama ukufumana injongo yakhe. Ungabonakali ubugwenxa obucacileyo kwaye ungaceli ukuba ushiye intombi yakho yodwa.
Khumbula ukuba ngoku yena lo mntu ungaphantsi, kwaye mhlawumbi nakwimilinganiselo emfutshane kakhulu kunoko, ngoko, izicwangciso zakho akufanele zibandakanye ukungquzulana naye; - ukuba umntu uya kumnxibelelwano - oku sele kusisiginci esihle. Kungenzeka ukuba awunalo udidi oludala, le nyaniso inokuchaphazela kakhulu ukusekwa koqhagamshelwano kunye nobudlelwano bobuhlobo naye;
- kuchaza ukuba kunokwenzeka iintlanganiso ekhaya lakho, ingakumbi ukuba intombi yakho inegumbi - vumela ukuba kube bhetele kwaye "phantsi kolawulo";
- kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ungakhathazeki! Ulwalamano nolwahlukileyo lwesini luyindawo ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni.