Namhlanje, imfuneko engakaze ibe yinto egcinwa kwiincwadi kunye nokuqeqesha ngokukhula komntu kunye nokuzihlakulela. Amakhulu abantu abathembekileyo "abaqeqeshi" abasemakhaya baye banceda ekufumaneni intsingiselo yobomi, ngokudala umfanekiso obalulekileyo, ukugcina umtshato nokufumana izigidi zokuqala.
Kodwa ngaba lufanelekile, belahlekelwe ukholo ngokwamandla abo, bethengisa iincwadi zabo kunye neidiski kwaye banike imali yokugqibela yokucebisana nabo bakholelwa kwiinguqu ezonwabileyo? Ngelizwi, lixesha lokubonakalisa iimephu kwaye ukhumbule ezo zithixo zabantu abafundisa "indlela yokuphila ngokufanelekileyo", kodwa bona ngokwabo abazange bakwazi ukujamelana nalo!
Umbhali wencwadi ethi "Indlela yokugcina umtshato" uDerek Medina wabulala umfazi wakhe waza wathumela isithombe kwi-Facebook!
Kule nto akunakwenzeka ukukholelwa, kodwa kuvela ukuba umntu ocebisana naye ngamawaka yabafundi wayengakwazi ukugcina umtshato wakhe. UDerek wayelokhu esongela umfazi wakhe-uJennifer Alfonso wayemgxeka, ukuba wayenomdla wokumshiya. Kwimihla engabonakaliyo ka-Agasti ka-2013 kwenzeka. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokubulala, umbhali wezona zinto zithengisa umfazi wakhe ofileyo kwifowuni yakhe, emva koko wabeka isithombe kwi-intanethi yentlalo kunye nesayineli:
"Ndiya ejele okanye ndiza kubulawa ngenxa yokubulala umfazi wam. Ndiyakuthanda nonke, ndiya kukukhumbula. Ziqaphele kwaye ubukele iindaba malunga nam ... "
Ngendlela, incwadi yakhe inokuthengwa namhlanje!
UDale Carnegie wafa yedwa
"Indlela yokuphumelela abahlobo kunye nempembelelo yabantu", "Indlela yokuyeka ukukhathazeka nokuqala ukuhlala", "Indlela yokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa ngomsebenzi" - ezi ncwadi sele sele zibe zifundo zakudala, kwaye asiyi kukholwa ukuba awunamandla omnye wabo.
Ngoko, ngaba uyazi ukuba xa incwadi ethi "7 ilawula ubomi bentsapho obonwabileyo" yayilungiselelwe ukupapashwa, yahamba nomtshato wakhe wokuqala, owathi, ngenxa yezizathu ezicacileyo, yayigcinwe imfihlo? Wahluleka ukugcina imali yakhe - bathatyathwa ngumfazi wakhe wesibini. Kwaye akazange akwazi ukuphumelela abahlobo nokuba. Kuyaziwa ukuba uDale Carnegie uxhathwe ngesifo sikaHodgkin, nangona kukho amahemuhemu ukuba wazibulala. Emva kokufa ngoNovemba ka-1955 kwiphephandaba elithi "iNew York Times" yabonakala yinto engafanelekanga, ekhankanywe ngabantu abangaba ngamawaka angama-500 abaye bancedwa yiinkqubo zesistim-ishukumisi. Kodwa, maye, akukho mntu wayefuna ukuza kumthendeleko - uCarnegie wangcwatywa nje kuphela.
UMaria Montessori wanikela unyana wakhe ukuba akhuliswe kwintsapho yasemaphandleni
Namhlanje, i-"Montessori system" enye yezindlela ezine zokufundisa eziye zafunyanwa emhlabeni wonke, kwaye izigidi zamama zizisebenzisa imihla ngemihla ekukhuliseni abantwana babo. Kodwa, kuvela, kwi-biografi yalo mfazi ofanelekileyo, naye, kukho amaphepha ayengacingi. Ngoko, eneminyaka engama-28, uMaria wakhulelwa kunye naye, uDkt. Giuseppe Montesano. Isiphakamiso "izandla kunye nentliziyo" ngoko akazange amkele, kwaye esikhundleni sayo-isivumelwano somlomo ngenxa yemisebenzi yesayensi nezentlalo ukuze kuhlanganiswe umanyano wokomoya (namhlanje uya kuthiwa ngumtshato wesityezelo). Eyesaba ukuwa kwegama, uMaria wanika le nkwenkwe uMario imfundo kwenye yeentsapho zasemaphandleni, apho wafika ngokutyelela ngeveki. Kuyaziwa ukuba xa uMario ekhulile, wamthabatha kuye waza wambiza naye. Unyana oyinyaniso, uMontessori wammkela phantse ngaphambi kokufa kwakhe, ebiza umfana umntakwabo okanye umntwana owamkelweyo.
Umbhali wencwadi ethi "Umntwana Nokunyamekela" UBenjamin Spock wayengenakufumana ulwimi olufanayo nabantwana bakhe!
Uthi, umcengezi ngaphandle kweebhothi? Kodwa eqinisweni, phantse indlela eya kwenzeka ngayo. Kuyaziwa ukuba ebusika ka-1998 iqabane lesibini likatitshala wezilwanyana lifuna imali ngokukhawuleza ukuze lonyango. Kwakudingeka ukuqokelela malunga namawaka angama-16, okwakuboniswa ukuba isingenakulinganiswa nentsapho. UNksz Morgan uvakalise kwiphephandaba elithi "Times", ngesibheno: "Uncedo lokuhlawula unyango logqirha. Wayekhathalela bonke ubomi bakhe kubantwana bakho! ". Emva koko abafundi baqaphelisisa umfazi ukuba unyana onokumnakekela. Enyanisweni, uMariya sele sele ebabuze, kodwa uMichael, umqeshwa weYunivesithi yaseChicago kunye noJohn omncinci - umninimzi wekampani yokwakha eLos Angeles, wenqaba ngokucacileyo, wamcebisa ukuba anikele uyise kwikhaya lokunakekelwa, ukuze anakekelwe nguRhulumente!
U-Allen Carr wabulawa ngumhlaza wamaphaphu
UAllen Carr nguye umbhali weencwadi ezizinikele ekukhululweni kokuxhomekeka kotywala, ubunzima obukhulu kunye nama-phobias athile. Kodwa mhlawumbi umthengi ogqwesileyo kakhulu owaziwayo owamzisela umhlaba jikelele kunye nokuthandwa kwaba yincwadi - "Indlela Elula Yokuyeka Ukubhema." Emva kokuba uCarr wathi: "Ekubeni nditshiza icuba lam lokugqibela engama-23 edlulileyo, ndandonwabile kakhulu emhlabeni. Namhlanje ndivakalelwa. " Ulonwaba aluzange lugcine ixesha elide - ehlobo lika-2006 lwalukwazi ukuvuvukala emiphakeni, ngenxa yokuba akazange aphile ngaphambi kobusika ...
Umbhali weencwadi ezingama-20 ngovuyo, u-Choi Yong-hee wazibulala
Umlobi waseMzantsi Korea uCoi Yong-hee wafundisa iminyaka emininzi indlela yokuphila ngokuvuya emva koko. "Umshumayeli Wolonwabo" - abafundi bakhe abanombulelo babebizwa ngegama elincinci ngeencwadi ezingabalulekanga. Kwaye ke, njengebhokisi elivela eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, kwavela iindaba zokuba umfazi oneminyaka engama-63 ubudala uye wagqiba ekubeni acwangcise iingxelo kunye nobomi obonwabileyo, kwaye kwanenkampani enomyeni wakhe oneminyaka engama-72 ubudala! Yiloo nto abhalayo kwinqaku lakhe lokuzibulala:
"Ugqirha wandixelela ukuba kwakukho amanzi amaninzi kwimiphunga, ngenxa yoko, kunzima ukuba ndiphefumule. Intliziyo yam isifo. Andizange ndifune ukuhlala esibhedlele esineziyobisi. Kwaye andinako ukuma iintlungu. Umyeni wam wayengenakuvumela ukuba ndife ndedwa. Ngoko sanquma ukushiya eli lizwe kunye. "
URobert Atkins wafa ngenxa yokunyanya
URobert Atkins ungumfokazi ovela eUnited States kwaye, mhlawumbi, umbhali wenkqubo yesondlo eyaziwayo kakhulu esekelwe kwi-intakeko ye-carbohydrates. Ewe, uyakhumbula - udle amanqatha kwaye ulahlekelwe isisindo? Ngoko, namhlanje isizathu esisemthethweni sokufa kwakhe ngomnyaka wamashumi angama-72 wobomi bakhe kukulimala kwe-craniocerebral ngenxa yokuwela kwi-pavement edibeneyo. Kodwa emva konyaka, iThe Wall Street Journal yakwazi ukufikelela enyanisweni ngokushicilela ulwazi olumangalisa ukusuka kwingxelo yonyango eyimfihlo echaza ukuba ibangela yokuwa kwi-pavement ephosakeleyo yintliziyo yesifo, ngenxa yesiphumo senhliziyo kunye ... nokukhuluphala!
Kubonakala ukuba abathengisi kunye nosapho lwabafileyo bazama ngamandla ukufihla le nyaniso kwaye babecala ngokuchasene ne-autopsy, kodwa ngoku kuyaziwa namhlanje ukuba ngaphambi kokufa ugqirha-nutritionist walinganisa iikhilo 117 kwaye waba neengxaki zempilo ezinzulu.