Unyoko olungumama lukhangele phambili xa umntwana eqala ukuhamba , ehleli kwaye ekhuluma. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo abazali abaneminyaka emine bayachukumiseka kwaye bathi xa nje umntwana esasecacile kwaye ekhulile, kulula kakhulu kuye. Ubudala begulane buhlala ixesha eli-3.5-4 leminyaka. Ngeli xesha, bonke abazali banomuvo ongenakunceda, kuba umntwana uqala ukubuza imibuzo eninzi kwisiganeko ngasinye kunye namaxesha amaninzi ngosuku.
Yintoni abantu abadala abajamelana nayo?
Njengomthetho, ukuqala kweli xesha elimangalisayo ebomini komntwana ngamnye lilinganayo. Uqala ukubuza loo mibuzo ekuzilungiselela yona xa ukhulelwa. Into yokuqala into efunwa ngumfana omncinci yimpendulo kumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu kuye: indlela eya kuba ngayo. Kakade ke, amabali malunga ne-storks kunye neklabishi namhlanje ayithandwa kakhulu kunokuba sithetha iminyaka engamashumi amabini edlulileyo. Kodwa abantwana banamhlanje bayayinqabela le ndlela, kuba ixesha lokuqwashisa nokukhula lifutshane kakhulu.
Emva kwemibandela ebalulekileyo inkwenkwezi iqala ukuqhelana nehlabathi ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye unomdla kuyo yonke into engavunyelwe, ayixutywanga okanye ikhutshwe. Kuthetha ukuthini oko? Asinakuqaphela ngokukhawuleza ukuba abantwana banokukhumbula njani amagama angaqhelekanga avakala ezitratweni, kwi-kindergartens okanye kwiikrini zethelevishini. Ngaloo nto, akumangalisi ukuba kungekudala emva koko uza kucelwa ukuba uchaze intsingiselo yamagama afana "nombulali", "gay".
Emva kwexesha umntwana ukhathazeka ngakumbi ngenxa yeenjongo zakhe zolwazi. Kufika ixesha lemibuzo yefilosofi. Uza kufumana imibuzo malunga nokufa, ukukhula, okubi nokulungileyo. Olu vavanyo lunzima kunzima, kuba kufuneka uxelele ngokulula nangokulula njengoko kunokwenzeka. Ngaphandle koko, ngomgaqo we-matryoshka uya kubuzwa imibuzo eninzi.
Ukuba konke oku akukwenkqisayo kwaye kukubamba ngokungenazi, ke isigaba sokugqibela asikafiki. Kwiminyaka ekhulileyo, uya kufuneka ufunde ihlabathi kwakhona. Imibuzo enobulumko: iimpawu zobomi bezilwanyana ezahlukeneyo, iziganeko zendalo. Apha awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwe-encyclopedia yabantwana.
Imithetho yokuziphatha yabazali
Kwiimpendulo ezimbalwa ezithathu kwiimbuzo ezikhohlakeleyo kwintsana nawuphi na umzali oza kuqala ukufumana uncedo aze aphephe intetho. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba akufanelekanga ngexesha lokuphendula iingxaki zabantu abadala. Iingcali zengqondo ziqwalasela ukuba ukuziphatha kwabafazi kunye nabantwana kuthintela ngqo ukuqonda komntwana ngokubanzi kwehlabathi: ingaba uya kuba nolwazi olunjani, umlinganiselo wokholo lwakhe kubazali, umnqweno wokufunda. Nazi iingcebiso eziphambili ezinikezelwa ngcali.
- Imibuzo "emidala" kufuneka iphendulwe ngendlela efanayo, kunye nabo bonke abanye. Ngomntwana, nje uyazi ihlabathi kwaye akaqapheli ukuba yonke imeko yenzeke. Kodwa ukuba uyazikhusela ngokukhawuleza izihloko okanye uqalekise, unokwenza ngendlela engafanelekanga ngayo imbono yobudlelwane phakathi kwesondo.
- Njalo qwalasela inqanaba lophuhliso lomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abadala banikela ulwazi oluthe xaxa kunye nolwazi olucacileyo. Ngokomzekelo, kuyinqweneleka ukukhupha imibuzo malunga nokufa okanye ukuchaneka ngokubalulekayo: yonke into isenokwenzeka
okanye amaqabunga asemva, kodwa ngelo xesha uhlala ubomi obomvu kwaye ubomi obude kakhulu. Umsebenzi wakho kukuphendula kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukugxininisa okulungileyo. - Ukuba awukwazi impendulo, ungalokothi unganqikaze ukukhangela iimvuthuluka kule ncwadi kunye. Umzali uya kuhlala esithixo xa eba ngumgangatho omnye kumntwana kwaye uqala ukumfundisa, kwaye akafundisi.
- Ngamanye amaxesha i-crumb ingacela umbuzo ofanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ufuna ukuqinisekiswa nje. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana uya kukuvavanya ngamandla, zama ukuphendula enye into. Kunokwenzeka ukuba kodwa uya kuthukuthela aze aphendule ngokuchanekileyo.