Ukuhlanjululwa yindoda

Phakathi kwenani elikhulu lemikhuba yemilingo, ukuthandwa kakhulu kunandipha ngokuvumiswa ngumntu. Ngombulelo kuye, lo mfazi unethuba lokufumanisa indlela intanda yakhe enxulumene ngayo, injongo yakhe yangempela kunye nolunye ulwazi olubaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuhlanjululwa ngamakhadi kumntu

Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobuvumo, kodwa siya kuhlala ngokuchanekileyo kwenye yazo. Olu khetho lufanelekile kulabo bafazi abangenakukhetha ukuba yintoni na umntu ukuba aqhubeke nobudlelwane obukhulu, xa kukho abalandeli abaninzi. Okokuqala, kufuneka uthabathe ama-4, uqikelele umntu ngamnye kwaye udibanise kakuhle. Kuzo enye ngomnye, zibeke zonke ezinye iikhadi. Ngoku khawuqwalasele umqolo womyeni ngamnye kwaye uqaphele ukuba yeyiphi i-suit suit:

• iimbungu - umntu uyakuthanda;
• iingqungquthela - lo mntu uya kukunika ubomi obungakhathali, ngokwemali;
• iiklabhu - ukusuka kulolu khethiweyo ungalindela kuphela iinyembezi nokudumala;
• ukuphakama - kule ndoda uza kuba nabantwana.

Okunye ukuvumisa ngobudlelwane nomntu

Olu hlobo lokuvumisa lunokukunceda ukwazi ukuba luhlobo luni lobuhlobo bomntu luya kuba kunye nendoda ethile. Kuye, kufuneka uthathe inaliti e-2, efuna ukugcoba, umzekelo, sebenzisa ukhilimu okanye ioli yeoli. Bafake kwisitya samanzi kwaye ujonge ukuziphatha:

• ukuba iinaliti zidibene, ngoko kuya kuba ne-scandals eqinile kunye neengxabano ebudlelwaneni;
• ukuba iinaliti zixhunyiwe, ngoko ulwalamano lwakho luya kuba lukhulu kwaye lunaphakade;
• ukuba iinaliti ziye zahlakazeka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kuthetha ukuba umntu uphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho.

Ukuqagela ngeemvakalelo zabantu

Ukuxoxwa kwenhlanhla kudala kakhulu, basebenzisa oookhokho bethu kude ukuba bafunde ngeemvakalelo zeqabane. Ndiyabulela kule nhlanhla unokufunda ukunyaniseka kwemvakalelo yomthandi. Kufuneka uchithe kwiinyanga ezikhulayo phakathi kobusuku. Ngaphambi kokuba udibanise, gxila kwaye ucinge ngomthandi wakho. Emva koko kufuneka uthathe amabhandlela amabandla e-2 uze ubhale amanqaku kuwo: enye iya kuthetha wena, enye. Amakhandlela kufuneka abekwe ngapha nangapha, kwaye phakathi kwabo abeke nayiphi na imvalo yomtshato. Khanyisa ikhandlela uze ugcine indlela yokuziphatha ngayo:

• ukuba ngaba bathambekele komnye nomnye, iimvakalelo zakho zidibeneyo;
• ukuba ngaba ngokuphambene noko kunxaxha komnye nomnye, ngoko ulwalamano lufanele lugcinwe;
• ukuba ikhandlela elinye lilingane, kwaye elinye liyakunamathela kulo, ke lo luhlobo olungathandekiyo uthando.

Awudingi ukucima ikhandlela, kufuneka zitshise zodwa. Unako ukuphosa amatye ekhandlela kwikhandlela, kuba sele usufumene olufunayo.