Iingcamango ze-overtones ezithandanayo ziye zabonwa nje ngokungabikho uthando nothando, umnqweno wokuqonda iimfuno zabo ezifihlakeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, amaphupha aphikisayo ayenzeka kumadoda nabasetyhini, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baneminyaka yobudala kunye nokwaneliseka ngokwesini. Iindlela ezimbalwa ezinengqiqo ziya kunceda ukuqonda ukubonakala nokubaluleka kwaloo hlobo lwamaphupha ebusuku.
Yiluphi uphupha?
Izinto ezinjalo ziyingxenye engalawulekiyo yobomi bomntu, nangona zibonakala ziyinyani. Isikhokelo sokuziphatha asikho kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngoko ke ziyakwazi ukunyaniseka, zinyanisekile, zenzeke kwaye ziyikrele. Into yefantasy ingaba ngabantu bokwenene okanye abalinganiswa bobuxoki (amaqhawe amafilimu kunye neencwadi). Kwimeko nayiphi na into, amaphupha aphikisayo ayengaphambuki kumgangatho oqhelekileyo. Zihlala zihlala zikhulile, kodwa zivakatye umntu ebomini ngobomi obuqhelekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko yomtshato, ukungabikho kunye nobukho bomlingani wesini.
Kutheni ufuna ukuphupha amaphupho angenangqondo?
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kodwa kungekho njalo, amaphupha aphikisayo aphethwe ngumsitho kunye neentlobano zesini. Emva kokuqhelana nefowuni, ifilimu, umsebenzi wokubhala kunye namava okuthandana, iimvakalelo eziqokelelweyo zingabangela "umbono obumnandi" ubusuku bombono. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngale ndlela, ingqondo engapheliyo yomntu ithatha indawo yokungabikho koqhagamshelwano lwezesondo, kwaye kwimeko apho amaphupha aphikisayo kunye nomxholo omnye ephupha, umntu unokuthetha ngeminqweno efihliweyo. Ukuba ebomini obuqhelekileyo nayiphi na inqwenela inqatshelwe, kukho ithuba eliphezulu lokuba liza kuthatha uhlobo lokulala.
Iphupha likaHrud
Ngokutsho kophando lwe-psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud, kwiphupha lomzimba, njengalowo nawuphi na, iimfuno ezifihliweyo zichazwe ngokucacileyo. Ziyakwazi ukuguqulwa njengemifanekiso, iguqulwe okanye ibonakale njengeminqweno ecacileyo yabantu. USigmund Freud wayekholelwa ukuba ukuba iphupha elinomxholo wesondo laliphupha, akusiyo ingozi eqhelekileyo, kwaye yintoni eyona nto inqongophalayo ekhuphukayo kwi-subconscious kaninzi kunoko. Oku akusebenzi nje kuphela kubomi obusondeleyo. Ukuzama ukuqonda oko kuthetha ukuthini, kulungele ukuphathwa njengephupha eliqhelekileyo.
Ingabangela njani iphupha lokukhukula?
Umbono webusuku unokungabi nantoni na into enokwenene, kodwa xa uzama ukuzama izinto ezintsha uze ungene kwi-subconscious yakho, abantu baqala ukuzibuza ukuba benze njani iphupha lokukhupha. Kule meko, iimeko ezibini zibalulekile: ezempilo kunye nemvakalelo. Kudala ngaphambi kokuba ulale, kufuneka ubale itiye, ikhofi kunye notywala, unelisekile ngesidlo sokutya, ukhuphe umzimba kunye nengqondo, uze ulale ekuhambeni ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye uvumeleke ukuba uzivelele . Kubalulekile ukucacisa ngokucacileyo imeko kunye nomlingani ozayo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndiyenze ngamaphupha angenangqondo?
Abantu abavame ukuphupha ngamaphupha aphikisayo, basebenzise le ngqungquthela. Musa ukwesaba ukubonakaliswa kwayo kokuqala, kodwa ukuba lowo uphuphayo uyakhathazeka ngokuziphatha kwakhe kumaphupha anjalo, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni uqala ukuxinwa, ingxaki ixazululwe ngokuyijonga ngaphandle. Yonke into eyenzekayo ibhalwa kwincwadi, kwaye ihlaziywa, ingabandakanyi imvakalelo kunye neentlobano zesini. Emhlabeni kuphuma zonke iingxaki kunye nezibandezelo ezibonakaliswe kwimifanekiso enomdla. Mhlawumbi, amaphupho asobukroti abonisa ukungabi nothando, ukungoneleliseki kunye neqabane-ke isisombululo kwingxaki sibonakala.
Indlela yokukrazula amaphupha aphikisayo?
Xa isizathu sifunyenwe, kwaye ingxaki ingagqitywanga, unokukhangela isisombululo sakho kuwe. Iphupha lamaphupha (kwaye ngokukodwa amaphupha amakhwenkwe angamaqabane) ahlala eshukunyiswa ngamava nemvakalelo. Umntu ngokwakhe uvuselela imbonakalo yabo ngeentlobano zesini, umzekelo, ukubukela iifilimu zothando ngentsuku okanye ebusuku. Umgangatho wobomi bobusuku kuya kunceda ukuphucula uhambo olubanzi ukusuka kwihlabathi langaphandle. Ubuncinane kwiyure kufuneka uwasuse zonke izixhobo, ubeke eceleni le ncwadi uze uhlalise kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupha okukhupha
Xa amaphupha asondeleyo angabonakalisi ukukhathala, ukunganeliseki, umnqweno, ungazama ukubanika ukutolika, njengento eqhelekileyo. Ubusuku nobudlova bunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba umntu uzama ukukhululeka kwingcinezelo ebomini ngokwenene kwaye ulungele ukusebenzisa amandla ukuphelisa ingxaki. Ukuphuka kwesondo somntu kubonisa ukungabonakali, kwaye izigcawu zokwaneliseka zibonisa ukuzithoba. Ukuzama ukuqonda iiphupha zamaphupha aphikisayo ngokuthandana kwabangqingili, ungacingi ukuba oko kukubonakalisa ukuthambekela kobungqingili, nje ebomini akukho bubele obwaneleyo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuvela njani iimfihlakalo ezifihlakeleyo kwihlabathi likaMorpheus, akufuneki ukoyika. Amanqaku alula: amaphupha kunye nenjongo yesondo i-10%. Abantu abadala bababona ubuncinane kanye ngenyanga kwaye oku kungabonakali nayiphi na inkxalabo okanye "ukungavamile". Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuqonda oko babone ebomini bokwenene kunye nomlingani kwaye ngaloo ndlela bahluke baze bacebise ubomi babo obusondeleyo. Kukho konke okunokwenzeka ukuba uzuze, ukuba uqonda iindlela kunye nezizathu.