Phantse bonke abameli bobulili obufanelekileyo bahlale bexhala malunga nombuzo wendlela yokuba ngumfazi ococekileyo? Emva koko, sithanda ukuthanda thina, xa sijonga kwisibuko, kwaye, kunjalo, njengabanye. Kwaye ngoko akunjalo ukuba bonke abafazi bafuna ukulungela ngokwabo, umyeni wabo, kunye nabahlobo. Ndifuna ukuziziva ndiyanelisekile. Kodwa yintoni na, le mfihlelo engaqondakaliyo kuyo wonke umntu onika? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kubonakala ngathi zonke iintombazana zizama ukwenza into efanayo, kodwa ngakwelinye icala kuvela ukuba iimeko ezihlukile kubo bonke, kunye neendlela zokufezekisa, nazo. Kodwa masibone ubuncinane ngokubanzi indlela umntu angaba ngayo, kwaye oko kufuneka kwenziwe ukwenjenjalo.
Indlela yokuba uphelele ngayo yonke into?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuthetha ukuba yinto efanelekileyo - le ntombazana enokuyenza enye into. Umzekelo, ugqoke kakuhle, okanye ulungiselele kakuhle. Hayi, le ntombazana, ukuba ithe iphelele, idibanisa zonke iimpawu ezilungileyo. Ugqoke kakuhle, kwaye upheka ngokuhlwaya, kwaye ufundiswa ngokwaneleyo, kwaye uyazi indlela yokuziphatha kuluntu, kwaye ube ngumfazi olungileyo. Mhlawumbi, ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba into edibeneyo idibanisa izinto ezininzi, kuba ininzi ayifumaneki. Kodwa ke kunjalo, kukho amantombazana ambalwa angathiwa alungile. Ngoko, makhe sijonge kwiingongoma ezifanelekileyo ukuba intombazana enhle ifane kwaye yintoni efunekayo.
Izambatho kunye nokwenza. Okokuqala, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba uphumelele ngaphandle. Ewe, le nto ayiyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa wonke umntu uyazi ukuba zidibene, okokuqala, ngeengubo, kwaye sele sele ziqwalasela ezinye iimpawu zomntu. Intombazana efanelekileyo iyazi indlela yokugqoka ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye yenza ukuzenzela ukwenzela ukugxininisa sonke isidima sayo kunye nokufihla. Kwaye ukubonakala kwayo, okunene, kuya kubakhokelela kumntu wonke, kodwa into eyona nto kukuzikholisa.
Umzobo kunye nempilo. Okwesibini, yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi kuwe, intombazana enhle kufuneka ibe nomfanekiso omhle. Wonke umntu ngoku uyazi ukuba imbonakalo ebonakalayo ibonakala ngathi, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu olungele ukunikela ngetroleta okumnandi ukuyijonga kwisibuko. Kodwa intombazana enqwenela ukuba yinto efanelekileyo, imele iholele indlela yokuphila enempilo, idlale imidlalo kwaye ikwazi ukuphika kwiminqweno engadingekile.
Ukuziphatha nabanye kunye nemfundo. Ukongezelela, intombazana enhle kufuneka ikwazi ukuziphatha. Imilinganiselo yakhe kufuneka ihlonishwe: ukumncumo omnandi, ukuzimisela ukunceda, ukuhlonipha. Kwaye akuncedi kuphela emsebenzini okanye ekhaya, kodwa ekhaya. Ulwalamano lwentsapho lungabikho nje uthando okanye uthando - iimvakalelo ezinempahla zikhawuleza, kodwa ziyahlonipha. Kwakhona, intombazana enhle imele ifundwe kakuhle kwaye ifundiswe - oku akufanele kuyiliwe, kunye nemilinganiselo echanekileyo.
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