Kunyaka ngamnye asikhona thina kuphela, kodwa nabantwana bethu bakhula. Yaye imini iya kufika xa inkwenkwe ijika iminyaka engama-13 ubudala. Eli lixesha elibaluleke kakhulu kubazali nomntwana. Ihlabathi labaselula liyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kwaye linemilinganiselo. Ngoko ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuqagela isiphi isipho oza kunika unyana wakho ngeli xesha lobomi bakhe. Kule minyaka, abafana basengozini kakhulu, badla ngokutshintsha imizwa yabo kwaye bafuna ukuziva bekhulile kwaye bazimeleyo. Isipho esingalunganga sinokukhubekiswa kwaye sixineke, kwaye isipho "sokukhawulela" singenza umntwana abe nomuvo wokungabi nantoni nokungaqondi. Ngoko ndimele ndinike unyana wam iminyaka engama-13? Okokuqala, kuya kuba kuhle ukukhumbula wena kunye nabahlobo bakho kule minyaka. Yintoni owaliphuphayo? Bafuna ntoni?
Indlela yokukhetha isipho esifanelekileyo kwonyana wakho iminyaka engama-13?
Isipho simele sigxininise ukubaluleka komntwana wakho kwaye sibonise uthando lwakho, kodwa ungakulibali ukuba ubuntwaba lixesha lokuba ngumntu, inkulumo "yakhe". Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuba into ekhethwe nguwe iya kuhambelana nexesha kunye nobulili bomntwana.
Ukuba ufuna ukumangaliswa kwaye wenze isipho sokuqala kwonyana wakho, kufuneka uqwalasele iimfuno zakhe kunye nomdla. Ukuba umntwana wakho usebenza, usebenza kwaye uyonwabela imidlalo, ngoko esinye sezipho ezingcono kakhulu kunoku: iikratshi , i-skis, i- snowboard , ibhola lebhola okanye ibhasikidi, i-rollers okanye ibhayisekile. Ukuba inkwenkwe yakho inomdla kwaye inika inzuzo kwisayensi, ngoko isipho sinokuba yi-telescope, incwadi enomdla okanye i-chess. Abazali, abanomntwana onokuthanda ukuyila kunye nokwenza, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba abaqulunqi abahlukahlukeneyo okanye iimodeli zeenqwelo zezixhobo baya kuvuyela le nkwenkwana. Kwakhona njengesipho kunoku: ikhamera, umdlali, ifowuni okanye i-console ye-game.
Ungalibali ukuba le nkwenkwe kule minyaka ibalulekile ekubukeni. Ukuthintela ukuvela kweenkomfa, kufuneka umncede ukuba akwazi ukubukeka kakuhle, agqoke iimpahla eziphathekayo, abe ngumntu. Mhlawumbi le lixesha apho kufuneka uhlaziye ikhabethe lakho lentombazana kwaye umfumane umtya okanye i-jeans ephathekayo ongayithandi nhlobo.
Khumbula ukuba abaneminyaka engama-13 abanamahlobo amaninzi, banokuba nenkampani yabo, ebaluleke kakhulu kubo. Ngako oko, ubukho bahlobo buyimfuneko yeholide. Musa ukusebenzisa le mini kuphela nosapho lwakho. Kule meko, isipho esihle kakhulu okanye isongezelelo siya kuba yinyuka ehlathini, ukuya kwindawo yokuzonwabisa, amathikiti ukuya kwikonti. Oku kuya kunceda ufumane ukuthembela kwenkwenkwe, ufunde ngakumbi abahlobo bakhe. Ukuba unxibelelana kakuhle kunye nolwazi lomntwana wakho, abanakukuxelela kuphela oko ukhetha isipho, kodwa unokukunceda ukulungiselela ukulungiselela iholide ngokwayo.
Yintoni engayi kuyilibala xa ukhetha isipho?
Xa ukhetha isipho sokuzalwa kwonyana wakho, ungalibali ibinzana elidumile: "Izipho zibonisa ukungabi nolwazi ngomnye nomnye". Yenza kucace kwonyana wakho ukuba akasekho mncinci, kodwa umfana, kwaye uyavuma kwaye uyayiqonda le nto, uyamhlonela kwaye uphulaphule uluvo lwakhe kunye nesifiso sakhe. Khumbula ukuba lo ngumntwana wakho kwaye akukho mntu uyamazi kangcono kunakho. Kuya kuba kuhle ukuba isipho siyakubonisa ingqwalasela yakho, unomdla kwaye uncede umntwana aqonde ukuba uyabelana naye. Kule meko, uya kukuphulaphula, uthembele kwaye wabelane ngamaphupha akhe, iingcamango ...
Ungakulibali ukubuyisela isipho sakho ngamazwi malunga nendlela onothando ngayo unyana wakho, ukuba uyamthanda kwaye unokuhlala ehlala uncike kuncedo lwakho, kuba naphezu kobugwenxa kunye nobugwenxa bakhe, abatsha abasemngciphekweni kwaye badinga inkxaso nenkxaso.
Usuku lokuzalwa liholide engakwazi ukuhlala ekumkumbulo yethu iimbono ezintle kwixesha elizayo. Ngoko masithande abantwana bethu kwaye sibavuyise!